Collar talk

[LittleSwitchy]

I just ordered my first collar!! I haven't been this excited about buying something in easily over a year!!

My master and I are also a long distance couple so a huge part of the reason I wanted one so desperately was so that while I'm feeling extremely submissive and needy during our times apart, I can wear that and feel safe, loved, cherished, and owned (of course, I have to get permission to put it on, which also helps with feeling cherished and owned).

I was wondering if that's really weird (my reason for wanting it so badly)...
Do any of you have collars? What do they mean to you? What are your rules with it?

What kinda collar do you want exactly? There is like 3 kind. A play collar. One wears it during play sessions. It doesn’t have to be that it’s worn with just one person. It can be worn with whoever during play.
There’s a collar of consideration. For lack of better way to put it. It’s kinda like. This one is mine. We are seeing how we are for possible long term. Kinda sorta like engagement ring.
Then there’s a collar that like a wedding ring. It’s 430 am the term for it is eluding me right now.
There’s another type of collar. It’s an everyday one. It can be any kinda necklace really. It’s given by the dominant. It lets the sun know they’re owned. But outsiders won’t know the meaning of the necklace to the dominant and submissive.

 

[colorfulnayyy]

I’ve always been interested and intrigued by the idea of being collard. I’ve worn a play version during a scene many years ago. I’d still hope to be give one by a dom in the future…

 

[IrisAlthea]

I’ve seen this bangle that I like a lot and I don’t even like bangles that much.
I think it could be used in place of a day collar.
Comes in polished steel too (slightly cheeper, and rose gold.
Several other things in their collections would probably work too.

 

[pumperguy191]

Interesting. If anyone watches MeTv, look at the commercial with Carol Burnett. Is she wearing a collar?

Also, I remember I was on a airplane flight and a sexy blonde stewardess was wearing one. The thoughts running through my mind.

 

[autologous]

I love seeing someone who loves to wear a collar I put on them. Something only for the very special ones.

 

[autologous]

I love my collar. It is a day collar. It is lovely and the little heart is a bell. View attachment 2184998

Beautiful!

 

[hbcacouple]

A collar that you buy for yourself may send a message. I consider a collar to be meaningful if it is furnished and then worn as a sybbol of whatever level of submission that you intend to display.
For a period, I wore a collar of some kind 24/7. As a professional woman, I wore a band that was more jewelry. Depending on nightime plans and exposure to others I wore anything from a something that would pass for a necklace to a leather band. On date nights, I would sometimes wear a dog collar or even a serious bondage collar with big and unmistakable rings or D-rings. It has always part of our fun to wear things that will provoke a reaction. And to wear them where there is a risk or likelyhood of running into someone that we know. We have both been "caught" in circumstances that required evasion, efforts to conceal exactly how exposed we might be or plain old embarassed explanation.

 

[sweettalk4u]

I just ordered my first collar!! I haven't been this excited about buying something in easily over a year!!

My master and I are also a long distance couple so a huge part of the reason I wanted one so desperately was so that while I'm feeling extremely submissive and needy during our times apart, I can wear that and feel safe, loved, cherished, and owned (of course, I have to get permission to put it on, which also helps with feeling cherished and owned).

I was wondering if that's really weird (my reason for wanting it so badly)...
Do any of you have collars? What do they mean to you? What are your rules with it?

Collars are and should be very defined as to the purpose of each and there are several!

 

[NakedNymph]

I love wearing a collar and leash when I'm trying to feel vulnerable and excited, like when I'm out naked in semi-public, but I wouldn't want someone else to use it. The thrill is in risking being caught wearing one, and having those people draw the obvious (but mostly wrong!) conclusions about what a naked collared girl is up to. Tying the leash to something firm like a pole is one of the scariest fucking things I've ever done, but it makes for such a good time knowing that I can't easily run away. But what's important most of all is that I'm the one in control the whole time.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Not a fan. Went to club once that members of invites only. All subs had to wear collars. If the sub was taken they had to have a leash attached. Some of those people really got in to it. It was interesting to see but it wasn’t our thing.

 

[Bbl87]

My wife likes to be collared a decent amount of the time. Sometimes with a leash, sometimes with cuffs attached to restrict her arms. I could take it or leave it, but hey, if it tickles her fancy...

She also has a day collar bracelet that she wears, it's a fun little thing that only the two of us know about. One of her friends commented about how she really liked it, she was a little nervous she'd asked where she ordered it (it was from a BDSM shop on Etsy, haha).

 

[traill]

We've been talking a bit about collaring and the possibility of a day necklace or something of the kind. The idea really excites me and touched me to no end. Are there any particular Etsy shops some of you would recommend that also have collars that are suitable for men?

 

[sweettalk4u]

We've been talking a bit about collaring and the possibility of a day necklace or something of the kind. The idea really excites me and touched me to no end. Are there any particular Etsy shops some of you would recommend that also have collars that are suitable for men?

A leather strap that could be worn around the neck or a smaller one that could be worn elsewhere
Also a cock ring works well there too

 

[traill]

A leather strap that could be worn around the neck or a smaller one that could be worn elsewhere
Also a cock ring works well there too

I was wondering more about a few possible stores I'm pretty sure my Goddess has a specific idea for my playcollar, and I'm thinking of just a simple necklace for men with an O-ring as my day collar.

 

[sweettalk4u]

I was wondering more about a few possible stores I'm pretty sure my Goddess has a specific idea for my playcollar, and I'm thinking of just a simple necklace for men with an O-ring as my day collar.

Or simple metal ring that says you belong to her

 

[seekingAlpha]

I have always looked at collars from two different perspectives. A lot of times your sub or slave needs a collar for functional or training purposes. I like to use collars for bondage purposes, tie down points and control points. In my opinion, a collar is the perfect place to tie off an anal hook so the sub/slave still has mobility and it is simple enough that it does not get in the way of anything else. In addition, it is an absolute necessity during pet training as well for proper leading and development. The other perspective involves the significance of the collar and I personally take that part very seriously. I find an immenesly large difference in giving my sub/slave a collar verses ceremoniously collaring them. In my opinion, giving my sub/slave a collar formalizes the relationship and makes it official whereas a collaring ceremony is the next progrssion and is more like a marriage and at a much deeper level.
As for day collars, they can be anything wearable that has been agreed upon that has special meaning. In a lot of cases discreetness is imperative.

 

[Bbl87]

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Very cute!