Can she still get an orgasm?

[SweetSerenety18]

Is it possible for a woman to recieve an orgasm while they have there period?

My girlfriend is currently int hat "time of the month" and shes coming voe rlater in the week, now, since she can't have an instertion or what not, any suggestions on what I can do to make her feel good?

 

[temp256]

All forms of sex and orgasm are possible during a period, just a bit more messy.

 

[garbage can]

Is it possible for a woman to recieve an orgasm while they have there period?

My girlfriend is currently int hat "time of the month" and shes coming voe rlater in the week, now, since she can't have an instertion or what not, any suggestions on what I can do to make her feel good?

Massage her clit with a Q-tip?

 

[pinkpunani]

Sex is possible, if a bit messy. Put a towel beneath you to protect the sheets, and enjoy a nice shower after.

 

[christian1971]

Depends on her mood! Some woman can be extra horny or EXTRA NOT. And its the NOT you need to look out for because her mood will let you really know!

For some woman it's very uncomfortible to get horny while the unwelcomed friend is in.

 

[Chicklet]

i hear that for some women sex is actually a fantastic way to relieve the pain of menstral cramping... never was like that for me. i hate sex during my period.

i suggest, however, sex IN the shower - helps the girl get over any squeamish messy thoughts. i find it's usually the girl, and not the guy, concerned about the mess.

orgasms are very possible.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

yes it is possible and so is insertion.

I also suggest the shower

 

[SaraClarisse]

Certainly it's possible! I often have an inconvenient horny day in the middle of my red river days, and I end up masturbating carefully.

But you'll have to ask her what she wants. Perhaps you can tell her that you really want her to feel good, and that you'd like to arouse her if she's interested. But it will really be up to her desires. Let her guide you. She may want to wash and put a tampon in so she feels as fresh as possible, and then have you masturbate her...she may want to touch herself through her panties...she may be game for penetration if you are...etc.

 

[jethrobodeen]

All of the above plus...

When we get horny while Aunt Flo is visiting, my wife will simply take out the vibrator shaped like a space-aged club, sold to message your back, etc... ya know, you don't feel even feel uneasy if someone else see it. Hope you've seen one like it, my wife finds it useful, so just plug it into the wall and set on heat and vibrate. It has several attachments with different size and shaped pressure concentrators. Really does help sore muscles, but I digress...

Anyway, she'll lay on her back legs spread, wearing comfortable, thin, jammy bottoms and undies, sometimes even a thong so I have easy access to slip a finger or two in her ass, and of course whatever girl-protection she needs to feel comfortable inside her panties. We'll make out and talk dirty for a minute while I get beside her and start feeling her breasts. Then I lift the hem of her shirt up over her breasts. If she has a bra, I might slowly remove it or quickly pull it out of the way so I can tenderly rub and lightly squeeze her nipples. I slide down her body so my face is in her busom. I bounce my face against her boobs, flopping from side to side. I trace circles around her nipples, which are already pointing straight out, strained and erect. I suck on them alternatively and kiss her and tell her how sexy she is.

The more she gets going, the less inhibited she becomes. One of us will grab the vibrator and move it around her tits, thights and pelvic area. I'll stick my tounge in her ear and tell her how again hot she is. Within minutes she starts humping her hips up and down against the vibe pressing through two thin layers of cloth on her labia and clit and has a few mild but building orgasms. When she's really worked up, I slide my hand under her and inside her panties and slide my finger down her ass-crack without breaking my attention to her nipples.

When she is really hot she can only give into the desire for more pleasure and lets me finger her ass. Now I've really got her going and she humps her ass up and down on my fingers. This usually takes her over the edge and she cums over and over. Other times she's happy without the over the hill climax, in either case, after she's recovered from her orgasms, she then proceeds to take care of me with her mouth and hands. But that's a whole 'nother subject.

--jb

 

[SweetErika]

I find orgasms to be the best medicine for cramps, headaches, and the overall ickiness that comes with PMS and periods, so our vibes get a lotta lovin' during that time. In that vein, she might be more comfortable using toys alone or with you for stimulation during her period, so you may want to suggest them.

As for insertion or sex, we haven't found it to be that messy at all. I remove the tampon and we take a shower beforehand, and as long as it's not a really long session, there's little to no blood. Many women find their flow slows dramatically, or seems to stop during bathing and sex, and I also find that to be the case during masturbation. They don't work during sex for us, but cups like Instead Softcups add a little security without impeding penetration or lubrication, so she may want to check into something like that if she's squeamish about going without anything.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I find orgasms to be the best medicine for cramps, headaches, and the overall ickiness that comes with PMS and periods...

My wife is the same way. She's also one of those women who gets more easily aroused during her period. It is not, however, uncommon for women to be self conscious about sex on their period. She used to be like that, and for that matter so was I, until it happened one time by accident. As long as you know what's coming, and mess is just a towel and a quick shower away from erasure. If you talk about it before hand and you both agree that you aren't going to freak out on the other, then that self consiousness should go away.

If she's still not comfortable with penetration, a clitoral stimulation with your fingers or a vibe is a good route to go. You can still have intimacy and pleasure without penetration.

 

[M's girl]

I'm like Erika in that there is almost no blood at all when I shower, take a bath or during PIV sex. So for starters it isn't that messy at all. It al depends on how comfortable she is with it and you are with it. I have had sex (PIV) while I was having my period. Sometimes we will skip the PIV; I shower and put a new tampon in and we will do everything but PIV (including oral).

There is really no reason why you should miss out if you both want it and are comfortable with it.

