...cum at will?

[jethrobodeen]

Hmmm. You ever watch porn together?

Yeah, we did for a period of time, starting fairly early in our marriage, but she's always been just a little shy and she could rarely go very long watching without the transition to going at it ourselves. She knows how visually-oriented I am and I think she wants my attention more than she wants to watch the movie, or more than she wants me to want to watch the movie, if you can follow a little madman babble....

Eventually, she started shying away from the adult section on our video rental binges and discouraged me from renting them. I missed watching them with her, but being in leading-edge IT, I found Internet porn early on, when NCSA was releasing alphas of MOSAIC, the grandfather of web browsers, and the www consortium was forming, when penthouse.com and hustler.com were wide open and free and WOW 1993, Usenet groups had countless vids shared without the heavy sell that keeps me away now. I've always had high speed internet available and downloads were a breeze. It didn't take away from our sex lives though. It really enhanced it. I studied them as I enjoyed, and I know that porn doesn't equal real life, but amature and pro alike, I gained great insight to techniques, positions, what I felt I could sometimes judge as acting and actual response, also searched for things on the net, which is how I found out about g-spot, after seeing and hearing about it vids and then searching for info. That was mid 1990s.

I wouldn't recommend this course for most guys though, sometimes it's easier to go through life uninformed IMHO, knowledge can be a curse because what needs to follow knowledge is often said to be self-control. But somehow I was spared any actual porn addiction, probably because of my extremely hot wife always so willing to receive from me. So instead of addictively wanking to the vids (don't get me wrong, I'd get plenty of solo pleasure too), I'd view a few naughty bits which would get me revved up before coming to bed and ready to try something new. She never objected to my Internet porn, I think for exactly those reasons, though I would often encourage to take a look at something that I thought would interest her, sometimes she would endulge me. That was back about when we started going for hours at a time, sending her to the moon with multiples before blasting off myself (usually).

We even made a vid ourselves one time. Some how, I even injured myself as she was riding me cowgirl, I burst a vein and had a huge purple bruise on the side of my shaft. Looked really scary, but I don't seem to recall much discomfort associated with it....strange, those ramblings bouncing around up there (points to head).

-JB

 

[Society]

I don't think I could practice this enough. Just going 1 day makes me way too sensitive, so yeah...I don't last long.

 

[jethrobodeen]

I don't think I could practice this enough. Just going 1 day makes me way too sensitive, so yeah...I don't last long.

Practice what enough? cum at will or delay ejaculation? Sorry, my reading is slurred......

-JB

 

[vanelane]

Yeah, we did for a period of time, starting fairly early in our marriage, but she's always been just a little shy and she could rarely go very long watching without the transition to going at it ourselves. She knows how visually-oriented I am and I think she wants my attention more than she wants to watch the movie, or more than she wants me to want to watch the movie, if you can follow a little madman babble....

Eventually, she started shying away from the adult section on our video rental binges and discouraged me from renting them. I missed watching them with her, but being in leading-edge IT, I found Internet porn early on, when NCSA was releasing alphas of MOSAIC, the grandfather of web browsers, and the www consortium was forming, when penthouse.com and hustler.com were wide open and free and WOW 1993, Usenet groups had countless vids shared without the heavy sell that keeps me away now. I've always had high speed internet available and downloads were a breeze. It didn't take away from our sex lives though. It really enhanced it. I studied them as I enjoyed, and I know that porn doesn't equal real life, but amature and pro alike, I gained great insight to techniques, positions, what I felt I could sometimes judge as acting and actual response, also searched for things on the net, which is how I found out about g-spot, after seeing and hearing about it vids and then searching for info. That was mid 1990s.

I wouldn't recommend this course for most guys though, sometimes it's easier to go through life uninformed IMHO, knowledge can be a curse because what needs to follow knowledge is often said to be self-control. But somehow I was spared any actual porn addiction, probably because of my extremely hot wife always so willing to receive from me. So instead of addictively wanking to the vids (don't get me wrong, I'd get plenty of solo pleasure too), I'd view a few naughty bits which would get me revved up before coming to bed and ready to try something new. She never objected to my Internet porn, I think for exactly those reasons, though I would often encourage to take a look at something that I thought would interest her, sometimes she would endulge me. That was back about when we started going for hours at a time, sending her to the moon with multiples before blasting off myself (usually).

We even made a vid ourselves one time. Some how, I even injured myself as she was riding me cowgirl, I burst a vein and had a huge purple bruise on the side of my shaft. Looked really scary, but I don't seem to recall much discomfort associated with it....strange, those ramblings bouncing around up there (points to head).

-JB

Oh my, you are a geek, aren't ya? (Note: author is married to one and highly recommends them)

Well, I was just thinking you might find some porn that shows a woman truly making love to a man's cock in the way you'd like it and share that with her. Don't know if she'd take it as criticism, though, after reading your recent posts.

