Completely illogical cock size topic

[CumalotCastle]

Hi all,

I have been dating a girl for almost a year. Quick background -

She once slept with my mate (but like 5 years ago)
She says I'm the biggest she's ever had (cock size)

Now this will sound absolutely stupid - But I don't believe her that I could be her biggest. My cock is 7.5 long (measured along the top from the stomach) and 6 inches around. Now I know its a bit chunky but she is bound to have met someone longer I;m sure!

Now you could say does it matter? Well it doesn't, except my ex was a lying cheating cow and cheated on me loads it turned out - but admittedly it was a poor relationship. This one is brilliant, but if any white lies are told I feel like it is heading that way again.

Any advice or mind easing comments please?

Thanking you kindly

PS/ Yeah the mate thing comes in because everyone I know seems to spread rumours I have a big cock. Now girlfriend describes this guy as "Bigger than average but much smaller than me", yet I only class myself as bigger than average.

I know I'm being stupid but still.......Thanks for your time

 

[ReadyOne]

Statistically speaking, only 1 guy in 20 is larger than you. Does that help?

 

[CumalotCastle]

Statistically speaking, only 1 guy in 20 is larger than you. Does that help?

I don't believe those stats! Every other guy seems to be loading an 8 incher when you talk to girls and your mates.

 

[rthnck]

If you're not happy with the stats which are just averages compiled from thousands upon thousands of measurements. And your're not happy with the answer that you are above average and you believe that you are somehow inadequate despite all the ego-stroking evidence you have to the contrary, then there is no use trying to answer your post.

You can google "average penis size" and get more than enough statistics about the male population in general but if you choose not to believe them then you're just going to have to go through life lamenting your "teenie weenie".

 

[SweetErika]

Even if she did tell you a white lie, that doesn't mean your relationship is headed for doom and gloom. I'm sure you tell white lies or skirt the brutal truth every now and to spare the feelings of people you care about. Doing so doesn't mean you're a habitual liar or cheater, it just means you care enough to be gentle, especially when the issue is inconsequential (like the size of your cock, for instance; even if it was smaller than average or completely awful to have sex with, it's not like you can change it).

Stop focusing on your cock and find some security. Women like confidence.

 

[SweetErika]

I don't believe those stats! Every other guy seems to be loading an 8 incher when you talk to girls and your mates.

Yep, and just about every guy on the internet boasts 8", so it must be true.

If you bother to look around, you'll see the 8 inch cock is totally cliche. I'm not sure why guys tend to pick that particular number. 7.5" is probably the second most popular size, but from empirical research, we know that size isn't all that common, either.

 

[CumalotCastle]

Erika, you seem to have good advice. I agree with you about the confidence therefore I am here and not talking this through with her. But where does that line cross on a relationship? The moment I start talking to her about any subject that could be seen as a confidence issue I've ballsed up?

Scenario my mind conjures - I'd love a relationship where I could talk honestly about our exes and experiences, so if she pretends I'm the biggest and bigger than my mate, despite knowing the truth, how can we talk about her past experiences?

Should I just swallow this all and get on with the great sex? Of course. Should I not tell her my concerns and get reassurance one last time? Probably. But am I entitled to ask about "her previous lovers" and vice versa?

 

[Eilan]

Yep, and just about every guy on the internet boasts 8", so it must be true.

Fortunately, my husband's 12.25 inches of hot cyber-meat speaks for itself. And he knows he's not even the biggest I've had.

 

[rthnck]

Yep, and just about every guy on the internet boasts 8", so it must be true.

If you bother to look around, you'll see the 8 inch cock is totally cliche. I'm not sure why guys tend to pick that particular number. 7.5" is probably the second most popular size, but from empirical research, we know that size isn't all that common, either.

I think the proliferation of porn clips on the internet doesn't help much either. Those of smaller dimensions are not porn stars and even amateurs aren't really going to make their clips available if they are not at least satisfied with what they are displaying. If I ignore statistics and use porn clips as my measuring stick there's a good chance I'll feel inadequate. Erika is certainly right that you should be happy with what you have and learn to use it to the best of its abilities.

As to the predominance of 8; 12 is unrealistic, 10 sounds good but still seems like an exaggeration, 9 and 11 are attempts to exaggerate without being "cocky" while 8 seems just right. Larger than average at the upper end of the believability scale. Middle numbers like 7.5 make it seem like you are rounding up to be bigger than you are. 7 may be above average but it doesn't sound impressively above average so ..... 8 it is.

 

[Eilan]

But am I entitled to ask about "her previous lovers" and vice versa?

Absolutely. But you'd damn well better be able to handle the answers you get.

 

[SweetErika]

But where does that line cross on a relationship? The moment I start talking to her about any subject that could be seen as a confidence issue I've ballsed up?

There's honest communication and then there's constantly seeking validation. You're not saying, "I'm a little insecure about my lovemaking skills. How can I give you more pleasure?," you're seeking validation of your cock size, which is something you have no reason to be insecure about and can't change.

