Dom or Daddy?

[ashleigh1985]

Hello all. I'm fairly new here (have been a lurker lol) and have been wanting to explore more of my submissive feelings. But I have been wondering, what is the difference, if any, between a "Dom" and a "Daddy"? I'm still trying to figure out what I want to explore so I'm hoping for some advice. And then hoping to find someone if we "click"

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, so please be kind!

 

[Et_Tu_Brute]

The differences tend, in my experience, to be fairly nuanced; that is to say, it's more about the implementation than anything. Doms tend to be more agressive and assertive, dominating submissives through force or trial, while daddies tend to hold more authority through personality, the father-figure aspect meaning that they have to force things less. Then of course there's the potential age differences - daddies are more likely to be much older than their subs, though this is not always the case. Of course, this is just a general outline that I've experienced, and as in all things it's more of a spectrum than stark categories.

 

[Blase]

"Daddy"

Et Tu Brute is right, Ashleigh: People don't always mean the same thing when they say "Dom" or even "Daddy". For example, some girls actually want Daddy-daughter roleplay, where they literally call their guy "Daddy" and they themselves play the role of a little girl. But I think that many more girls use the term "Daddy" when, essentially, what they're looking for is an older, kindly, experienced guy who they can trust to be knowledgeable, kind and gentle with them. (Again, there is a wide range of variation here, because even some girls who want a "Daddy" don't want him to be gentle at all).

 

[ashleigh1985]

You guys have been most helpful, and I appreciate all the pms I've received as well. I'm still trying to figure out my deepest, darkest needs and wants, as well as what I truly crave. I think it would be lovely to find someone near to me, to experience it in the flesh, once I get to know him/her of course! Has anyone met a Dom(me)/sub from Lit and how did it play out?

 

[FluteMaster]

You guys have been most helpful, and I appreciate all the pms I've received as well. I'm still trying to figure out my deepest, darkest needs and wants, as well as what I truly crave. I think it would be lovely to find someone near to me, to experience it in the flesh, once I get to know him/her of course! Has anyone met a Dom(me)/sub from Lit and how did it play out?

I've met 2 submissives from Lit so far...one relationship lasted a year, and the other 3 years.

Now looking again.

 

[Prince Albert]

You guys have been most helpful, and I appreciate all the pms I've received as well. I'm still trying to figure out my deepest, darkest needs and wants, as well as what I truly crave. I think it would be lovely to find someone near to me, to experience it in the flesh, once I get to know him/her of course! Has anyone met a Dom(me)/sub from Lit and how did it play out?

Currently in 1 now.

 

[ashleigh1985]

But how do I find one close to me? I don't live in England, I'm afraid. Although it seems most of the Doms who interest me are from there, so perhaps I should relocate!

That being said, I would like to find one, be it a Dom, or Daddy, or likely a combination of the two. But I'm having fun getting to know all of you

 

[Et_Tu_Brute]

But how do I find one close to me? I don't live in England, I'm afraid. Although it seems most of the Doms who interest me are from there, so perhaps I should relocate!

That being said, I would like to find one, be it a Dom, or Daddy, or likely a combination of the two. But I'm having fun getting to know all of you

Well, Fetlife.com is a good place to find kinksters who are near to where you live. If you're near a city, then there's almost certainly a munch club (BDSM meet-and-greet group) hiding somewhere in there, and the ones I've been to have been pretty friendly.

Or you could fly over to the UK and we'll show you a thoroughly pleasant time.

 

[Daddys_babygirl11]

Hello all. I'm fairly new here (have been a lurker lol) and have been wanting to explore more of my submissive feelings. But I have been wondering, what is the difference, if any, between a "Dom" and a "Daddy"? I'm still trying to figure out what I want to explore so I'm hoping for some advice. And then hoping to find someone if we "click"

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, so please be kind!

Hello lit… this is my first post…. here

i have been lurking around and been on line for around a year now….

i love the Daddy Doms… and mature sensual Doms

i find there is a fine line between the Dom and Daddy Dom...
it’s like saying what’s the difference between a slave and a sub or babygirl...

