do any real men exist

[ladance]

in the south of the uk?
Without much hope, given the level of response that is usually generated, I am going to be as precise as i can in what i'm seeking. If you don't fit what I'm looking for and still pm me don't be upset when you don't get an answer..if reading and understanding the i'm not interested bits is too difficult for you then you won't have anywhere near the skills needed to make me content.

so how do i start..ok i'm 51, single, submissive tendencies but very new and hoping to find someone to explore with if possible. However not online only..i have a need for hands on and long term. If exploring with a Dom isn't possible then I'd like a long term lover instead..i adore sex and hate going without but do not enjoy casual bed hopping so won't indulge in one night fun. Don't get me wrong sharing sexy texts or erotic stories with a lover is arousing but not one off evenings of free sex talk with strangers..got past that stage a long time ago.
I'm intelligent and am interested in many things besides sex and value good conversation. I have a busy life and family but miss the sharing sometimes and having someone to make fun plans with.
I do not want someone more than 10 years younger, not enough in common...and yes i have tried it and it doesn't work, I do not want anyone married or attached..
I don't want to be fighting for attention or having to endure long periods being ignored becos of commitments. I do not want someone 100 miles away unless you are commited to travelling to see me as often as possible.
I love a bit of kink,pain, bondage, control...definitely control, but lived without it for a long time so not impossible to do so again but i would prefer not to. the mind play and teasing is so deliciously exciting and i revel in surrendering. however not looking for any type of live in or 24/7, just ongoing, caring , sharing exciting togetherness.

 

[nastyman12a]

I truly hope you find the right someeone. You sound like a lady that knows just what you want. And If I wasnt married, or if I lived closer you'd be recieving a very mischievious pm right now. But as I said good luch hun, and hope you've got more than a few wet dreams in your future.

 

[dreami]

yes what ladance said

 

[Grifftg49]

Live South London

Do not know if this is right part of UK I have an open mind and a willingness to play dom games you can mail on griff_tg@hotmail.co.uk

 

[matureman32]

Great ad, and a lot of boxes ticket except one, distance. Shame about that, if you ever want to look further afield please bear me in mind. Best of luck in your search.

 

[Grifftg49]

Forgot

I am 52, so maybe to old, have an interst in most things and am able to hold my own when it comes to conversation on a variety of topics.

Have some committments but they do not prevent me from living a life.

Will keep some back in case you reply!

 

[ladance]

I truly hope you find the right someeone. You sound like a lady that knows just what you want. And If I wasnt married, or if I lived closer you'd be recieving a very mischievious pm right now. But as I said good luch hun, and hope you've got more than a few wet dreams in your future.

Well thankyou, it seems easy to attract the wrong..in the nicest possible way..people..finding right ones is much more difficult, but have to try.
hopefully the future will indeed contain more of what i need and desire and less of the unfilled dreams.

 

[ladance]

Do not know if this is right part of UK I have an open mind and a willingness to play dom games you can mail on griff_tg@hotmail.co.uk

mm well not sure its games i'm looking for..a willingness to explore in a sensible safe fun way with trust and respect for needs and desires requires a little more than playing games. London is possible ..a little futher away than i was hoping as i'm on the south coast but who knows.

 

[nastyman12a]

Well thankyou, it seems easy to attract the wrong..in the nicest possible way..people..finding right ones is much more difficult, but have to try.
hopefully the future will indeed contain more of what i need and desire and less of the unfilled dreams.

I think we've all had a few unfilled dreams. Hell I know of a few filled dreams that fall into the careful for what you wish for category. But like the old song goes. "You cant always get what you want, but sometimes you get what you need" And what you need right now is.

Hell I better stop there, Or I'll get carried away. Or should I say I'd carry you away.

 

[ladance]

Great ad, and a lot of boxes ticket except one, distance. Shame about that, if you ever want to look further afield please bear me in mind. Best of luck in your search.

If I had the time to travel then distance wouldn't be an issue but i work 6 days a week and have family commitments I really od need someone in fairly easy travelling range...i can't spend hours going miles for a day out, i wnat a realtionship that can encompass social and sexual pleasure...a quick drink at the pub or nipping out for dinner isn't possible if distance is too great, I like spur of the moment occasionly..that can't be done if miles seperate us. x

 

[ladance]

I am 52, so maybe to old, have an interst in most things and am able to hold my own when it comes to conversation on a variety of topics.

Have some committments but they do not prevent me from living a life.