It's like, would you want your gf to frequently say, "I'm so ugly. How could you possibly find me attractive?" in an effort to get validation from you? Or would you more likely ditch her and find a more secure gf after the hundredth time she said that?

Scenario my mind conjures - I'd love a relationship where I could talk honestly about our exes and experiences, so if she pretends I'm the biggest and bigger than my mate, despite knowing the truth, how can we talk about her past experiences?

Accept what she says as the truth until you have definitive proof she's lying out of malice and move on.

At the same time, you can leave your cock out of it. Your cock doesn't make you a good or bad lover or boyfriend. It's just a body part, FFS.

Should I just swallow this all and get on with the great sex? Of course. Should I not tell her my concerns and get reassurance one last time? Probably. But am I entitled to ask about "her previous lovers" and vice versa?

Why do you need to know about her previous lovers and vice versa? What good will it do to live in the past like that? It's one thing to use past experiences to improve current and future experiences (e.g. telling her you're working on trust due to your last relationship, or discussing sexual history for health purposes), but you're just talking about rehashing the past in an effort to improve your ego.

 

[human_male]

You have a great relationship with a girl you really like.

You have a larger than average penis.

Be happy.

Love, Matza.

 

[bailadora]

But am I entitled to ask about "her previous lovers" and vice versa?

No, you are not entitled to any knowledge regarding her past unless it's something she chooses to share with you. IMO, it's one thing if she wants to share positive sexual experiences, but the "dirty details" (as it were) are really none of your damn business. Dude, you know you are being illogical, so the only advice I can give you is to get over it and move on, unless you want to piss her off because you are more focused on your anatomy than the relationship.

 

[tenchikoi]

As a woman and in my personal opinion, I don't like it when a guy is very long. I find it uncomfortable. But, if he's nice and chunky in girth then I'm all smiles. I much prefer that tight, full feeling rather than having my cervix poked.

I wouldn't worry about little white lies, if she even fibbed or not. The way I see it, she can either be considerate of your feelings or tell you something that would obviously be hurtful and uncalled for.

Pick your battles carefully.

 

[iluvyou3638]

I don't believe those stats! Every other guy seems to be loading an 8 incher when you talk to girls and your mates.

"when you talk to girls and friends?" seriously? even my cock is 8 inches long when i'm trying to impress people.

 

[Mansa Musa]

Here's a piece of advice, because I didn't come to this conclusion until I was 27 years old: The bigger the cock, the more likely it's owner is going to show it off.

It sounds like you've watched more than your fair share of porn (I'll assume) because you're convinced that there are thousands of larger men in the world, and that at least one of them has been encased in your GF's pussy. Yes, you aren't the biggest man on the planet, and yes, it's likely that your girlfriend has met a man with a bigger cock than yours.

Now, to pull all of the pieces together...

1. Despite what you've seen in porn, God doesn't just go around handing out 9-12 inch cocks to every other man (or 1 out of 100, or even 1 out of 1000 men) on the planet. In fact, as far as I've seen with my own eyes, God's relatively selfish with the bigger than average 6.5-8.5 cocks. And this bit of information is coming from a man who's active-duty military (the joys of communal showering), a trained medical technician with loads of ER experience (the things that get lodged in human orifices will shock and amaze you), and an inveterate swinger (I've never shied away from admitting it).

In 7 months of military training, I only saw 1 guy who was better furnished than I am.

In 13 years of medicine (as an orderly, then paramedic training, then ER pharmacy tech), I've seen maybe 5 guys who were better furnished than I am. And (during a three day stay in hospital), I was gawked at and cosseted as if I had fallen to Earth. One of the nurses (after I was discharged, and while we were talking over a beer) told me that I had the largest cock that she'd ever seen.

And in 9 years of being the stunt cock/bull/gangbang anchor/photo taker, I've met (maybe) another dozen guys who were better endowed than I am. Out of those guys, two of them possessed the near mythical 10+ inch penis. I've enjoyed the attentions of more than one woman who said that I was the biggest that she'd ever had. I've been measured against other men (I have low self esteem, so sue me!) and won by 0.9-2.5 centimeters far more often than not. I won't even begin to go into the numbers of people who've seen me naked and blanched, or smiled, or made rude comments or all three at the same time. And yet, I wouldn't be given a job in porn if I offered to pay my own way. I'd have to set up my own company before I'd ever be seen on video. So be thankful for what you've got, because quite a few of the men on this board would gleefully slit your throat for the opportunity to measure up to you.

2. Even if she's lying about her experiences, you're a fucking adult. Whenever you start to feel apprehensive, or nervous, or small, take a deep breath and say, "She's still here with me, and she loves me, so what the hell am I worrying about?" Barring a micropenis, your size isn't important. It's your attitude, your swagger and your skills (carnal, mind you) that are more important than the size of your rise.

3. Anyone can say anything about their cock, or anyone else's tackle. If I wanted to, I could walk around telling people that I could use my cock as a propeller. It doesn't make it true, mind. So stop worrying about some "mythical beast" and start worrying about keeping your game face on. Because (as I learned the hard way) you don't get invited back for an encore if your fingering and blowing are substandard. It isn't the instrument, it's the player and his technique. And if she did meet one of your chimarae, she sure as hell didn't stay with him, so size doesn't matter that much, does it?

