Cumming ushers in the sleepiness

[HarlemBlade]

So my current girlfriend and I almost always have great sex. The only problem is, I tend to get a bit sleepy after I cum. The intercourse is usually pretty long... at least 20 minutes, often up to 30 or 40. I wonder if that contributes... Would shorter fuck sessions be less tiring? Her and I both want to be able to continue on afterwards and maybe go for a second or third round, but I always get way too sleepy. She gives fantastic BJs, so I also really want to be able to cum from her BJ and then fool around for a while before moving onto sex.

So any advice on keeping awake and alert?

btw, I'm 23 and exercise several times a week so I don't know why the heck I have this problem.

 

[LadyJeanne]

start earlier in the evening?

 

[HarlemBlade]

You know... you might just be right. When I think about it, we often don't get started until 11pm or later...

 

[xDonkeyxPunchx]

work on endurance, you can be physicaly fit and have low endurance. Work on doing exercises that will push your ability to go long periods of time being active.

 

[English Lady]

Don't cum until you've played and played and played to each others satisfaction. Massive clitoral orgasm in me makes me sleepy more often than not and so I don't cum like that before he's cum on most occcassions...and if I do I get into an active roll....like me ontop to keep me going.

 

[pandoravampire]

sleepy

20 mins eh? well id certainly pay attn to the stamina post love. Lay off the big O till your well and truly satiated and just cant wait anymore. Learn the squeeze technique or get her to.
Try music thats driving, so that its not music to nod off too.
And go to bed earlier, 11pm spells 20 minutes to me if ive gotta be up in time for work.

Do you find its longer when youve not got to go to work the next day? But with all those endorphines running round your bod after orgasm, your supposed to feel relaxed. Personally, i find sleepy better than what happens if i dont nod off, i get loads of energy and wanna get up and run. An odd desire that ive never carried out mind you.

 

[HarlemBlade]

eh? Is 20 minutes too short? My girl always says it's sometimes too long for her. When I say 20 minutes, I'm talking about intercourse... full blown smacking. The foreplay and other activies leading up to that aren't counted in that 20 min. All together, it's usually an hour at the least from the beginning of foreplay to clean up.

 

[EJFan]

you have little choice

stamina and physical fitness can definitely enhance your ability to stay awake after cumming... assuming you really want to talk and cuddle and all that kinda thing. kidding.

the fact is that when you ejaculate, your body produces and excretes chemicals that cause you to tire. it's a normal, biological fact.

personally, when i cum, i usually toss her clothes at her and remind her to lock the door on her way out. KIDDING!

 

[xDonkeyxPunchx]

eh? Is 20 minutes too short? My girl always says it's sometimes too long for her. When I say 20 minutes, I'm talking about intercourse... full blown smacking. The foreplay and other activies leading up to that aren't counted in that 20 min. All together, it's usually an hour at the least from the beginning of foreplay to clean up.

their is no set time to sex, some perfer it like robbing a bank, you get in you get out and nobody saw a thing LOL. or you can have long sex. but sex is just that, its sex, if 20 minutes is perfect for both you and your partner then let 20 minutes be fine. who knows you maybecome better and better, and you two may both turn your twenty minutes into 30...and then 40..and so on, well...i dunno about tooo much loger.....LoL. Seriously though, being healthy has alot to do with your sex because sex is a very physical activity...or at least it should be

 

[ReadyOne]

It's natural for some men to fall asleep after they cum. The old joke about the guy rolling over and going to sleep aftwards has something to do wiht phsiology, not just loosing one's horniness after cumming. Try a short powernap spooned together, etc.

 

[Lynxie]

My fiance often has this same problem...We've found that starting earlier in the evening definitely makes a difference. Try mixing your schedule up a bit - if you both work, try going for a quick romp when you get home, before dinner. If you've got the day off, I recommend a morning or mid afternoon session. I personally prefer sex at night, but if I want more than one session (or just want to have a conversation while snuggling), I know I have to make compromises and get the ball rolling earlier...my guy's not the late night type. Best of luck! Hope you figure out what works for you!

 

[sharpchick]

An orgasm triggers the release of endorphins in the brain of a man or a woman, which makes us sleepy. The physiological reason for it goes back to our 'hunter-gatherer" days, when it was imperative for a woman to form a pair bond with a man, who would father her children and stay with her to provide for all of them. Falling asleep with her, and seeing her upon waking reinforced the sense of belonging together.

 

[Lynxie]

An orgasm triggers the release of endorphins in the brain of a man or a woman, which makes us sleepy. The physiological reason for it goes back to our 'hunter-gatherer" days, when it was imperative for a woman to form a pair bond with a man, who would father her children and stay with her to provide for all of them. Falling asleep with her, and seeing her upon waking reinforced the sense of belonging together.

