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Is that so? Honestly, I think that's part of the reason I shy away. I don't necessarily know what I'd want the boundaries to be, and knowing how guys think I worry that some guys might keep pressing to go beyond those boundaries once they were set.

Exactly. I also don't know what the boundaries would be, not having been in that situation. And I imagine they would be relatively fluid
 
Is that so? Honestly, I think that's part of the reason I shy away. I don't necessarily know what I'd want the boundaries to be, and knowing how guys think I worry that some guys might keep pressing to go beyond those boundaries once they were set.

Exactly. I also don't know what the boundaries would be, not having been in that situation. And I imagine they would be relatively fluid

Just think of what is was like when you were a teen age boy and you thought that playing with a girls boob would satisfy your needs. :rolleyes:
 
Just think of what is was like when you were a teen age boy and you thought that playing with a girls boob would satisfy your needs. :rolleyes:

That's a good analogy except for the social aspect... Back then, your friends were thinking the same thing, and when you got to touch, you were 'da-man'. Not so much in this instance
 
It is a turn on to think of exploring with another guy like that but I agree with Pvt...I would want another like minded first time guy that I was comfortable to take it one step at a time with.
 
That's a good analogy except for the social aspect... Back then, your friends were thinking the same thing, and when you got to touch, you were 'da-man'. Not so much in this instance

Yes, the social circumstances are completely different but the emotional response is the same...limits can be set but there is always the urge to go one step further.
Self control is often just a myth. :)
 
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My SO's interest having drastically waned, I'm looking to explore casual erotic shared interests with another male who has similar inclinations. Some previous experience many years ago as a teen. NW Ohio 44870.
 
Is that so? Honestly, I think that's part of the reason I shy away. I don't necessarily know what I'd want the boundaries to be, and knowing how guys think I worry that some guys might keep pressing to go beyond those boundaries once they were set.

I've been sexual with at least 10 different guys in my life, and not one of them ever went further than my comfort zone. I'm not saying there is zero chance of running into a predator, but I found that selecting partners in real life situations has been safe in that respect. Using condoms appropriately makes it pretty safe in other another respect.

I have had to turn down folks I met on the internet, because when I actually met them in person in a neutral public place, I did not feel comfortable with them. Fortunately, the few times I have tried to connect through the internet, I told the other person that we would meet first and see if we "click", and if not, we would both be ready to leave the encounter behind. I think some folks who only find sex through the internet tend to lack social skills. I have given up on that approach.

There are lots of bi and bi curious men out there. My advice is to get out there and do stuff with other people every chance you get. Getting to know people is an acquired skill for most of us.

I realize that none of this is very politic to say on this particular board, but it may help someone get over the hurdle of getting to know other men. This is not a society where men are encouraged to talk with each other about anything other than work or sports, but as you get to know men beyond those two topics, you'll find that many of them are open to other adventures. This is particularly true when you meet men who are on vacation or in some sort of recreation mode.
 
Yes, the social circumstances are completely different but the emotional response is the same...limits can be set but there is always the urge to go one step further.
Self control is often just a myth. :)

I alluded to this in a thread on GLBT Chatter. Many think they only want to go so far, and often largely to avoid doing anything that they might consider to be too "gay". You know, "I'm not gay," "I'm not bi," "I'm straight but curious."
It's not just self control, it's coming to grips with what you really wanted but were afraid to admit.

As I said in that thread, "Those who haven't really experienced it can say, all they want, that they don't want any kind of relationship or personal connection, and they may get that, but they also may find out they have feelings they've suppressed for decades and find out more about themselves than they bargained for. "
 
I have thought similar things. I have met two people which turned out to be two very different experiences to what was in my head. One good one not so. But to meet somebody similar to myself for some hands on simple fun would be great
 
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