boring cyber?

[foxseeker]

Horses for cources?

Personally I think there's a big distinction that needs to be drawn here.
I've always viewed cyber as something entirely different to the exchange of stories.
For the latter to work well and become progressively more mutually exciting, it entails getting to know and trust each other.

Cyber can be complimentary and the cream on the cake to that, of course, but also the obvious, casual 'Quick fix' route for one off virtual strangers.

These are to very different means of communication and although in ideal scenarios complimentary, they should be viewed separately for the purpose of discussion.

 

[vanillaicecream]

Marmosets for corsets?

(And no, the title doesn't mean anything. I read foxseeker's title below as "horses for corsets," and I thought the thread had taken a real turn of direction.)

I love all these considered posts about what kind of online interaction is most rewarding. It's the best of Lit., people sharing their ideas thoughtfully. The meta-conversation about what we're all getting from connecting with each other is fascinating, and I would could this kind of discussion as a real connection. For my part, I wanted to throw in with RuneBlade in defense of cyber.

I love carefully developed and crafted stories, of course. I am in awe of those who consistently produce them. But for me, for the time I have to devote to my text-based erotic pursuits, I really prefer cyber. Like many people here, I write all day. I revise, and edit, and revise, and edit. I run myself through the mill!

When it's time to play, I enjoy throwing it all off, not having time to overthink every response. With a well-matched partner, cyber gives me that. The fast pace is a great challenge. I don't even roleplay, as my desire to fulfill the requirements of "story" would slow me down. The speed, the thrill of keeping up with someone, being attentive to his slightest responses, choices of words, pauses--it's intoxicating.

The immediate gratification of witnessing a partner's response (and experiencing my own) is immense. I find that being able to take his cues--and so learning his personality, desires, and needs--is intellectually and emotionally satisfying. We get to shape an exploration together, and that connection, in an ideal case, fuels our imaginations to explore what we might otherwise not. Needless to say, if my partner climaxes in real life while we are chatting, that gives me an incredible rush of pleasure.

The momentum, the need to concentrate, the need, for just a short time, to block out any distractions, the need for my mind and my body to be present right in that moment: these are the things that make me love good cyber.

Bad cyber? Let's blame the messenger, not the meduim! I can be a substandard cyber partner if I'm distracted or in a lousy mood. And I've talked to Mr. How-big-r-ur-tits. That's spam, not cyber!!

 

[imready2]

(And no, the title doesn't mean anything. I read foxseeker's title below as "horses for corsets," and I thought the thread had taken a real turn of direction.)

I love all these considered posts about what kind of online interaction is most rewarding. It's the best of Lit., people sharing their ideas thoughtfully. The meta-conversation about what we're all getting from connecting with each other is fascinating, and I would could this kind of discussion as a real connection. For my part, I wanted to throw in with RuneBlade in defense of cyber.

I love carefully developed and crafted stories, of course. I am in awe of those who consistently produce them. But for me, for the time I have to devote to my text-based erotic pursuits, I really prefer cyber. Like many people here, I write all day. I revise, and edit, and revise, and edit. I run myself through the mill!

When it's time to play, I enjoy throwing it all off, not having time to overthink every response. With a well-matched partner, cyber gives me that. The fast pace is a great challenge. I don't even roleplay, as my desire to fulfill the requirements of "story" would slow me down. The speed, the thrill of keeping up with someone, being attentive to his slightest responses, choices of words, pauses--it's intoxicating.

The immediate gratification of witnessing a partner's response (and experiencing my own) is immense. I find that being able to take his cues--and so learning his personality, desires, and needs--is intellectually and emotionally satisfying. We get to shape an exploration together, and that connection, in an ideal case, fuels our imaginations to explore what we might otherwise not. Needless to say, if my partner climaxes in real life while we are chatting, that gives me an incredible rush of pleasure.

The momentum, the need to concentrate, the need, for just a short time, to block out any distractions, the need for my mind and my body to be present right in that moment: these are the things that make me love good cyber.

Bad cyber? Let's blame the messenger, not the meduim! I can be a substandard cyber partner if I'm distracted or in a lousy mood. And I've talked to Mr. How-big-r-ur-tits. That's spam, not cyber!!

I love your outlook amd may be of interest to you.

 

[HotJRabbit]

It was a funny comment, true

I don't like cyber, I have to say, generally speaking, it's dull and way too 'instant'. Prefer to share my fantasies in story or email form, that way I can get the description in there that I love

Im exactly the same!
I feel that instant messaging is to fast and over in a matter of mins some times....
Emails are so much better....the build up....the sexual tenstion of wanting someone. Glad im not the only one anneski

Oh and this thread tickled me lmao !