Brains, Intelligence - Hot or Not?

[SecretLove69]

Sure muscle bound body men are fun to play with but when all the play is concluded and you are lying there breathless - it's nice to have a guy who can carry on a conversation more indepth than how much weight he can hoist over his head and how to mix the perfect blend of spinach juice and Power Aide.

I won't turn down either a dumb jock or a pocket protector geek - I can't afford to be that picky. If I have to choose - I'll pick brains over brawn.

 

[NorthernPA4U]

So why is it that all the adonis-like men out there without brains have got wives and girlfriends and the geeks are alone?

I've never understood this. EVERY women I've met says they value brains over looks.... but I think they're only fooling themselves.

Not from bitter experience BTW.... Just observation .... I had GFs as I sorta don't fall into either camp.

It's all bound up in the imperative of the species, DB. At that primal level, people respond to the instincts which drive the species, and honestly, brains do not figure in there. That "brain" response is due to modern cultural conditioning; i.e. pc-ness.

It's just an opinion, of course, but I think it holds true far more often than not.

 

[SecretLove69]

Brains and intelligence can't be hot.

I have brains and intelligence, and my daughter tells me I am definitely NOT HOT !!

She does include the exclamation points, btw.

I'm just thinkin' here that it's maybe a good thing your daughter DOES NOT think you are hot. You don't strike me as the sort that would get involved in that kind of relationship.

 

[JagFarlane]

Mmmmm a woman with a brain is a huge turn on for me. I just can't date anyone that I can't have a good conversation with. Without that conversation I don't feel the connection

 

[NorthernPA4U]

I'm just thinkin' here that it's maybe a good thing your daughter DOES NOT think you are hot. You don't strike me as the sort that would get involved in that kind of relationship.

True, but I also trust her judgment

 

[koalabear]

hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[fire_breeze]

He can be a complete hot, Adonis, gorgeous man, but if he can't carry on a decent conversation, it leaves me cold. Utterly.

I often hear the same thing from males, DB, who are all looking for a smart woman and claim that they value brains over looks, but who ends up with bimbos hanging on their arms. But then again, what do I know? I have been accused of being a smart dumb person...

 

[BradBigBrain]

We all say brains over looks, however, most of us aren't even looking if there's no physical attraction. No matter what that is. It could be a look, a hint of cleavage, short skirt, legs...anything that strikes us. And what attracts us physically is different at different times.

Once we've gotten passed the physical test, then the brains thing kicks in. IMHO.

 

[laelaai]

Gotta click in the mind department, and you want someone of equal intellegence, otherwise you're either always feeling lacking, or you can feel frustrated.

I think it's a definate MUST for long term relationships (of ANY kind).

As for quick encounters.... it's not sooooo important I guess!

You must also have personality with brains... no fun being a whiz at sudoku if you're dull as dishwater to spend time with.

what if it's a superduper highspeed voice activated self loading robotic dishwasher with a fuzzy logic chip??

 

[laelaai]

Hmmm, this is an interesting question, isn't it?

I would have to say that intelligence is very hot. I love a man who can stimulate my brain, challenge me mentally. Some of the best times I've had on here have been exchanging banter (and not necessarily sexual) with both sexes. And I truly believe that the mind is the biggest sexual organ we have.

I couldn't agree with lovemonster more, i mean even if we're just talking about interpreting neural impulses from our nether regions we can't count the brain out of the equation even in the most "mindnumbingly" hot situations

I mean if something turns you on physically, if your body responds even at the insistence of your conscious mind willing it not to (you GUYS know what i mean, right, like brain telling pants "NOT NOW!",, but it happens all the time to us girls too, albeit with fewer obvioustootherpeople signs) then it's still your brain that's getting turned on, you just may not have as much conscious control over it

It's ok having a bloke who looks like an Adonis, but if he's got nothing between the ears, then what do you do when the sex is over?? On the other hand, someone who's highly intelligent can be a little intimidating.

Find someone with a good balance of the two.....and you're laughing.

Easier said than done, innit.

yes! i concur. can definitely be intimidating, but i've found that if i'm actually still intimidated by someone's intelligence after getting to know them that it's more of an imbalance in empathy and ability and willingness to attend to the other's needs.... AND if someone is pretentious that is a HUGE turnoff, you know it's like "okay yeah you're smart, okay fine you can do solve intractable problems heuristic-algorithm-ically in your head AND you can kick my ass in trivial pursuit, but you are not funny and you can't be silly with me and that is soooooooo NOT hot."