It is personalizes…
the difference is even in the way the Dom reacts or the feelings he has towards that sub…

i have had a few Doms tell me i make them want to be a Daddy…

i’m not promoting the book (nor opening the conversation about it) or comparing anything but the title but ….

There are “50 shades of grey”

it’s all grey but it’s the individuals that customize their relationship to fit the needs to each other….

a Submissive wants to be controlled

a Dominant wants to control

the ying and the yang

it’s a dance to see what works for both…..
One feeds from the other…..

It is the approach that changes… a Daddy is more nurturing but a Dom wants to teach you and help you grow too… ( close but different)

you can debate the different all day….

the best thing to know is what you need…
what works for you…

but sometimes for a sub that can be hard...

for instance i want to please…
i want to be and do everything my Daddy wants and be all that he needs….
my needs really are to please him and do all that i can so he will want to use me again...
want to use me for his pleasure…. that is where i find my fix…

when i know he is using me to please himself….
when i know and trust that he cares enough about me to want me to enjoy it...
learn and grow…

LOL i don’t know … this may only make sense to me…
I tend to ramble sometimes….
i hope this does help a little…..

but if not pm and we can chat about it all night…..

i love talking about this very thing……



Daddy’s baby girl…

 

[dicky911]

this also interests me greatly. Perhaps I will contact you to pursue the issue.

 

[ashleigh1985]

I just want to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who either posted to this thread or pm-ed me. I'm sorry that I haven't responded to everyone but I have learned quite a bit and think I found someone...

 

[snow500]

I sent you a PM too! But glad you found someone. It can be fun once you build that relationship.

 

[KGBStuart1]

Hello lit… this is my first post…. here

i have been lurking around and been on line for around a year now….

i love the Daddy Doms… and mature sensual Doms

i find there is a fine line between the Dom and Daddy Dom...
it’s like saying what’s the difference between a slave and a sub or babygirl...

It is personalizes…
the difference is even in the way the Dom reacts or the feelings he has towards that sub…

i have had a few Doms tell me i make them want to be a Daddy…

i’m not promoting the book (nor opening the conversation about it) or comparing anything but the title but ….

There are “50 shades of grey”

it’s all grey but it’s the individuals that customize their relationship to fit the needs to each other….

a Submissive wants to be controlled

a Dominant wants to control

the ying and the yang

it’s a dance to see what works for both…..
One feeds from the other…..

It is the approach that changes… a Daddy is more nurturing but a Dom wants to teach you and help you grow too… ( close but different)

you can debate the different all day….

the best thing to know is what you need…
what works for you…

but sometimes for a sub that can be hard...

for instance i want to please…
i want to be and do everything my Daddy wants and be all that he needs….
my needs really are to please him and do all that i can so he will want to use me again...
want to use me for his pleasure…. that is where i find my fix…

when i know he is using me to please himself….
when i know and trust that he cares enough about me to want me to enjoy it...
learn and grow…

LOL i don’t know … this may only make sense to me…
I tend to ramble sometimes….
i hope this does help a little…..

but if not pm and we can chat about it all night…..

i love talking about this very thing……

Daddy’s baby girl…

You've got it almost spot on.

 

[Daddys_babygirl11]

KGBStuart1;49639721]You've got it almost spot on.



Wow i had forgotten about this post.
The Dom or Daddy title pulled me in again...lol

I don't post much but there are a few subjects i do feel strongly about and then it seems i will go on and on.
But very nice to hear someone got what i was trying to say.

 

[strong_daddy]

I know its an old thread, but check my signature. The Daddy vs Father thing was put well by a little lady here on Lit.

 

[Daddys_babygirl11]

I know its an old thread, but check my signature. The Daddy vs Father thing was put well by a little lady here on Lit.

Strong_Daddy that is a very nice picture.

 

[strong_daddy]

Strong_Daddy that is a very nice picture.

Would you like that picture to be of you?

 

[SoonTseYoun]

I certainly like the picture