Do you ever get the feeling ...

[Xander]

Sure Nikki....not much gets through the walls around me, and what little I do let in and does get to me...well tying up a stick of TNT to a duck, and light it, has worked so far.

If other people cant deal with you, me or anybody and feels the need to comment about it all the time.

Please look at Sig line.

 

[Nicole]

And now back to Nicole's original question. There was a time when, if a person gave me the "You're not good enough" treatment, I would have knocked myself out trying to please that person. I finally realized a few years ago that I was only making myself miserable. So if a person gives me that treatment now, I simply cross him off my list and avoid him. If I can't avoid dealing with him, I treat him as coolly as possible and then get rid of him. Life is too short to let other people humiliate you at will. It took me way too long to learn that lesson.

Thank-you all for taking the time to answer this question, you've all helped me out in your own little ways ... Thank-you.

I too was like that, I strived to be the person that they wanted me to be, and it made me down right miserable. I came online and at first I made lots of friends, talked to anyone and everyone, made a few friends that although I don't spend time with as much now, I still class them as family like to me. I don't spend as much time with them because I have a pretty full life right now and I'm sure they too have things going on, but we all seem to understand that. I don't very often seek people out any more, not unless the possess something that really stands out to me ... this person did, but this person has made me feel so belittled, like they are "better" than me. Life goes on, and now I see that it is indeed their loss for not getting to know me, so be it, I'm not letting it worry me.

The BB, now that is something different, here at least you don't have to respond, or even read what they say, I see a lot of spiteful people come through here, I used to be the one that no matter what saw the good in them and would say so. Not anymore, I got hurt one too many times, and won't allow for it to happen again, so now I ignore them, or say what I feel in my heart to be true at that time, but I try not to do it in a manner of belittling someone, or laughing at someone ... not like some here that are worshipped. I have a couple of people that although I don't talk to them privately, I seem to have a bond with on the BB, Teresa and Cheyenne being two of them, I respect them and say freely what I think, as do they to me, but because of that respect I don't take what they may say to me as a "put down" I talk back to them and we usually end up agreeing to disagree or we agree.

Anyway, to sum this up before I go on all day, I say, as I always have, treat people online or in real life the same .... Respect them and they will respect you.

I hope you all have a wonderful evening and thanks for your thought's.

 

[Guest]

In all seriousness.... I like ya Nicole. I read your posts.... and I respond if I have something to add.....


I think you are one of the worthiest people on here...... and I have a list
Especially when it seems like there are so few with nice and interesting things to say...

 

[Cheyenne]

I have a couple of people that although I don't talk to them privately, I seem to have a bond with on the BB, Teresa and Cheyenne being two of them, I respect them and say freely what I think, as do they to me, but because of that respect I don't take what they may say to me as a "put down" I talk back to them and we usually end up agreeing to disagree or we agree.

Yup! Thanks, Nicole!

 

[teresafannin]

Thank you Nicole, your friendship means a lot to me. Have a great weekend, it is Saturday over there already, isn't it? Hugs to you & your little guy. Is he still liking school?

 

[Nicole]

Yep just got up Saturday morning, and yes he adores school, although he is now on a two week break, getting ready for third term over here. The teacher said he is fitting in better than anyone else in his group, so I'm so very proud of him, he makes me feel good leaving him there because he is so happy.

We (my parents and myself) took him to see Shrek again last night, oh he is such a cutie when he laughs.

You know what I find so odd about all of this, the one person all this was said about (although I worked very hard not to say whom it is) didn't answer, and what I find even funnier, they probably didn't even look at this thread .... Oh well their loss I guess.

Thanks for being who you are, Teresa and Cheyenne, you two have been the greatest friends anyone could ask for

Take Care everyone, I'm off to spend the day with my little man.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Nicole]

Mind you, one of my biggest faults is that I actually CARE how people perceive me. I go to great lengths to be liked and respected, and if I have done something wrong, or hurt someone...I try my hardest to make it up to them. I have come to the conclusion, though, that that doesn't always work.

As the old saying goes...You can't please everyone all of the time.

I know what you mean, I too try to always please people, but it's getting to the stage now that I really don't care what people think anymore, sadly that is making me unhappy. So I guess it's me that is the one that can't be pleased.

But then again I look at the world and wonder if it could truly get by without people like you and I *Bratcat*. I really don't think it could, and if it did, it would be a miserable place.

Have a good one love