 

[raphael2007]

i do like intelligence and find it a turn on... but i do not like condescending people... and i do like kind people... to there has to be the right mixture, for sure

 

[laelaai]

i do like intelligence and find it a turn on... but i do not like condescending people... and i do like kind people... to there has to be the right mixture, for sure

right there with raphael on that one....

 

[hdlynnette]

Hmmm, this is an interesting question, isn't it?

I would have to say that intelligence is very hot. I love a man who can stimulate my brain, challenge me mentally. Some of the best times I've had on here have been exchanging banter (and not necessarily sexual) with both sexes. And I truly believe that the mind is the biggest sexual organ we have.

It's ok having a bloke who looks like an Adonis, but if he's got nothing between the ears, then what do you do when the sex is over??

On the other hand, someone who's highly intelligent can be a little intimidating.

Find someone with a good balance of the two.....and you're laughing.

Easier said than done, innit.

i do like intelligence and find it a turn on... but i do not like condescending people... and i do like kind people... to there has to be the right mixture, for sure

I too agree with LM..and raphael2007. A good mix of both is a nice find. I've always said I don't want a man that is prettier than me. Give me one that is nice looking and has sense enough to get in out of the rain, and we have a winner!

 

[shykittyme]

right there with raphael on that one....

Have to agree with both of y'all...pompousness is a total bore... There are times when I wind up in a conversation about something of which I know nothing, but even then, I try to take interest in what's being said. You never know when you might learn something new. If nothing else, it's cool to watch how people react to things and express themselves.... In the right situation, that is very arousing.

 

[raphael2007]

well there we go... we have put the world to rights

 

[shykittyme]

well there we go... we have put the world to rights

Yep, all's right with the world now.......night, John-boy...!

 

[raphael2007]

Yep, all's right with the world now.......night, John-boy...!

was it that Waltonish really

lol

 

[laelaai]

Have to agree with both of y'all...pompousness is a total bore... There are times when I wind up in a conversation about something of which I know nothing, but even then, I try to take interest in what's being said. You never know when you might learn something new. If nothing else, it's cool to watch how people react to things and express themselves.... In the right situation, that is very arousing.

so true, so true. whenever i find myself in a conversation i know nothing about my immediate instinct is to want to just listen, learn something, i love new ideas, concepts, things i don't know... but you know more than half the time, people seem to want to wield their knowledge around like a battle ax knocking us novices off our chairs

...if only they knew how hot it would be to not be pompous, but to just relax, express themselves and be open

 

[shykittyme]

was it that Waltonish really

lol

Nah...it was just me bein' Waltonish....

 

[shykittyme]

so true, so true. whenever i find myself in a conversation i know nothing about my immediate instinct is to want to just listen, learn something, i love new ideas, concepts, things i don't know... but you know more than half the time, people seem to want to wield their knowledge around like a battle ax knocking us novices off our chairs

...if only they knew how hot it would be to not be pompous, but to just relax, express themselves and be open

Hear, hear...!!

 

[raphael2007]

Nah...it was just me bein' Waltonish....

its ok... i promise not to tell anyone

 

[elizabeth22673]

My opinion regarding the brains/intelligence thing...it's not the level of intelligence....it's the "common sense"

Also, if someone has the brains, make sure not to make someone feel inferior...For instance, my husband is very intelligent and has many interests, but he has never made me feel "stupid" when I've asked him to explain something that I've never heard of. He loves to share what he knows and explains things to me so that I understand.

I wike him.

 

[shykittyme]

its ok... i promise not to tell anyone

Thanks, Raph...ya know, for a smart guy, you're awfully sexy...

 

[raphael2007]

My opinion regarding the brains/intelligence thing...it's not the level of intelligence....it's the "common sense"

Also, if someone has the brains, make sure not to make someone feel inferior...For instance, my husband is very intelligent and has many interests, but he has never made me feel "stupid" when I've asked him to explain something that I've never heard of. He loves to share what he knows and explains things to me so that I understand.

I wike him.

this is also true... and i think i need to add a sense of humour to my list as well as common sense and the rest

 

[elizabeth22673]

this is also true... and i think i need to add a sense of humour to my list as well as common sense and the rest

I totally agree....laughing is soooooo important!!