Cheesey Romantic or other

[Mackay]

OK There is a girl that i have been friends with for almost 4 years (we lost contact for about 2 and half) We started talking agian and all my feelings for her came rushing back. I had a veary big thing for her in school but never made a move because either i had a gf or she had a bf. So now we are both single and talking agian and kinda flirting. I bought her a present (for no reason) its a engraved coffe mug that says "god forbid i should go to any heavan in witch there are no horses"

Ok story behind that when she was little ger aunt bought her a coffe mug that had that printed on it. Well one of her ex bfs took it with him to work and never broght it back. She has been looking every where for one. Well when i found she was looking i started looking. But i had no luck so i had one made. But its a coffee mug? Cheesey or Romanitc?

 

[SummerMorning]

You ask me, she'll love it.

 

[bholderman]

How about cheesey romantic?

Small things like this say the most, thats the romantic part. Its a coffee mug, the cheesey part.

It cant always be a rowboat on the lake...

 

[Guest]

 

[montrealgirl]

fantastic idea...you'll be getting laid for sure

 

[bisexplicit]

Sorry to be the lone dissenter. Not to discourage you, just in my opinion...well, its not something I'd be that into. *shrugs* She probably will love it, though.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Well this is an interesting situation though. You're friends, and this gift shows that you remember something about her that is non-sexual. So now, if you throw a truly romantic gift in her direction, at least she won't think you're just out to get laid. I'd say it's a good primer if you are serious about pursuing her romantically.

EDITED: Wait! I just reread your post again. You made it? Oh dude, IMHO that was a stroke of genius. Not only was it a non-sexual gift which brought back something you remembered from your friendship, but you made it with your own two hands. Dude, I say well done.

Of course, I'm a hopeless romantic at heart.

 

[Eilan]

It depends. You're not dating (yet), and depending on how close the friendship is, she could interpret it as one of those creepy pushy things. Or not.

If, however, my husband did something similar for me, I'd probably be thrilled.

That's just my take on it. What really matter is what she thinks.

Let us know how it goes.

 

[TBKahuna123]

That's exactly why I think it's such a cool gift. It's not pushy or creepy, because it's something a friend might give another friend, even if they weren't romantically interested. However, if there is romantic interest there it can say a lot.

Hmm... we just crossed into that over-analytical stage, didn't we?

 

[Eilan]

Hmm... we just crossed into that over-analytical stage, didn't we?

Yes, and haven't we already learned that thinking too much will get us into trouble?

 

[EJFan]

i have to agree with the majority... i think it's a great idea and i hope you're successful.

many years ago i was in a similar situation. things didn't work out, but what i learned was that if you let things evolve to "big" gifts, it doesn't necessarily mean they're "better" gifts. the thought really DOES count for more.

 

[bisexplicit]

temporary bijack: EJ, bitch, why aren't you ever on aim anymore?

 

[Eilan]

what i learned was that if you let things evolve to "big" gifts, it doesn't necessarily mean they're "better" gifts.

I thought that it wasn't about size, but about how you used it.

 

[SweetErika]

I think it's a very thoughtful gift and gesture that she really should appreciate. A lot of men never remember or think beyond flowers and store-bought cards...those are easy things that take little mental effort. A custom mug took you listening, remembering, and time and effort to get it made.

What are you planning on saying when you give it to her? I think that could make a lot of difference in how she reacts.

 

[Mackay]

Well she allready has an idea that i like her at least she should. I couple of times when alchol was involved we ended up sleeping together and we both left it as neither one of us is ready for a relationship and still friends I dont know what i plan to say to her. I have been rehersing it for a while know but nothing seems good enough. I guess i will just have to wing it. We were suposed to meet tonight but she was to exausted from work and i work a double tomarrow so its up for wensday.

Oh and yes every thing on the mug is spelled corectly I know my grammer is horible so i ran it through spell check like 5 or 6 times.

and I had it made i didnt make it my self. I am good with my hands but not that good.

 

[SweetErika]

Well she allready has an idea that i like her at least she should. I couple of times when alchol was involved we ended up sleeping together and we both left it as neither one of us is ready for a relationship and still friends I dont know what i plan to say to her. I have been rehersing it for a while know but nothing seems good enough. I guess i will just have to wing it. We were suposed to meet tonight but she was to exausted from work and i work a double tomarrow so its up for wensday.

Oh and yes every thing on the mug is spelled corectly I know my grammer is horible so i ran it through spell check like 5 or 6 times.

and I had it made i didnt make it my self. I am good with my hands but not that good.

I think you might get bonus points if you put it in a box and wrap it up as a gift. Just tell her you'd like to give her something, hand her the present, and you'll be able to go off her reaction. Chances are, she'll be really surprised and asked where you found it, and you can tell her you remembered her talking about it, got the impression her old mug was really special and you wanted to bring that back for her. You probably don't want to say anything too serious... keep it light, take cues from her, and go with what feels right.

 

[Mackay]

allready gift boxed with a card that says " for every thing you have done for me and you mean so much to me, first and formost friends allways"

 

[temp256]

I hope you ran that through a spell checker as well.

 

[Râleclins]

Errr... Well, if you say on this card something like "friends always", won't she understand "... and nothing else than friends" ??

Other than that, it's so romantic I'm thinking about stealing your idea.

 

[Mackay]

I am hopeing she takes it as i want to be friends no matter what happens between us. So tomarrow night is the night dun dun dun.................................

 

[Mackay]

bad luck

Well its going to have to wait 1 more night. She just got a new job and is working late so tomarrow it is. Well i have waited this long whats 1 more night

 

[Meat Whistler]

I admit it, I've been reading this thread. I'm still curious as to what her response was!

 

[Mackay]

sorry

sorry i havnt posted her response i have been rather busy. Well she loved it. Says its better than the first mug. nothing deffinate has come about yet she knows how i feel things feel like they are progressing slowly tword something dunno only time will tell

 

[Camarha]

well iw as going to vote romantic, but the polls closed. So. im saying it, go for it!

 

[Eilan]

So. im saying it, go for it!

Psst. . . If you read the post just above yours, you'll see that he already went for it.