Cybersex?

[styler211]

Where do you get, and how do you have, good cybersex???

 

[SweetErika]

Your wife might be a good person to request it from. If not, I see you've already found the Personals section here.

At least the first two sites listed here will give you an idea of the basics. It's not rocket science.

 

[Hotcappucino]

It helps if you can type fast, and if your vocabulary extends beyond "ooh, yeah, baby." In some ways, it's a lot like creating an erotic story on the fly, sort of like speed chess. The hardest part, though, is trying to type while taking care of yourself.

Honestly, it can get old pretty fast. My favorite quote about cybering comes from Janet Evanovich's book, Hard Eight:

"I'm thinking about getting a computer so I can have cybersex," Grandma said. "Anybody know how that works?"
"You go into a chat room," Valerie said. "And meet someone. And then you type dirty suggestions to each other."
"That sounds like fun," Grandma said. "How does the sex part happen?"
"You sort of have to do the sex part yourself."
"I knew it was too good to be true," Grandma said. "There's always a catch to everything."

 

[human_male]

It helps if you can type fast, and if your vocabulary extends beyond "ooh, yeah, baby." In some ways, it's a lot like creating an erotic story on the fly, sort of like speed chess. The hardest part, though, is trying to type while taking care of yourself.

Actually, I find the hardest part is getting someone to do it with.

 

[Hotcappucino]

Actually, I find the hardest part is getting someone to do it with.

True dat. Used to be a lot easier when AIM first came out a few years ago; back then, it seemed like I'd get an offer to cyber every few days.

 

[reddelicious]

I find that it turns me on when I have a partner who can write/type.

"1 533 ur b00bz!" -- not conducive to sexiness.

 

[human_male]

Something I've learned recently that you might want to consider is that women have two boxes when it comes to men. They have the friends box and they have the fuck partner box, and they're mutually exclusive. So if you want cyber sex don't try to be a friend and get to know them, becuase they'll put you in the friends box. Just come on really strong and sexually assertive and make no bones about what you want.

Personally I can't do that because I find I have to get to know someone first, so that leaves me out of the running when it comes to cybering.

 

[past_perfect]

Something I've learned recently that you might want to consider is that women have two boxes when it comes to men. They have the friends box and they have the fuck partner box, and they're mutually exclusive. So if you want cyber sex don't try to be a friend and get to know them, becuase they'll put you in the friends box. Just come on really strong and sexually assertive and make no bones about what you want.

Personally I can't do that because I find I have to get to know someone first, so that leaves me out of the running when it comes to cybering.

Unless that has changed in the past 8 years, this is not necessarily true. I used to hang out at VP (does that still exist?) a lot and most of my better experiences were with women I got to know first (or at least in the process of several sessions ). There lies another danger in that though, because you could end up in a virtual relationship once you really click with someone (I did and it got out of hand). You know you found someone really special if you cum without ever taking your hands off the keyboard.....

 

[GoddessHathor]

Something I've learned recently that you might want to consider is that women have two boxes when it comes to men. They have the friends box and they have the fuck partner box, and they're mutually exclusive. So if you want cyber sex don't try to be a friend and get to know them, becuase they'll put you in the friends box. Just come on really strong and sexually assertive and make no bones about what you want.

Personally I can't do that because I find I have to get to know someone first, so that leaves me out of the running when it comes to cybering.

speaking as a woman, but not for ALL women, that is just not true. I hate cybering to begin with (got real boring, real fast!), but if i'm chatting with someone and we get along really well, cyber isn't out of the question.

Believe it or not, women do have more categories than "friend" and "fuck buddy"...and the two are most definitely NOT mutually exclusive. And the ones that come on really strong with me.....get put on ignore faster!

 

[human_male]

speaking as a woman, but not for ALL women, that is just not true. I hate cybering to begin with (got real boring, real fast!), but if i'm chatting with someone and we get along really well, cyber isn't out of the question.

Believe it or not, women do have more categories than "friend" and "fuck buddy"...and the two are most definitely NOT mutually exclusive. And the ones that come on really strong with me.....get put on ignore faster!

I'd be very happy to hear not all women are like that.

