Calling all Moms........

[someplace]

I'm having a Mom moment and not handling it very well.

My baby (last of 4) is 14 and staying her obligatory month of July at her father's. She just IMd me to say she just started her first period. She doesn't want to tell her father -- too embarrassed and doesn't want me to tell him. She misses me and wishes she was home.

We're arranging for big sis to take her to lunch tomorrow and make sure she has enough "supplies".

I feel aged tonight.

 

[Rubyfruit]

You're not old. You probably just started early. Me? I'll probably be menopausal before my babies start.

Hugs to you, mom.

 

[oceanbaby28]

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[someplace]

Thank you Ruby.

I was a child bride, but that doesn't make the milestone any easier to take. It's like the baby isn't a baby anymore..... very bittersweet.

 

[someplace]

I love boys!

Ocean you're very lucky. Boys are so much easier than girls. Thank you for the hugs too.

 

[freakygirl]

My oldest daughter started last fall.. I wasn't there either. But then again, I haven't been there for a lot of mile stones and firsts.

My daughter was lucky.. not only had I already talked to her about all of the changes she was going to encounter but so had her dad. He was prepared and told her that when she started he was there to talk or she could go to me or her step mom.

She turned to me.. via IM's also. I almost know how you feel.

It's a wonderful but sad time right now.. my heart goes out to you.. and your daughter.






PS if you have a good relationship with dad.. it might be a wise idea to call him and tell him. I think he has the right to know so he can be prepared for the mood swings and also have the supplies on hand for the next visit. Just incase the need arises.

 

[kjtatts]

Re: Thank you Ruby.

I was a child bride, but that doesn't make the milestone any easier to take. It's like the baby isn't a baby anymore..... very bittersweet.

My girl is nearly 12......but she's always gonna be my baby (although every Xmas she asks for a REAL baby brother or sister..... )

 

[freakygirl]

Re: Thank you Ruby.

I was a child bride, but that doesn't make the milestone any easier to take. It's like the baby isn't a baby anymore..... very bittersweet.

I went through a depression when my daughter started hers.. she was only 12 (far younger than I was when I started).

It was almost worse than when I started mine. Seeing my children grow up has got to be one of the hardest things I've done in my life.

My son starts driving on his own in May.. that is something else I'm having a hard time with

 

[someplace]

Thanks FG

I think you're right. I'll respect her privacy tonight, but will talk with him tomorrow.

The last time I felt like this was when this one had her last day of daycare -- closing out 18 straight years of having at least one child in daycare.

 

[Bluesboy2]

Good news

Soon you can have the girls marriied off and gone. I got all the info on them, Ill help. *Runs to personal board*

 

[someplace]

Babies

My girl is nearly 12......but she's always gonna be my baby (although every Xmas she asks for a REAL baby brother or sister..... )

I had two separate families, so you never know.

12 year old girls like horses though -- get her a horse -- much less work than a sibling.

 

[oceanbaby28]

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[someplace]

Ongoing "DISCUSSION"

Soon you can have the girls marriied off and gone. I got all the info on them, Ill help. *Runs to personal board*

People are really going to worry about you Bluesy... I swear! You just want me all to yourself I know! But thanks for making me laugh.

 

[SimGuy]

Re: I love boys!

I've got a teen aged boy and girl. Both live with their mom, I miss them a lot. But they both have their pluses and minuses. When boys have their hormonal weeks, months and going on years, they can be VERY TRYING.

There are ups and downs - but you know as well as I do that no matter how tough it gets, you wouldn't trade them for any other kid in the whole world.


Well, you wouldn't......would you??

Ocean you're very lucky. Boys are so much easier than girls. Thank you for the hugs too.

 

[intrigued]

I'm so sorry, this must be very hard on both of you. Try to realize you are doing the very best for her that you can, because you are.

Something like this I dont believe will hit me as hard as the fact that my baby will be starting kindergarten in 2 weeks...and its all day kindergarten, at that. My world will be turned upside down.
We have never been apart until my ex and I separated and she started staying with him some. I can handle that, but her being gone away all day, every day, with someone else in charge of her...well...that bites.

