Debbie
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The experience I have had with CYPS (Children and Young Persons Service) has been as a child my sister and I were removed from our Mother's care and placed with loving foster parents.
My Mother was severely depressed, drank a lot and neglected us in the sense of not sending us to school, making meals etc. She never hit us. But I was afraid of her. Her behaviour was completely erratic and terrifying.
Later we were place with our paternal Grandparents and CYPS were a part of our lives until I was 18. They did the right thing by my sister and I. We were lucky.
I have also, as an adult, had conversations with Social Workers who work for CYPS who have told me horrifying tales of some of the cases they have had to deal with. It sickens me when I recall some of them.
IMHO, CYPS is necessary in our society. Is it not better to have a possible scenario of neglect or abuse investigated than a child being killed or permanently injured?
Yes, for those of us parents who love our children and have an allegation laid against them it is a nightmare. I have felt a small amount of fear when my youngest child broke his arm at 18 months old and his elbow at 3. I was afraid I would be accused of abuse. I wasn't but because of my being removed from my Mother I used to have a fear that someone would think I was a good enough parent and CYPS would pay me a visit.
Being investigated would be very traumatic.
*Sigh* So many of our precious children are being neglected and hurt. CYPS workers have a damn hard job. And they see the things we don't. Horrific abuse on innocent children. And the continuing cycle of abuse may continue from generation to generation as the child who was abused follows his/her parents parenting.
These children do not have a 'voice' of their own. Some are too small to talk or are afraid. CYPS workers have a damn hard job.
My Mother was severely depressed, drank a lot and neglected us in the sense of not sending us to school, making meals etc. She never hit us. But I was afraid of her. Her behaviour was completely erratic and terrifying.
Later we were place with our paternal Grandparents and CYPS were a part of our lives until I was 18. They did the right thing by my sister and I. We were lucky.
I have also, as an adult, had conversations with Social Workers who work for CYPS who have told me horrifying tales of some of the cases they have had to deal with. It sickens me when I recall some of them.
IMHO, CYPS is necessary in our society. Is it not better to have a possible scenario of neglect or abuse investigated than a child being killed or permanently injured?
Yes, for those of us parents who love our children and have an allegation laid against them it is a nightmare. I have felt a small amount of fear when my youngest child broke his arm at 18 months old and his elbow at 3. I was afraid I would be accused of abuse. I wasn't but because of my being removed from my Mother I used to have a fear that someone would think I was a good enough parent and CYPS would pay me a visit.
Being investigated would be very traumatic.
*Sigh* So many of our precious children are being neglected and hurt. CYPS workers have a damn hard job. And they see the things we don't. Horrific abuse on innocent children. And the continuing cycle of abuse may continue from generation to generation as the child who was abused follows his/her parents parenting.
These children do not have a 'voice' of their own. Some are too small to talk or are afraid. CYPS workers have a damn hard job.
