Best Way to Talk to Her?

[zpitt27]

I've recently joined a writing group in my area and I think one woman in the group is very pretty, but I'm not quite sure how to approach her.

I'm really not the best at talking. It takes me a long time to open up to other people to start a conversation. When it comes down to it, I prefer silence over small talk.

And from what I've seen of her so far, she seems rather introverted as well.

I really don't know the best way to approach her and get to know her better.

Any suggestions?

 

[VelvetSin]

Would it be reasonable to ask her out for a coffee after one of the meets to discuss something relevant about the writing group? You do have some common ground, so that's half the headache many need to overcome. As for how to talk to her, she's just a person. Talk to her like you would anyone else. Good luck!

 

[fuckmeat]

You don't have to talk to her as such, just be interested in her. Ask the kind of general questions that are appropriate for getting to know any new acquaintance. Be interested in her responses and encourage her to elaborate or share similar info about yourself. It shouldn't take long before she volunteers her relationship status and other stuff you want to know. Make sure you don't come across as too assessing though, if that makes sense.

As you've joined a group, as a first step try joining in the conversation when she chats with someone else. You already have stuff pertaining to the group to talk about, which is an advantage. That way she'll feel less pressured and/or singled out by you. If you like what you hear and get positive responses from her, you can start trying to catch her alone and get to know her better.

 

[viper2000]

2 Things
1. Try just saying hi.
2. If thats hard write to her its a writing group after all.

 

[kevlar11]

Zpitt, an unfortunate fact of life is that if you want to meet girls you are going to need to be a little outgoing. Women don't often come and just throw themselves into your arms, and if they do they probably aren't the one you want.

You say you aren't the best at talking, you seem educated and intelligent to me. Do everything in your power to become better at talking.

You prefer silence to small talk? Well other people don't always agree, so until you can get to a stage where you have 'comfortable silence' talk a little.

There's no easy way. You've gone to the effort of asking the people here, so go make some more effort and force yourself to come out of your shell and speak to her, and others.

You'll be glad you did.

 

[jehoram]

I've recently joined a writing group in my area and I think one woman in the group is very pretty, but I'm not quite sure how to approach her.


Any suggestions?

Was there ever a writer born who didn't want to talk about what he or she is writing about, or what attracted that person to write? Just ask those questions, and listen to the answers, and ask more questions that show that you've been listening.

Avoid value judgments, either about her or her writing, and hope that she does the same for you.

 

[zpitt27]

I just want to thank everyone for all the advice. The next meeting is coming up soon, so hopefully I can take all the suggestions and put them to good use.

Thanks again for taking the time to offer helpful advice.

 

[Felix_Jones]

Check out a few of Russell Brand's interviews on Youtube, especially when the interviewers are female. He had a turn on the View where even that conservative blonde one was dripping like a percolator.

Do what Russell Brand does.