 

[M's girl]

Oh my, you are a geek, aren't ya? (Note: author is married to one and highly recommends them)

Well, I was just thinking you might find some porn that shows a woman truly making love to a man's cock in the way you'd like it and share that with her. Don't know if she'd take it as criticism, though, after reading your recent posts.

Yeah..... check out Michael NINN's "Pop, the beauty of the blowjob", you should be able to pick one or two you'd prefer from those 'tapes'.... Having said that... is't it all about the attitude, willingness and eagerness that makes it exciting? If she does not FEEL what she is doing to you I don't see how you are going to enjoy it any better.

 

[jethrobodeen]

Oh my, you are a geek, aren't ya? (Note: author is married to one and highly recommends them)

Well, I was just thinking you might find some porn that shows a woman truly making love to a man's cock in the way you'd like it and share that with her. Don't know if she'd take it as criticism, though, after reading your recent posts.

Heh, yes, I have plenty of geek in me, post secondary engineering education, forever the student on a knowldege quest, and I sometimes wish I were that simple. But I'm a lot more complicated than that. I'm also athletic, black belt, working on second black belt, self-employed, and businessman. I put myself in dangerous places to align and install microwave dish data communications. I downhill ski at the highest speeds I can attain while still maintaining control. I wouldn't say I have a death wish, but rather seeking the adrenalin rush. I have being seeing my doctor for mid-life stuff, and he's put me on meds and sent me to a counselor, Duh? Ya think? But I still get the burn....if only I could be content with being just a geek.

As far as getting her educational material, she's seen a lot, but also forgotten a lot, and I wear her out before giving her a turn on me, so, well you can read my other posts rather than me repeating here...And she is not at all open to criticism, but then I haven't been tender enough with her to balance the naughtiness, or so it seems to be what she is trying to tell me.

God, in real life, I'm a man of few words, but I've been going on and on in Lit groups. There's just a lot inside me that needs to get out I guess. But still my place in the community has me withholding some truths from counseling, I know their professional ethics would prevent any info leakage about me, but then medical instutions are part of my target market and I provided services for 5 years to the hospital where my doctor is in charge of the outpatient facility. I just wouldn't want them to know how twisted I really am.

-JB

 

[jethrobodeen]

Yeah..... check out Michael NINN's "Pop, the beauty of the blowjob", you should be able to pick one or two you'd prefer from those 'tapes'.... Having said that... is't it all about the attitude, willingness and eagerness that makes it exciting? If she does not FEEL what she is doing to you I don't see how you are going to enjoy it any better.

M's Girl, thanks. I'll save this for the future time that we have worked through some relationship baggage. I can wait, and focus on some more tender emotional side of us being together and reconnecting. I have been scary lately and that will block her energy towards me.

-JB

 

[M's girl]

M's Girl, thanks. I'll save this for the future time that we have worked through some relationship baggage. I can wait, and focus on some more tender emotional side of us being together and reconnecting. I have been scary lately and that will block her energy towards me.

-JB

You're welcome. Very wise, that is far more important. And like I said (or was that in another thread.... ya know sometimes ) anyway, I said somewhere that in the end it's also not the technique per se; it's the willingness, devotion, eagerness if you will that makes it all exciting. And thát will stem from 'things' being right, or at least that will be important!

 

[throbbin bob]

Thank you vanelane for your encouragement.

I'm not really talking about cumming on command. I'm talking about recognizing the right time in a marathon love session, before its too late, and then be able to turn the orgasm switch back on for me "at will".

Holding back is like putting the reverse thrusters into gear, like many have said before, it's what we've trained ourselves to do. If you want to activate the thrusters, push forward full throddle.... make squeezing motions in your penis, like your trying to squirt out the last of several shots of cum, do this over & over when you want to cum, it'll work it's way to the top in pretty short order, then ease back when you fill it cumming on, the pump will have been primed and it's a matter of time, before all will fly in fairly short order!

 

[jethrobodeen]

Holding back is like putting the reverse thrusters into gear, like many have said before, it's what we've trained ourselves to do. If you want to activate the thrusters, push forward full throddle.... make squeezing motions in your penis, like your trying to squirt out the last of several shots of cum, do this over & over when you want to cum, it'll work it's way to the top in pretty short order, then ease back when you fill it cumming on, the pump will have been primed and it's a matter of time, before all will fly in fairly short order!

Yeah, before I wear out the muscles from kegeling, I can pump so much blood into my dick and the senstivity is intense. But my problem is I can pass that state without orgasming or ejaculating (I don't know the diff yet, but I am beginning to believe there is) often more than once.

Through communication between us, which has always been difficult, I am finding out how to fix the root cause of a current and important problem between us. And give her opportunity to please me maybe, or likely more often both of us share simultaneous ecstacy, before my PCs (or is it BCs for guys) muscles are kegeled-out (like 1-2 hrs of continuous love making) and my penile nerves are numb.

-JB