 

[tryptamine]

Yep mate you're right.

I for example sport a weighty thirteen inches and my balls vibrate on demand to provide clitoral stimulation during doggy style. After consulting with all my mates is about average, so I reckon you should dump this lying cow and get yourself a bigger penis.

(know what I'm saying?)

 

[SweetErika]

In fact, as far as I've seen with my own eyes, God's relatively selfish with the bigger than average 6.5-8.5 cocks.

Are you saying the average is 6.5-8.5 inches, or that's your bigger than average range?

Everything I've read says the average is 5-6" in length and 4-5" in circumference (these were staff-measured studies, not self-measured or internet surveys).

 

[Zoots_owner]

Longer's not necessarily better, after a point it's going to mean uncomfortable or painful. So it's not something you should be worrying about. Natural selection has ensured that a reasonably normal sized P in a normal sized V works well, and weeded out the extremes. Who likes being weeded out?

The only thing that's always better is being more skilled, and those who want to will learn.

 

[wildehafer]

What Mansa said

FFS you could have (or be) the biggest dick in the world, but if you're an asshole or just think a "big cock" is all it takes to swing a girl in a relationship you've sadly struck out.

So what if she's had bigger? If she's with you and happy because of who you are and not what you are ie. cock size then what's the problem?

Time to put your size insecurities aside and realize that what's between your ears is more important to a woman (most of them anyways) than what's between your legs.

And if you use the grey matter in your skull you can do more with the rest of you than what your cock can. Mouth, fingers, hands, words. A cock is just for fucking. Try making love to your girl with the rest of your body.

I'm happy to say "I'm average" as far as the stats go, but I've never failed to satisfy a woman because of it. There is more to life than penis size.

 

[IsabellaKing]

As a woman and in my personal opinion, I don't like it when a guy is very long. I find it uncomfortable. But, if he's nice and chunky in girth then I'm all smiles. I much prefer that tight, full feeling rather than having my cervix poked.

Well said, tenchikoi.

These average size statistics have gotta be flawed. I reckon that guys with smaller cocks aren't gonna be measuring and then shouting about their findings.

 

[klippert]

smile and wave

As a woman and in my personal opinion, I don't like it when a guy is very long. I find it uncomfortable. But, if he's nice and chunky in girth then I'm all smiles. I much prefer that tight, full feeling rather than having my cervix poked.

I wouldn't worry about little white lies, if she even fibbed or not. The way I see it, she can either be considerate of your feelings or tell you something that would obviously be hurtful and uncalled for.

Pick your battles carefully.

You nailed it tenchikoi. Just go with it....you will wreck yourself worrying about it. Me, personally, I find it a turn on when MrsK tells me about her past sexual exploits.

Mrsk has had two biggies...one 'Huge' (her words) the other rather big...and not very impressed with either. MrsK likes what i carry...and really likes how thick I am. She's much like you Tenchikoi, likes them thick. She doesn't like them bottoming out.

The huge one, she couldn't but get little in her mouth and didn't even try to gti in her.

The other big one, was more long than thick. Oral was better, but she felt like a pin cushion.....and he would bottom out all the time...this is why she doesn't lid doggy style.

Your girlfriend was sleeping with your mate. I would expect her too fib some. Be very careful when you start asking questions, you might NOT like the answer.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Erika, you seem to have good advice. I agree with you about the confidence therefore I am here and not talking this through with her. But where does that line cross on a relationship? The moment I start talking to her about any subject that could be seen as a confidence issue I've ballsed up?

Scenario my mind conjures - I'd love a relationship where I could talk honestly about our exes and experiences, so if she pretends I'm the biggest and bigger than my mate, despite knowing the truth, how can we talk about her past experiences?

Should I just swallow this all and get on with the great sex? Of course. Should I not tell her my concerns and get reassurance one last time? Probably. But am I entitled to ask about "her previous lovers" and vice versa?

This is not about her or even about your cock. This is about you feeling inadequate beside your mate. I am here to tell you that angst like this is pointless. Everybody has different qualities and even if he is slightly bigger than you, it's not like you're ever going to see his cock (are you?) so you shouldn't care. She has chosen to be with you and that should be all that matters.

If she asked whether her tits were as big as your ex's and they were only slightly smaller you'd lie, wouldn't you and it would be a kindness. I also think it's telling that you are quick to disbelieve her story but not what your mates have said. Guys exaggerate about everything. How many little white lies and embellishments have you told over the years to appear better in front of your mates?

You'll never know.

It doesn't matter.

Grow up.

Get over it.

 

[MagicFingers]

correction

Fortunately, my husband's 12.25 inches of hot cyber-meat speaks for itself. And he knows he's not even the biggest I've had.

That's 12.25 CENTIMETERS.

 

[Eilan]

That's 12.25 CENTIMETERS.

Hey, if it's on the Internet, it's 100% true, ya know.