Can you put it in the wrong hole by accident?

[human_male]

There's an agony aunt website I sometimes post on where people ask questions about sex and relationships and stuff. I wanted you folk's opinion on one particular post I just read.

The guy basically said he was having sex with his girlfriend and "accidentally" put it up her butt. He didn't stop because, after some initial sounds of discomfort, she seemed to enjoy it. But the next day she won't talk to him. He tells her it was an accident and that he only carried on because he thought she was enjoying it, but she says he's full of shit.

So I replied and said I basically think he's lying. That you can't just slip into the anus without a lot of preparation. That it would have hurt like hell if someone just popped it in like that. I think he did it deliberately and I told him that.

But I think it's way more than that. Although I didn't go as far as to say this, I get the feeling he forced himself in and wouldn't stop despite that she was probably crying and yelling out from the pain. And that's why she's angry now.

So I guess what I need to know, in your experience, is his version possible? If it is I need to post and appologise to him.

There were a couple of other replies from girls who've "had this accidentally done to them too." Should I tell them that the guys who did this and said it was an accident are also full of shit?

Thanks.

 

[LaRocha]

There's an agony aunt website I sometimes post on where people ask questions about sex and relationships and stuff. I wanted you folk's opinion on one particular post I just read.

The guy basically said he was having sex with his girlfriend and "accidentally" put it up her butt. He didn't stop because, after some initial sounds of discomfort, she seemed to enjoy it. But the next day she won't talk to him. He tells her it was an accident and that he only carried on because he thought she was enjoying it, but she says he's full of shit.

So I replied and said I basically think he's lying. That you can't just slip into the anus without a lot of preparation. That it would have hurt like hell if someone just popped it in like that. I think he did it deliberately and I told him that.

But I think it's way more than that. Although I didn't go as far as to say this, I get the feeling he forced himself in and wouldn't stop despite that she was probably crying and yelling out from the pain. And that's why she's angry now.

So I guess what I need to know, in your experience, is his version possible? If it is I need to post and appologise to him.

There were a couple of other replies from girls who've "had this accidentally done to them too." Should I tell them that the guys who did this and said it was an accident are also full of shit?

Thanks.

If both parties were drunk enough... No... It's an urban myth that you can put your penis in a woman's anus mid-thrust and have either party believe he's gone back in vagina. In theory, there's no reason why it hasn't happened at least once, penis thrust in butt -- which would be followed by pain and screaming and "Get the fuck off!" The person who posted the question probably read one too many Lit stories and thought, "I might as well ask, because I'm genuinely interested myself."

 

[infinity706]

It's pretty unlikely that you'd get your dick up someone's ass without trying. Even with lube, it's not like you can easily get your dick into someone's ass without preparation. You'd have to really ram it in hard.

 

[bronzeage]

You can poke it by accident, but full penetration takes effort.

It's not that easy when both partners are eager and willing.

 

[wicked woman]

It's absolutely possible for a cock to enter the anus by accident. Anal sex doesn't have to be difficult at all.

I don't think that's the issue though. Without knowing if there was any previous agreement on whether anal sex was a limit or not, I can't comment on that, but there seems to be a lack of communication on both sides here. I'm not sure what 'some inital sounds of discomfort' entailed but in my opinion, if they'd never had anal sex before that would have been sufficient for him to be asking if she was ok, and holding still until she agreed she was. If she didn't want to have anal sex she should have said something as soon as his cock entered her. 'Stop! Get your cock out of me!' comes to mind.

So sounds to me like she has a right to be upset with him if they'd discussed that anal sex was off limits. If not, they both could have/should have been more communicative.

Edited: clearly my experiences are different than others.

 

[human_male]

It's absolutely possible for a cock to enter the anus by accident. Anal sex doesn't have to be difficult at all.

Really? How in the world is it possible unless she's already been stretched out?

 

[infinity706]

It's possible to get it in, but it would hurt quite a bit. Of course, if we're talking an anal regular and a cock that isn't that thick, it is possible to use pussy juice as lube to start penetration. It certainly wouldn't be by accident, though. You have to be slow about initial penetration even in that case.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

It's possible to get it in, but it would hurt quite a bit. Of course, if we're talking an anal regular and a cock that isn't that thick, it is possible to use pussy juice as lube to start penetration. It certainly wouldn't be by accident, though. You have to be slow about initial penetration even in that case.

That's pretty much how it is for me. If he switches mid fucking, and uses just juice for lube, because he's fairly thick, the first couple of strokes are about have pace while I wiggle a bit in discomfort, then my body takes care of the rest.

It's certainly no accident, but then it doesn't need to be the big production of 'getting ready' either.

 

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[wicked woman]

Really? How in the world is it possible unless she's already been stretched out?

I'm not a doctor. I just know it's possible. Trust me. We're a good fit and both love anal...if we're so far along that his cock is in anything but my mouth, I've had numerous orgasms already. I'm assuming from the situation that they were having vaginal intercourse...which provides self lubrication...if you're in a man on top position that means lubrication dripping down (damn I always get the wet spot)...read the part about good fit and both love anal again. It's possible.

Want me to draw pictures?



But as I said earlier that isn't the issue. She's mad at him for having anal sex when it wasn't ok with her and she thinks it was unacceptable and she gave enough noise, that he should have known it wasn't ok. That's the issue.

 

[infinity706]

I'd actually like you to draw those pictures.

 

[NightL]

Alcohol, inexperience, lube and two very surprised faces... but we continued anyway.

