BDSM with married women

[emme8]

Wife here, have not had the experience but have the fantasy/desire to be a sub. Since I have little experience I don't know yet to what degree. My hubby is the nice guy who does not have the personality to dominate the bedroom.

If he's a nice guy he might want to please you in the bedroom. He might be willing to stretch his limits for you. If not he might help you find a Dom you both like.

 

[SlowHandGentleTouch]

Doms are exciting as long as they are nice, safe, comfortable doms. Take command but be sensitive to your partners limits.

 

[pumperguy191]

Wife here, have not had the experience but have the fantasy/desire to be a sub. Since I have little experience I don't know yet to what degree. My hubby is the nice guy who does not have the personality to dominate the bedroom.

I can relate except reversed. My wife is in health care and it goes against her mindset to be dominant, unfortunately

 

[Howardstark1910]

I can relate except reversed. My wife is in health care and it goes against her mindset to be dominant, unfortunately

that is interesting, as I find that people in health care know how to hurt someone for their own benefit….

 

[pumperguy191]

that is interesting, as I find that people in health care know how to hurt someone for their own benefit….

I wish. I'm about to ask her if she will do it, she has previously had reservations about it

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Doms are exciting as long as they are nice, safe, comfortable doms. Take command but be sensitive to your partners limits.

That practically defines Dom. They dominate for your pleasure. True aftercare is the most important piece.

My Master and the Daddy he encourages me to play with are the best.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

I love to be dominated.

 

[lc69hunter]

All of my BDSM encounters the last 10 years have been with wives playing discretly.
I enjoy that they open up their nastiest desires as Submissives. Any wifes or Doms had similar experiances?

It is not only BDSM. When a married woman comes out to play, quite often it is to let loose and do and experience things she either could not, or would not, do with her husband

 

[thetiesthatbindme]

I have not actually done anything but have thought of it. Hubby and I have dabbled in BDSM but he is not really a dom. Still we have had some fun but I have wondered what it would be like with a true dom.

Its amazing with the right D. Truly freeing.

 

[Islander55]

Its amazing with the right D. Truly freeing.

I have had others telling me that and I can see how it could be very exciting. I do like when a man takes control and uses me like I want. The key is like I want so we need to have some chemistry and discussions so that he knows my boundaries and desires. I believe that this is basically how the Dom/sub dynamic works but I feel that I have not really given him control but let him know he can do what I want. I guess it is more of a mental perception on my part.

 

[thetiesthatbindme]

I will say that aside from my hard limits, my D has free reign over my body,despite what I might want. For example I don't really like water sports but if that's what Daddy wants,I have no choice. I want to please him,so I submit. If I refuse, or argue, I risk punishment, which some subs like, but I don't. I Want the praise for being a good girl and hopefully rewarded with what I want. But a good Dom will give you what you need.

 

[lit_ch3]

I have had others telling me that and I can see how it could be very exciting. I do like when a man takes control and uses me like I want. The key is like I want so we need to have some chemistry and discussions so that he knows my boundaries and desires. I believe that this is basically how the Dom/sub dynamic works but I feel that I have not really given him control but let him know he can do what I want. I guess it is more of a mental perception on my part.

I've had exactly one experience with this. I'd like to try again, but I can go either way - I think anyway. That makes it fun.

First and only time

Oh, and she was married....

 

[Islander55]

I've had exactly one experience with this. I'd like to try again, but I can go either way - I think anyway. That makes it fun.

First and only time

Oh, and she was married....

I am not sure being married makes any difference if she is into this or not. Certainly married women may have more experience and be more aware of what they want.

 

[MagicFlute]

Wife here, have not had the experience but have the fantasy/desire to be a sub. Since I have little experience I don't know yet to what degree. My hubby is the nice guy who does not have the personality to dominate the bedroom.

Hi. 51m Australia here. Message me if you'd like to discuss anything about being a sub. I've had several online Littles so could possibly help you out

 

[seekingAlpha]

I have had 4 submissive play partners that were married women in open relationships, and they were all very enthusiastic and excited to experience and explore submission. I would definitely do it again if I was not focused more on having long term relationships.

 

[CEOescape]

If he's a nice guy he might want to please you in the bedroom. He might be willing to stretch his limits for you. If not he might help you find a Dom you both like.

i am Vicki and I am with you emmeB

 

[CEOescape]

I have had a few married Sub/slaves over the years. In my experiences, most married young and to generally fine, loving husbands.... but as they got older and really understood themselves.. most of the ones ive been with realized that they needed something more, something different that their husband just wasnt cut out to provide. I have always had a great deal of respect for the husbands that worked with them and accepted his wife's needs... and let her find what she needed. Its a rare man that can love his wife so much that he can put aside his pride.

with Vicki looking on ,I have fantasies of being the husband if she want to explore deeper

 

[808guy]

Guilty

Lovely.

 

[james93]

Of the three women I've had a D/S relationship with, 2 have been married and were discreet, and the other woman was a divorcee

 

[Badguy4u]

All of my BDSM encounters the last 10 years have been with wives playing discretly.
I enjoy that they open up their nastiest desires as Submissives. Any wifes or Doms had similar experiances?

yes. Most at least recently have been MILFs and in responsible jobs. I guess looking for a release from life's stresses

 

[Badguy4u]

Wife here, have not had the experience but have the fantasy/desire to be a sub. Since I have little experience I don't know yet to what degree. My hubby is the nice guy who does not have the personality to dominate the bedroom.

Even if he was dominant, you probably wouldn't want a husband that you'd want to respect you, to dominate you and treat you as a submissive. Can be very humiliating for a submissive and most of the time, best with a stranger that you don't care what he thinks of you

 

[submissa]

Even if he was dominant, you probably wouldn't want a husband that you'd want to respect you, to dominate you and treat you as a submissive. Can be very humiliating for a submissive and most of the time, best with a stranger that you don't care what he thinks of you

Most of the time, domination does not include humiliation to such an extreme degree that the shame would be unbearable if practiced with someone other than a stranger. I would argue that getting these needs met by a stranger just because one is too ashamed to do so with existing partner(s) is a big red flag, not something to recommend as an ideal.

 

[2trains]

All of my BDSM encounters the last 10 years have been with wives playing discretly.
I enjoy that they open up their nastiest desires as Submissives. Any wifes or Doms had similar experiances?

I have been fortunate to have that interaction as well including couples. But for me its not "IM A DOM". When it really lasts its because you get to know each other and fulfilling needs/fantasies in the form needed. That satisfaction can take many forms, IRL, phone, video, sext.

 

[Lady2020]

Don't ask about golf.

 

[Badguy4u]

I get this. No experience either. But I took a shot at capturing my feelings on being submissive here:
https://literotica.com/s/mrs-type-a-loses-control-ch-01
It’s just a fantasy but writing it - and putting it out there - was cathartic.

Are you a type A? I've had two (lawyer and real estate manager) that asked me to dominate them. Apparently having to be dominant and the pressures of living as a mom and dominant position makes women crave being submissive occasionally. It's a fun release, and of course the orgasm is mind blowing for most type-A's that are treated as a sex slave