Hey I'm 18 and I just lost my virginity to my amazing girlfriend but I have a problem... When I use a condom within about 10 minutes my penis gets soft. The condoms aren't too tight, I know I lose some sensation but she gets very discouraged and I just want to fix this problem. I don't want to not use a condom because I don't trust it... Has anyone ever had this problem? me and my best friend both lost our virginity within a month and it's the same problem for him too. I have sex quite often but we both get very discouraged when my penis gets soft while wearing a condom. HELP!!!
Condoms suck!
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Try using a different condom. Some are thicker than others. If you can try Durex feather light.cm3rt said:
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Masturbating with condoms helps most guys.
You should also be putting a couple of drops (not more, or it can slip off during sex/withdrawl) of lube in the tip before putting it on, to increase sensitivity. Hubby says that helps immensely, and condoms have been our main form of BC for many years now.
You might also try increasing stimulation with fantasizing/focusing on especially hot thoughts, talking dirty, switching positions, having your partner stimulate your erogenous zones, etc. Keep you mind and body focused on the sex so you don't get a chance to think about the possibility of losing your erection or the condom.
You should also be putting a couple of drops (not more, or it can slip off during sex/withdrawl) of lube in the tip before putting it on, to increase sensitivity. Hubby says that helps immensely, and condoms have been our main form of BC for many years now.
You might also try increasing stimulation with fantasizing/focusing on especially hot thoughts, talking dirty, switching positions, having your partner stimulate your erogenous zones, etc. Keep you mind and body focused on the sex so you don't get a chance to think about the possibility of losing your erection or the condom.
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use lambskin condoms which transmit heat and can provide more sensation or stroll over to http://www.condomania.com and shop away or get a variety pack and experiment.
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cm3rt said:
try different condoms or it could be a maturity level....who knows
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I should have your problems.
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If you were around me you would, human, ya little cutiehuman_male said:
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MoonShadowLady said:
Or it could just be that condoms suck.
What does that have to do with maturity?
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Jenny_Jackson said:If you were around me you would, human, ya little cutie
You're just teasing me. But it's a nice thought.
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I know how you feel. Here's what you do.
1. Find the right condom for you. I'm not really impressed with the ultra thin ones...I like the ones with a balloon shaped end. They're normal shape until the bit that goes around the head of your penis, which is round and has heaps more space, shaped like a balloon. This allows more movement. Those are my favourite kind, if you haven't tried them already give them a go.
2. Put a drop of a water based lubricant into the end of the condom before putting it on. Like, on the bit that is going to go on the head of your dick. This will increase the sensitivity as well.
After you've done that it's all about experience. Masturbating with a condom on will also help you get used to it. Good luck!
1. Find the right condom for you. I'm not really impressed with the ultra thin ones...I like the ones with a balloon shaped end. They're normal shape until the bit that goes around the head of your penis, which is round and has heaps more space, shaped like a balloon. This allows more movement. Those are my favourite kind, if you haven't tried them already give them a go.
2. Put a drop of a water based lubricant into the end of the condom before putting it on. Like, on the bit that is going to go on the head of your dick. This will increase the sensitivity as well.
After you've done that it's all about experience. Masturbating with a condom on will also help you get used to it. Good luck!
I never really have had a problem as far as losing my erection with a condom, but I guess my erections sometimes are "hindered" by condoms.
I recently switched over to polyurethane condoms and have been happy with them. They are thinner than even the "thin" condoms and transmit body heat VERY well. A little pricier than latex, but worth it, IMO.
I used Durex Extra Sensitive for the longest time and was never unhappy with them. Have never seen the Feather Lights... are those sold in the US?
Lube also does help, and just making sure you are ready to go before you put the condom on makes a difference, too... And get your girl involved, have her lube up the outside of the condom with her hand - that should keep you going strong.
Good luck!
EDIT: And get that girl on birth control... Don't worry, and you'll be happy!
I recently switched over to polyurethane condoms and have been happy with them. They are thinner than even the "thin" condoms and transmit body heat VERY well. A little pricier than latex, but worth it, IMO.
I used Durex Extra Sensitive for the longest time and was never unhappy with them. Have never seen the Feather Lights... are those sold in the US?
Lube also does help, and just making sure you are ready to go before you put the condom on makes a difference, too... And get your girl involved, have her lube up the outside of the condom with her hand - that should keep you going strong.
Good luck!
EDIT: And get that girl on birth control... Don't worry, and you'll be happy!
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tanyachrs said:
Not entirely true...
Compared to latex condoms, polyurethane condoms have been shown in lab tests to be just as effective as barriers to sperm and the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). Furthermore, correct and consistent use of condoms (latex or polyurethane) during sexual intercourse greatly reduces the risk of an unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Actually, latex and polyurethane condoms are the only birth control products that also help protect against HIV.
Latex vs. Poly
Polyurethane condoms have not been well studied for preventing sexually transmitted infections (STIs), but they're believed to offer as much, or even more, protection than latex condoms. However, they're pricier than latex condoms.
Compare all three...
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Could it be that this is a psychological issue? Everytime it happens you begin to worry about it more, and in my experience nothing makes a penis softer than a man panicking about it being hard enough.
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Honeybee80 said:
It can't be said enough. An erection is more mental than physical. Think the wrong thing at the wrong time and you're holding a limp noodle in a split second.
And from there it will only get worse. The more a man worries and panicks about the lack of stiffness, the less chance there is to get the blood pumping right again. It's frustrating for all involved....
Poly condoms rule
I have the same problem as you - I HATE connies - 9/10 times they end up ruing everything. BUT I have used the poly (Trojan Supras) and they work wonders. Ive been able to go 3-4 times with these things - try that with regs. They are alot more expensive, but worth every bit. ONE thing though; if you have a larger than average cock they do break easier
I have the same problem as you - I HATE connies - 9/10 times they end up ruing everything. BUT I have used the poly (Trojan Supras) and they work wonders. Ive been able to go 3-4 times with these things - try that with regs. They are alot more expensive, but worth every bit. ONE thing though; if you have a larger than average cock they do break easier