Anal penetration was an accident... continuing was not...

 

[wicked woman]

I'd actually like you to draw those pictures.

LOL


I thought I kind of did.

 

[infinity706]

Well, I have an idea except I don't know what you and your hubby look like.

 

[19cock]

Did it once while very vigorously going at it.

I was on top, she was facedown. I was slamming into her pussy hard, went back up too far and slammed back down shoving it into her anus. And when I mean slam I mean like full bodyweight pounding. She went totally rigid and let out one hell of a scream/shriek! I felt really bad cuz it was on accident, and she was understanding, but wow was her ass sore for a while.

So yeah, it can happen, but we also had a lot of lube going on too.

 

[human_male]

But as I said earlier that isn't the issue. She's mad at him for having anal sex when it wasn't ok with her and she thinks it was unacceptable and she gave enough noise, that he should have known it wasn't ok. That's the issue.

Yes I agree. I just wanted to know if it was possible in case I owed the guy an apology for saying I thought he was lying.

Would it make any difference if the woman had anal sex regularly or recently, than if the didn't do it regularly?

I still have a hard time imagining it. Maybe that picture would help, yes.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Did it once while very vigorously going at it.

I was on top, she was facedown. I was slamming into her pussy hard, went back up too far and slammed back down shoving it into her anus. And when I mean slam I mean like full bodyweight pounding. She went totally rigid and let out one hell of a scream/shriek! I felt really bad cuz it was on accident, and she was understanding, but wow was her ass sore for a while.

So yeah, it can happen, but we also had a lot of lube going on too.

That happened to a guy I used to work with. His girl couldn't walk the rest of the day. He said there was a loud "pop" when he actually penetrated, but he only realized it after he was most of the way in. Needless to say, the action stopped pretty quick.




Back on topic, I've messed about on both ends of anal play, and I'm calling bullshit on that guy. Even as an eager recipient of a prostate massage, there was no way she was getting her finger in there without lube. And trust me, I wanted it there.

So yeah, he sounds like a liar and a real winner to me...

 

[Bandit58]

Did it once while very vigorously going at it.

I was on top, she was facedown. I was slamming into her pussy hard, went back up too far and slammed back down shoving it into her anus. And when I mean slam I mean like full bodyweight pounding. She went totally rigid and let out one hell of a scream/shriek! I felt really bad cuz it was on accident, and she was understanding, but wow was her ass sore for a while.

So yeah, it can happen, but we also had a lot of lube going on too.

Yup - that's how it happened to me. Not pleasant. Searing pain and there was blood for 3 days, and sitting was painful for over a week.

It took over 20 years for me to want to go there again, and NO my husband (who is now my ex) never got any anal from me ever during our marriage.

 

[The Gimp]

That sounds like a made up story to me. While it's possible to have an accidental anal penetration (or more likely an intentional penetration that he played off as an accident because she didn't like it, but that's a different thread.....), a red flag goes up when it's suggested that he continued because she appeared to be enjoying it, and she was upset about it the next day. If she objected to having anal sex then why wait till the next morning to say something about it? I accidentally ended up in her ass, she jumped up and yelled at me, and she's still mad a day later would be a much more realistic scenario.

 

[human_male]

That sounds like a made up story to me. While it's possible to have an accidental anal penetration (or more likely an intentional penetration that he played off as an accident because she didn't like it, but that's a different thread.....), a red flag goes up when it's suggested that he continued because she appeared to be enjoying it, and she was upset about it the next day. If she objected to having anal sex then why wait till the next morning to say something about it? I accidentally ended up in her ass, she jumped up and yelled at me, and she's still mad a day later would be a much more realistic scenario.

That's the crux of the guy's problem. He's confused because (assuming he's telling the truth) she didn't object at the time, but the next day she's saying she feels violated and won't speak to him.

 

[subwannabe]

I say yes and no. I think it would be almost close to impossible most all of the time. However, if the anus was used to penetrations and there was already a lot of lube present, I can see an accident happening easier. I have to agree with those that would give him the benefit of the doubt initially but then want a better explanation as to why he continued. That really doesn't seem plausible at all. Maybe this is a job for Mythbusters!

 

[Epmd607]

I say yes and no. I think it would be almost close to impossible most all of the time. However, if the anus was used to penetrations and there was already a lot of lube present, I can see an accident happening easier. I have to agree with those that would give him the benefit of the doubt initially but then want a better explanation as to why he continued. That really doesn't seem plausible at all. Mabye this is a job for Mythbusters!

Haha. I've definitely thought about sexual Mythbusters.

What is female ejaculation?

Can an erect man pee in a vagina?

Is nursing a viable birth control substitute?

Do men really prefer natural to fake breasts?

Could Rod Stewart really ingest 6-12 ounces of semen in one sitting/kneeling?

 

[SassySheDevil]

I think I agree with the masses. Accidental penitration is possible. Continuing is not.

I think even the porn women who have their ass used and abused probably can still feel a difference when A dick goes in their ass vs their pussy. Even a used and abused one, I'd think would still be tighter to the man doing her, then he pussy.

But I'm also vocal enough to say something. If I'm not in the mood for anal and my husband tries to go there, I'm gonna say "uh, wrong hole" I wouldn't just grunt and groan, and then be mad at him later.

 

[Tiffany87]

I had a boyfriend who put it in the wrong hole without lubrication, and I was upset. It hurt like hell.

 

[pinkflames]

My only time that a partner put it in the wrong hole, the pain was excruciating. I screamed at him to get off me.