Hooray for the anthropological explanation! I know this is true and all, but I have a problem with it. Why did Mother Nature think that a man would want to bond with his partner more by waking up next to her? I guess She hadn't seen what I'm like in the morning...

 

[EJFan]

My fiance often has this same problem...We've found that starting earlier in the evening definitely makes a difference. Try mixing your schedule up a bit - if you both work, try going for a quick romp when you get home, before dinner. If you've got the day off, I recommend a morning or mid afternoon session. I personally prefer sex at night, but if I want more than one session (or just want to have a conversation while snuggling), I know I have to make compromises and get the ball rolling earlier...my guy's not the late night type. Best of luck! Hope you figure out what works for you!

it's great that this works for you... and it may work for others. one bio note though. the hormones that create and enhance sex-drive are at their height between 5 and 9am. too bad our breath is at ITS height at that time too.

 

[H0wl]

Oddly enough with me and my girl she's more likely to fall asleep than I am. Then again she's much better at getting to sleep quickly than I am anyway. On several occasions she's fallen asleep while I was playing with her clit *grins*.

When I was single, part of my bedtime routine was masturbating, because it helped me get to sleep more easily.

The GF and I often do wait until bedtime to make love, but it's not unusual for her to pounce on me when I get home. She likes to shower after she gets home and if I get there early enough I'll join her in the shower and then we hit the bedroom all nice and fresh for each other.

 

[manofsteel52]

Try not waiting until it's normally time for sleep to get into having sex.
When I was younger (30 some years ago...), It seemed natural, from what was socially the "norm", to have intercourse at night, and then go to sleep (as in "sleeping" with someone).
Somewhere along the way, sex in the afternoon became a frequent part of life, and then as kids got older and life became freer, sex in the morning became more frequent. I have far more stamina at 6 a.m. than at 11 p.m.!

The most important thing, however, is to get control of your head. The one on your shoulders. Concentrate on staying awake after cumming. Force yourself to to carress your partner after sex. Let your fingertips do the walking all over her luscious body, stroking her lightly, kissing her neck, her soft cheek... stay busy, stay connected, stay interested. If you do this, within a short time, you'll feel a familiar stirring, and before long, you'll be rock hard, probing her... slipping between her legs...
Now, here's my advice to you. When you regain that erection, don't just jump aboard and start fucking. Pleasure her.
Start all over again making love to her, passionate kisses starting at her sweet mouth... hands carressing her body... kisses down her neck... covering her breasts, spend time on those gorgeous stiff nipples... and go down on her, licking that delicious cream filled pussy. She will love you for it. The multiple orgasms she will have will be far more intense, as will be the finale when you do finally fuck her again. This is almost guaranteed. If you do it right, she will have earth shaking orgasms.

So, start earlier, make it an evening event, or better yet, an all day event.

Force yourself to stay interested.(practice!)

Make her the main event! The reward you receive will be more than worth the effort.

Good luck.

 

[LadyJeanne]

The most important thing, however, is to get control of your head. The one on your shoulders. Concentrate on staying awake after cumming. Force yourself to to carress your partner after sex. Let your fingertips do the walking all over her luscious body, stroking her lightly, kissing her neck, her soft cheek... stay busy, stay connected, stay interested. If you do this, within a short time, you'll feel a familiar stirring, and before long, you'll be rock hard, probing her... slipping between her legs...
Now, here's my advice to you. When you regain that erection, don't just jump aboard and start fucking. Pleasure her.
Start all over again making love to her, passionate kisses starting at her sweet mouth... hands carressing her body... kisses down her neck... covering her breasts, spend time on those gorgeous stiff nipples... and go down on her, licking that delicious cream filled pussy. She will love you for it. The multiple orgasms she will have will be far more intense, as will be the finale when you do finally fuck her again. This is almost guaranteed. If you do it right, she will have earth shaking orgasms.

Yes, please!

 

[Guest]

Scientific fact: Having an orgasm releases certain endorphines that impacts the body in such a way that you do become drowsy. It may be an old joke about the guy who cums and then rolls over and falls asleep but there is some science to explain that very thing.

Of course each person's level of arousal is different and depending of all sorts of factors it's very possible to enjoy sex all night without getting too groggy. lol

 

[corkie2]

For myself getting started earlier is a must do as if we wait until the late evening around 11pm I am too tired to last very long. My body is ready for sleep already and after a good O or three I am ready to curl up and go to sleep..........but I want more! I love having looooong love making sessions. So I have learned if that is what I want I must make that the evening's entertainment!

I like having a lite meal so as not to get hungry but have with it some wine or other adult beverage. Then go and start to snuggle and watch some adult entertainment or just start to explore each other's bodies and see what comes up! lol