Cumming on command

[average_red]

My exes (Dominant's) enjoyed this kink. I loved being obedient; but it came with a price - constant edging, denial, overstimulation, and ruines before I could comply. Not fun for me

that does sound unpleasant. Any tips for training it as efficiently as possible?

 

[SmilingLez]

that does sound unpleasant. Any tips for training it as efficiently as possible?

Lots and lots of praise and aftercare

 

[average_red]

Lots and lots of praise and aftercare

I know that I am not supposed to admit it but that's my favorite part... now I need to know how I am doing it wrong if that's the trick and it never started happening for me.

 

[Theatreslut]

I know that I am not supposed to admit it but that's my favorite part... now I need to know how I am doing it wrong if that's the trick and it never started happening for me.

What I’ve read is that you train by edging and not cumming until given the command. The dom can also give the command when you are obviously ready to cum. Pair that with praise and aftercare. Eventually the command gives basically a Pavlovian response and make you cum.

But that is the theory. Idk how training works in practice because I just do it. It’s a reaponse to the command in the right tone of voice.

 

[average_red]

What I’ve read is that you train by edging and not cumming until given the command. The dom can also give the command when you are obviously ready to cum. Pair that with praise and aftercare. Eventually the command gives basically a Pavlovian response and make you cum.

But that is the theory. Idk how training works in practice because I just do it. It’s a reaponse to the command in the right tone of voice.

many thanks, that would explain why it never "just happened" for me, I wasn't trying to so I simply wasn't consistent enough with the command.

 

[Subbyslutwife]

how did he train you? I don't like asking the internet about these questions because at this point I don't know what is genuine and what is fantasy, but it seems like something that would be amazing in a relationship.

A lot of edging.

 

[Aussieguy8]

I've trained a couple of subs to do this. They were both people who came easily and were very mentally connected to their orgasm rather than physically. Before I started I could get them most of the way just by whispering in their ear and they both easily went into subspace.

Then it was essentially Pavolvian conditioning. Edge them, get them close. Only let them cum when I said the word cum. Over time they didn't have to be as close. Then eventually they could cum from verbal only commands.... as long as they were at least in some subspace. The further they were away from it the smaller the orgasm though.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

If I was on exhibit for a while and was subject to a bit of verbal abuse and humiliation I would have a flow on command be it a command from a woman or man. Never a climax and never what should be called a ejaculation where the sperm flies out with force. Just a big hurt in my penis and a sudden short flow . Women thought it so funny and the guys called me nasty things. Yet I secretly glowed inside

 

[Dom70]

It has been my pleasure to have trained two submissives to cum on command. Both of them LOVED the ability to be able to do that...but always looked askance at me if I teased them in public...that I was going to make them cum RIGHT THERE !!! THAT made it fun for us and not a humiliating 'chore' for them. There WERE times when they DID cum in public however. I never used that as a punishment...ONLY for pure pleasure for them. My current submissive thinks she has learned how to breathe so no one notices her excitement...but it is time to prove her wrong methinks !!! (evil little smirk)

 

[always__thinking]

I've had a good amount of success with this over the years (not universal, but certainly most subs with whom I've had some longer term contact and connection). The most enjoyable part is when a woman doesn't think it will be possible with her, and she's eventually proven wrong.