Will keep some back in case you reply!

not too old...i have no problem with older just really don't want to be bothered by horny youngsters. Being told by a 25 year old that he is exactly what i want when i expressly say no under 40s really annoys me...how the hell do they know what i want,

 

[ladance]

I think we've all had a few unfilled dreams. Hell I know of a few filled dreams that fall into the careful for what you wish for category. But like the old song goes. "You cant always get what you want, but sometimes you get what you need" And what you need right now is.

Hell I better stop there, Or I'll get carried away. Or should I say I'd carry you away.

what i need right now is...well sleep probably ..in the arms of a loving man would be nice...being carried away also sounds a very pleasant way to end a long day. x

 

[ladance]

Sunday

after five hours sleep i was hoping for a quiet day but seems thats not to be. preferred actvity for a sunny afternoon... a very gentle stroll through the shady woods with my lover..teasing and touching playfully as we enjoy each others company before finding a quiet corner to spread the blanket and lay back to bask in the sun and each other.

No such luck today...hsopital visiting then basking alone away from my house.
So south coast guys where are you this beautiful day? Stop hiding and come out to play. would be so much more fun having the first option.

 

[ladance]

Is London

the closest to the south coast men live? I know it's not far away but surely Hampshire contains some. You see it's days like today when i have an empty evening ahead that I'd like a lover close by who could share the evening with me. Mm guess i wasn't too hopeful so not really surprised at lack of reponse from locals.
Is it just the southern reserve that holds you back...i know how many people tell me how unfriendly they find this part of the uk, how difficult it is to get people to talk..i ws hoping some of you might prove that not to be true but doesn't look like thats going to happen.
If you read it would be nice to just say hello and give ladies here a clue to your existence..help keep our faint hopes alive.

 

[ladance]

ok south coast uk

appears to b eempty of men who are inetrested in anything at all let alone anything beyond instant online gratifiication!

I know people always say this is the unfriendliest part of the country but I was hoping someone might prove them wrong.

Looking for that special man who is willing to take the time to get to know me and embark on along term adventure...surely I'm not the only lonely looking southerner on here? I'd love to be able to say i could travel but work and family mean thats difficult and i really would love to find someone close by for real life connection that would make me feel cherisihed and adored while giving back the love in everyway i can.
Anyone at least want to tak ethe first step of chatting?

 

[BKD140]

I don't want to come across as harsh but I don't think you'll find what you are after on this site.

A fair proportion of the people that frequent the 'personals' section are looking for quick and easy gratification, not a full blown relationship that can be carried over into real life.

I would have thought somewhere like eHarmony or similar would be more appropriate as that site is geared up for people just like you - looking to find a genuine person who shares the same interests etc.
If you haven't tried it I would suggest you have a look.

I for one would not use Lit to find someone for a long term relationship.

I genuinely hope you are successful in your search - wherever it may take you and that you eventually find Mr Right. Good luck

 

[ladance]

I don't want to come across as harsh but I don't think you'll find what you are after on this site.

A fair proportion of the people that frequent the 'personals' section are looking for quick and easy gratification, not a full blown relationship that can be carried over into real life.

I would have thought somewhere like eHarmony or similar would be more appropriate as that site is geared up for people just like you - looking to find a genuine person who shares the same interests etc.
If you haven't tried it I would suggest you have a look.

I for one would not use Lit to find someone for a long term relationship.

I genuinely hope you are successful in your search - wherever it may take you and that you eventually find Mr Right. Good luck

People like me? now what does that mean...am i strange to want a relationship that actually involves a degree of commitment and care? My personal situation and desires means that i feel casual is inappropriate and a waste of my time...does that make me stupid or needy? I would guess the people who spend night after nigjht chasing online experiences are needier than me and looking for something they will never find.

MM but not everyone just wants one night...exploring for longer brings much more opportunity...and i'm sure e-harmony is great but i would like a relationship that allows me to explore my sub missive side with a dominant man exploring his desires...i would have thought Lit was more suitable for that.
Most sites of any sort have a high proportion of people who only want cyber sex ...i don't think there are any that actually cater for people who want something more enduring and deeper...I'm being honest here about my wants and exploring lots of options not just Lit.

 

[ladance]

ok

forgive me for being an intelligent lady who doesn't wish to spend all my nites talking about sex on the internet. Forgive me for wanting a long term relationship that will permit exploration and connection that will be exciting and fulfilling both physically and emotionally. Forgive me for stupidly(it seems) thinking that an interest in erotica and kink could also mean wanting more than cyber sex or unending casual encounters.
I love reading the stories here and even enjoy writing but i have a real life that is missing something...and words just don't hit the spot!
I never really expected to find anyone on here but was just hoping this might draw out some more local contacts...after all making friends is fun.
finding a long term lover is my ultimate aim ..that surely is going to start with becoming friends first..that was my hope here...

i dream...don't other people do the same?