I think I will find joy in her approaching womanhood, there will be so much to experience together.....
I started my period at 10, and my Mom did nothing, said nothing. Be the excellent, loving Mom that you are and just realize, your daughter turned to you, and you were there for her.

 

[someplace]

Re: Re: I love boys!

I've got a teen aged boy and girl. Both live with their mom, I miss them a lot. But they both have their pluses and minuses. When boys have their hormonal weeks, months and going on years, they can be VERY TRYING.

There are ups and downs - but you know as well as I do that no matter how tough it gets, you wouldn't trade them for any other kid in the whole world.

Well, you wouldn't......would you??

Oh sweetie, obviously your daughter is not a teenager yet. My younger one was the saving grace in my house this year. Your question is unfair. I am counting the days until my 17 yr old daughter goes to college in Dec. Really and truly. I think teenaged females are given double doses of hormones compared to boys. I've had 2 boys and 2 girls. This has been my own experience.

If your daughter is a teenager, then she must be a very special angel. You're very lucky! Thanks for popping in. I appreciate it.

 

[someplace]

You are so sweet.

Something like this I dont believe will hit me as hard as the fact that my baby will be starting kindergarten in 2 weeks...and its all day kindergarten, at that. My world will be turned upside down.
We have never been apart until my ex and I separated and she started staying with him some. I can handle that, but her being gone away all day, every day, with someone else in charge of her...well...that bites.

I think I will find joy in her approaching womanhood, there will be so much to experience together.....
I started my period at 10, and my Mom did nothing, said nothing. Be the excellent, loving Mom that you are and just realize, your daughter turned to you, and you were there for her.

Each milestone is marked with looking back and looking forward. Take lots of pictures of the first day at kindergarten. It's a blast and you'll love looking back on it. My parents still have the old 8mm movies of my first day. There were be many others to look foward to.

Thank you for such a kind posting.

 

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[someplace]

Thanks LL. It's hard to do the right "Mom" thing when they're growing up. You have to let them have some say and that's especially hard when it conflicts with what you (as a parent) want to do.

 

[SailorC272002]

Just my 2 cents.

14-17 have to be the toughest ages for parents. To be honest it can really suck. Boys or girls they both have their issues. Enjoy your kids 8-13, they clean themselves pretty well, can feed themselves, dress themselves, and they still fear you. After 17 they start to turn human again and life gets better.

 

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[Needssome]

Okay...I'm not a mother...but I must say my mom must have gotten real lucky.....She always said what wonderful teenagers she had. My sisters and I were all horrible over achievers. No drugs, no drinking, no staying out all night, no dating (not by choice on my side), terrific grades, scholarships for university, my sister is valedictorian of her high school class...We never gave my parents any reason to really worry about us. My sister lectures my father if he swears. I didn't realize we were so odd....

And someplace....I'm sure she appreciates you being there for her in spirit if not in person.

 

[freakygirl]

Okay...I'm not a mother...but I must say my mom must have gotten real lucky.....She always said what wonderful teenagers she had. My sisters and I were all horrible over achievers. No drugs, no drinking, no staying out all night, no dating (not by choice on my side), terrific grades, scholarships for university, my sister is valedictorian of her high school class...We never gave my parents any reason to really worry about us. My sister lectures my father if he swears. I didn't realize we were so odd....

And someplace....I'm sure she appreciates you being there for her in spirit if not in person.

You aren't weird.. Just unusual. Does that make sense? My oldest kids.. 15, 13 and 12.. are the same exact way. I wouldn't trade them for the world.

 

[someplace]

You're all very kind

Thanks for the encouragement. I knew I could count on you. Poor Naded popped on IM right when I finished Iming with my daughter and he bore the brunt of my emotional upheaval <such a guy!> He told me he was a bit "ummmmm out of his element". Bless his heart!

Sailor: I know there's light at the end of the tunnel. I've had two make it to become adults I'm proud to call friends. My 17 yr old is the most trying -- always has been the drama queen and is so wearing. I hope Little One can wait for big sis to go off to college before treating me to any similar dramatics.

LL & Needsome: Thanks so much for being so sweet.

 

[oceanbaby28]

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