Dom seeking advice

[Farawyn]

It is certainly more friendly to the concept of BDSM. Very few here at Lit are openly friendly or supportive to cheating.

This isn't a BDSM question, though. It's about having his cake and eating it, too.
As for the boards, I love the BDSM Cafe.

For me, it's not about him dallying with someone on the side (but I'm no true proponent of total monogamy, so there's that). No, my response to the OP is his blatant disregard for the thoughts, feelings, and lives of the other 6 people (2 women, 4 children) that he's deliberately choosing to devastate. Narcissistic manipulation. That's what I object to.

I also object to stupid people. Which apparently figures in here.

Whether this is an authentic post by a real prick or just a made-up scenario to stir the pot, the idea put forth here is repulsive. And plain pathetic.

 

[Blue]

Wowwwwwwww

I really hope this is fictitious...

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Not my most articulate response ever, but really....

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

Obvious troll/10

But I'm waiting for a crew, so I've got five minutes to waste pretending I live in a magical fantasy land where this fucking chud is a " Dom " in any capacity, or even much of a person, given the fact that this situation arose solely from selfish indecision and malicious cowardice. Neither of which has anything to do with BDSM, as was previously stated.

Again, I firmly believe this is fiction posted out of boredem or just to get a rise out of people. Nobody that could willing put themselves in or carry on with this situation this long would care enough to consider it a problem. BUT, on the off chance that I'm wrong, and aside from everything else that is so horrendously wrong about this post...

My sub has 4 kids who are great and we've become a family this last year.

You emotionally retarded, chickenshit, useless, delusional, little fucking nothing.

Nevermind the two grown women you're messing around with, in the end, they are adults and are at least somewhat equipped to deal properly with the fallout from the bad decision they both made, i.e. you. But Family? Are you fucking kidding me? You cozy up to kids while you pretend to be an actual human being, let them get used to you and expect things from you, knowing full well you weren't ever going to step up and be anything other than a blip in their lives because you're an empty piece of shit that apparently gets off on the prospect of driving your bullshit through others lives and marveling at the tread marks in your rear view mirror? I don't give a rats ass what you " meant to do ", that went out the window a long time ago. You can't fix shit like that, not that you would ever try. No, you're just going to tuck tail and run, answering for nothing and doing nothing. You're not going to pay for this, because it's apparent you don't even know how to BEGIN. " Chips fall where they may ". Go fuck yourself with your little pity party.

So, in the interest of treating this as a real post and giving you a legit response to your little " pickle " as others have, and I want you to listen as hard as you fucking can. Here's my answer:

You are cancer. Cut yourself out of their lives. With the biggest knife you can find, and if you're wondering whether I mean that literally or metaphorically, the answer is yes. Have a nice day.

 

[Ameilia]

I'm not messing with anyone's life intentionally I just truly don't know what to do the financial side of things is a very small part I'm getting married because I love my fiancé I made a mistake we've been living a part for 2 years and I messed up and cheated and ended up stumbling upon sub/Dom and it changed my life. I'm sorry I'm not the norm on getting married my past has shaped me to have a twisted view of marriage. I'm not playing with anyone's life intentionally I'm living a double life right now and I feel very guilty about hurting anyone. Either way I'm an honest guy and if things didn't work out with my fiancé I'd help restore her life in anyway I could financially if she wanted it which She may not. I get that a lot of ppl wouldn't understand this situation but that's why I came here because I thought there might be a Dom in here with a similar circumstance I understand 99% of ppl think I'm a scum bag and that's true to some extent and I would leave my sub but I know my sub needs me to take care of her still she's not ready to be on her own or our boys and or her will be hurt again she's had a hard life and I hate to be someone else that disappoints her.

Full Male Dom my ass...you're a full on pussy, now man up and do the right thing. First of all you had no business getting a sub without telling your fiance...she was there first. If vanilla wasn't cuttin' it for ya then you needed to have the balls to tell her, see if she'd sub and if not move the fuck on. God cry me a river with your token of trying to do the right fucking thing. You're going to hurt your fiance and her kids...nice job. Supporting your sub...how much support does your fiance get? Living a double life and think than no one else has even been in that position...get your head outta your own ass. So many of us have been there and had to make difficult "GROWN UP" decision, but you couldn't because basically you wanted your cake and to eat it as well.

I hope your fiance finds out what a worthless pos you really are, and from now on...sub roles only for you because you can't make the heavy calls when need be.

 

[yukonnights]

Yep, I knew when I read this OP the other day it wasn't going to go well...

 

[butterfly_flip]

I'm in a pickle I'm engaged to be married in two months to my gf of 10 years and have been with my sub for about 14 months. My sub has known I'm engaged for the majority of the relationship... since my wedding is getting closer I was thinking of not getting married and just being with my sub but I don't think I'll be able to do that as too much money has already been committed and my fiancé is going to move from about 6 hrs away and she already has a job and she's selling her place. My sub has 4 kids who are great and we've become a family this last year... I've been helping my sub a lot financially and getting her life straightened out and she's almost on the right track she's writing her last exam and she will be a full nurse!!!! But with the pressure of her exam and her other financial stresses are adding to her being stressed about the wedding and she's indirectly asking me to break it off or effectively asking me to choose. How do I get out of this choice? I love both of them dearly and although I'm doubting I'll be married forever which is when I want my sub to stay waiting for me till should I just tell my sub to move on and leave me? I know people will say I'm a bad person for getting involved on the side but I'm marrying a vanilla girl and honestly I would tell my sub to move on but she has terrible choices in men and our boys need a good father figure and I know she won't find one based off her history. Thanks for reading I'm excited to read responses as this is my first time on the site!!

Oh for fuck's sake, take your boohoo elsewhere.
Preferably away from the women & children whose lives you were more than willing to screw over for your self serving purposes.