Dysfunctional or normal?

[SuffolkSilverFox]

As I’m exploring lit this morning I have these strong thoughts in my head. Am I normal or is this a sign of a dysfunctional unfulfilled marriage?

I’m currently lying naked in bed, my wife’s warm naked body alongside me as she sleeps deeply, her breathing slow and even, one bare leg draped over mine.

Thing is I can’t stop picturing her best friend’s husband at the edge of the bed, silently undressing, shirt peeling off to reveal his chest, trousers and underwear sliding down until he’s completely naked, his cock already thickening.

He is climbing carefully onto the mattress behind her, the bed dipping under his weight as he eases in close, his body heat joining ours, his hand settles on her hip, the three of us now sharing the same narrow space.

I find myself very excited about what is about to happen.

 

[cubbyfire04]

I think it's totally normal to have thoughts like this about your wife. Fantasy is just that... Fantasy. Now how these thoughts impact your marriage and/or your own actions or mental well-being is the determining factor as to whether or not this is dysfunction.

Ask yourself and reflect whether or not your marriage is fulfilling. If the answer is yes, then there's your answer. Enjoy the fantasy on your own terms... Your spouse doesn't have to know all the kinky things you daydream about. If you want her to know about them, understand that's a decision that has consequences. They could be desirable or catastrophic.

At the end of the day, our fantasies are going to manifest whether we ask for them or not by nature. Perhaps the reason it turns you on is because you know the marriage is strong and your brain is a safe place to explore boundaries. Only you can decide if your marriage is at risk, but don't overanalyze how you feel when you look at your wife just because you got horny thinking about sexual scenarios that might never manifest.

The world would be a pretty depraved place if all our freaky fantasies came true .

 

[Britva415]

Is it creating dysfunction in the marriage? What problems is this causing between you two?

 

[zoso682001]

The other responses are more cerebral but my thoughts are... It's not that unusual .

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Pretty fucken normal!