 

[tryptamine]

The fact that she's on her period shouldn't make a difference, so long as you've been together long enough that you're BOTH comfortable enough with it. My personal opinion is that if you're mature enough to have sex you should be mature enough to deal with whatever fluids arise from it. The fact that sometimes they're red and taste a bit metallic is irrelevant.

It might affect how horny she is, depending on the woman. But the fact is that you should be able to do whatever you want...just put a towel where the wet patch would usually be if you care about your sheets.

 

[Eilan]

My personal opinion is that if you're mature enough to have sex you should be mature enough to deal with whatever fluids arise from it.

I agree wholeheartedly.

 

[SpankyMcCranky]

My boyfriend's not to keen on sex during my period, but there's plenty of other things you can do! Like others have said, a shower before and a fresh tampon and you're set.

And heck yes it's possible to orgasm!

 

[thrity]

I can't have sex during my partner's periods.
My penis would instantly go limp if I see blood on it.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I can't have sex during my partner's periods.
My penis would instantly go limp if I see blood on it.

That's totally a mental thing. What you have to realize is that there is a difference between menstraul bleeding and an open sucking chest wound bleeding. So just look in your partner's eyes instead of at you cock. Cleanup is just a washcloth away.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I can't have sex during my partner's periods.
My penis would instantly go limp if I see blood on it.

Would you mind elaborating on why?

I had this happen to me once with a guy, and I couldn't figure out what the big deal was. We were having sex, using a condom, and it seems my period showed up a day or two early. I don't want to say he freaked out, but he was really disturbed. By the time I came back from the bathroom with a towel, he was done. Limp, and turned off to the point he couldn't get hard again. And, of course, he wouldn't talk about it.

I had never had that kind of experience with a guy. Most of them realize that women bleed, and if you're going to be putting your dick in there, at some point, you are likely to encounter blood. I don't understand what the trauma is.

 

[SweetErika]

What you have to realize is that there is a difference between menstraul bleeding and an open sucking chest wound bleeding. So just look in your partner's eyes instead of at you cock. Cleanup is just a washcloth away.

This one is sig worthy, TBK.

 

[asian_princess]

I think that (one of the) most important points brought up by the very wise and wordly men and women afore me is that in the large part, the woman is probably the one who is more reluctant to engage due to being embarassed by the mess/sight/smell of her menstruation. And so I think, as with a lot of psychological issues, there may need to be a lead up, with very positive reinforcement

Like maybe the first time, suggest she read the thread and follow the suggestions here in terms of showering and then putting in a fresh tampon, then maybe she can just have a little play time to herself, just so she can see REALLY the degree of "mess". It might be she realises, lke a lot of the women here how her body responds to the activity...maybe during insertion there is almost no sign of blood, or on the otherhand, she'll see that she has quite heavy flow and therefore would lie to concentrate on more clitoral stimulation. I think the biggest hurdle is just not knowing...

As for your part...reassure her that you are not turned off by her or whtever during this time and you find her as sexy as ever. And this reassurance needs to be repeated the first few times...or else her confidence might wane.
I remember one time I had travelled to be with someone for the first time and of course aunty flo came for the trip...i my mind it was made up that i wasn;t going to sleep with him, but he was very reassuring in that he wasn't bothered by it and suggested a lot of different ways, like sheets, turning the lights down, doing it in the shower, in which i coud be mre comfortable, and it made all the diffrence to me.
and as to answering the original question, CAN she still get an orgasm,..if she's anything like me? try and stop her, babe!!

 

[Eilan]

That's totally a mental thing. What you have to realize is that there is a difference between menstraul bleeding and an open sucking chest wound bleeding.

Exactly. Menstrual fluid isn't entirely blood. It's a combination of water, blood, mucus, and tissue, in no particular order.

 

[Brainboyz]

You can do EVERYTHING during a period that you can do during normal sexual sessions. The differences are cleanup and taste. We keep towels around anyway for cleanup (just the dark colored ones during that time) and damnit I like going down too much to let a little taste of blood stop me. Just need a shower first. If she can get over it, I'll get under it.

 

[Norajane]

Exactly. Menstrual fluid isn't entirely blood. It's a combination of water, blood, mucus, and tissue, in no particular order.

I wonder if it's seeing the blood that's the problem, or if it's seeing blood on his dick that causes the freak-out. Like, maybe it scares a guy while in the midst of a lust-haze, and he fears it's his dick that's bleeding...it probably only takes a split-second of fear to make a guy limp, even if it's irrational...

 

[jeepman6]

If she's squemish about insertion then maybe try masturbating together. Once my wife sees me stroking it in front of her then all her cares usually go out the window and even without insertion she still really gets into it and almost always has some very intense orgasms.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I wonder if it's seeing the blood that's the problem, or if it's seeing blood on his dick that causes the freak-out. Like, maybe it scares a guy while in the midst of a lust-haze, and he fears it's his dick that's bleeding...it probably only takes a split-second of fear to make a guy limp, even if it's irrational...

Absolutely! It's totally a mental reaction thing, and it is scary the first time. the first time I did it we didn't know she was having her period. So we finished I went to the bathroom to relieve myself, looked down and let out a scream. I thought I'd fucking tore her or something!!!

Of course after the shock wore off I was smart enough to realize that this wouldn't hurt her, obviously didn't amke any difference in the feel because I hadn't known, and was especially fulfilling for her. So that, and the easy cleanup, I got over it pretty quick. Shock to cool time, about 11 1/2 minutes.