 

[SweetErika]

Something I've learned recently that you might want to consider is that women have two boxes when it comes to men. They have the friends box and they have the fuck partner box, and they're mutually exclusive. So if you want cyber sex don't try to be a friend and get to know them, becuase they'll put you in the friends box. Just come on really strong and sexually assertive and make no bones about what you want.

Personally I can't do that because I find I have to get to know someone first, so that leaves me out of the running when it comes to cybering.

This definitely isn't true for me either, HM. With a few exceptions in college, ALL of the people I've been intimate with have been friends first. I have to get to know someone and establish a rapport and trust with them prior to going any further, especially at this point in my life.

As far as cybering goes, my one partner started as, and continues to be a dear friend; our almost-daily conversations were completely platonic for a good eight months, and they often still are. I have no interest in cybering/fantasizing with random people, and have to have a strong enough platonic friendship or relationship in order to even go there because substance is important to me. I prefer there to be a real life component, as well, even if meetings are strictly platonic.

Like others, I want people to be honest, but coming on strong won't get someone anywhere with me because cybering/NSA sex isn't what I'm looking for. Random "wanna cyber/cam/chat?" PMs are really not appreciated because I'm a person and make it clear I'm not into those activities with just anyone.

 

[GeekySub]

Allow me to add myself to the list of women who do NOT place men into two distinct categories.

I'm not overly fond of cybering really, but if I'm going to do it, then it will be with someone who's taken the time to get to know me on a platonic level first.

Men who come on extremely strong in the beginning get put on Ignore.

 

[Cockyfox]

I have no experience in cybersex, but SweetErika has really hit the nail on the head with this one. Listen to her.

 

[DAZZED48]

cyber

its fun for about an hour.then its like trying to cum with no hands.or friend

 

[GoddessHathor]

This definitely isn't true for me either, HM. With a few exceptions in college, ALL of the people I've been intimate with have been friends first. I have to get to know someone and establish a rapport and trust with them prior to going any further, especially at this point in my life.

As far as cybering goes, my one partner started as, and continues to be a dear friend; our almost-daily conversations were completely platonic for a good eight months, and they often still are. I have no interest in cybering/fantasizing with random people, and have to have a strong enough platonic friendship or relationship in order to even go there because substance is important to me. I prefer there to be a real life component, as well, even if meetings are strictly platonic.

Like others, I want people to be honest, but coming on strong won't get someone anywhere with me because cybering/NSA sex isn't what I'm looking for. Random "wanna cyber/cam/chat?" PMs are really not appreciated because I'm a person and make it clear I'm not into those activities with just anyone.

very well said SweetErika and I agree 100%.

 

[FaeryFire]

My partner lets my cyber for the fun of it, on the rare occasions that I'm bored enough to want to. It's an art though, and for me it's not finding someone who wants to do it, it's finding someone who knows how. You've heard the old saying "it's not what you say but how you say it"? Well "Tone of type" is similar.
It's not as easy to express emotion, gestures, facial expressions etc though the net, but to have satisfying cyber you need to learn how. You need to show that you are a real person. Too many people type with the enthusiasm and coherency of a chat bot.
If you want to find some ranom person to cyber visit:
http://www.freechatnow.com/ if you are there five minutes someone always cracks onto you. The land of the desperate and bored I tell you.

 

[reddelicious]

Something I've learned recently that you might want to consider is that women have two boxes

*Checks down below*

 

[human_male]

*Checks down below*

Lol. I'm pretty sure anyway, I saw a picture once. Maybe someone could confirm that.

 

[AboutFace]

speaking as a woman, but not for ALL women, that is just not true. I hate cybering to begin with (got real boring, real fast!), but if i'm chatting with someone and we get along really well, cyber isn't out of the question.

Believe it or not, women do have more categories than "friend" and "fuck buddy"...and the two are most definitely NOT mutually exclusive. And the ones that come on really strong with me.....get put on ignore faster!

I've only with one man that I met on the net - and it only happened because we had known each other for a long time, and I felt very comfortable with him. I have NOTHING wrong with it - but I'm not going to just for the sake of doing it. It DID get boring quickly though, like you said. He had a very limited variety of "material". Was MUCH more fun on the phone - and was fairly OK in person. (yes -the ultimate no-no....took it to real life)

Cybering can be fun, though - and a real break from the mundane.