 

[KinkyBoyUK]

forgive me for being an intelligent lady who doesn't wish to spend all my nites talking about sex on the internet. Forgive me for wanting a long term relationship that will permit exploration and connection that will be exciting and fulfilling both physically and emotionally. Forgive me for stupidly(it seems) thinking that an interest in erotica and kink could also mean wanting more than cyber sex or unending casual encounters.
I love reading the stories here and even enjoy writing but i have a real life that is missing something...and words just don't hit the spot!
I never really expected to find anyone on here but was just hoping this might draw out some more local contacts...after all making friends is fun.
finding a long term lover is my ultimate aim ..that surely is going to start with becoming friends first..that was my hope here...

i dream...don't other people do the same?

You aren't the only one at all so don't give up in your search. From you posts you seem to be interesting, cultured, intelligent and captivating and when you find your right man he will be very lucky indeed.

 

[ladance]

You aren't the only one at all so don't give up in your search. From you posts you seem to be interesting, cultured, intelligent and captivating and when you find your right man he will be very lucky indeed.

Thank you, I was hoping that someone somewhere might agree that lit is for more than just casual hookups. I do understand that for lots of people online only is sufficient and while i can see how short term it might do i really struggle to believe it can be anywhere near as fulfilling as real life. However for those it suits then i wish them luck. But i don't believe there is any reason why i shouldn't seek more here, just as i respect others choices so i would hope they respect my choice and the search i'm open about.

I'm not sure about the captivating part i guess for one person one day i will be just that, I'm realistic...i know most men my age have dreams of a sexy younger woman and i'm not a model girl by any means but i believe i have gifts to offer that go beyond surface beauty. One day I will find the one who will appreciate me. And take my heart and soul for his own.

 

[Noor]

Keep at it, there are plenty of couples who have met here.
I think part of the trick is to let people know what you are looking for.

Good Luck!

 

[ladance]

Keep at it, there are plenty of couples who have met here.
I think part of the trick is to let people know what you are looking for.

Good Luck!

Thanks Noor, thats what I'm trying to do, Just had one message sort of inferring i was wasting my time even looking here, made me feel a bit as if enjoying erotica and kink was just a byword for being a slag with absolutely no morals or discretion aboout where my sexual fun was to be found. I'm sure there are lots of people who don't give a toss how or with who they get their sexual kicks but equally there are many of us who are more discerning and shy away from the crude' watch me wank or cum over me' style of life. I occasionly have enjoyed a downright dirty convo but it's not what i want for my future. It's much more fun even doing that witha partner who knows how your mind and body works than with a complete stranger who could be absolutely anyone...i wonder how many have been conned into a same sex wank on the net!
I'm looking an d dreaming and being true to my desires.

 

[ladance]

wet and wild day

are all the lovely south coast men washed away? This princess is still waiting for her prince to appear for a chat.

 

[dreami]

i'm sorry

i dont know where they are. i am looking too - but in the SE.

well i was bothered to look - now i am not so sure. too many games players, single minded users and wannabees.

i guess keep your nose clean and dont settle for anything less than what u deserve and want.

but dont forget to have some fun as well. as much as u can - on your terms - cos u matter the most. and u will know the right person cos they wont have a problem with that.

viva kinky romance!

 

[ladance]

i dont know where they are. i am looking too - but in the SE.

well i was bothered to look - now i am not so sure. too many games players, single minded users and wannabees.

i guess keep your nose clean and dont settle for anything less than what u deserve and want.

but dont forget to have some fun as well. as much as u can - on your terms - cos u matter the most. and u will know the right person cos they wont have a problem with that.

viva kinky romance!

Hi Dreami...certainly seem to be a shy quiet lot in the south of the uk. and yes I am also losing the will to look..it seems anyone seeking anything worthwhile has a hard time finding it.
I do have fun but my idea of fun is not endless online sex chat with strangers...i like to get to now someone first and learn slowly what we enjoy sharing not just jump straight in for a 10 min sex chat so someone can wank the other end. whatever the world thinks I don''t see the joy in casual hookups.
So yes I'm sticking to my desires for something real and slightly more meaningful..getting frustrated at the wait but i will wait.