Encouraging Wife

[Taeman]

Does anyone have any advice on encouraging my wife to cheat on me ?
We often fantasise about her having sex with other men but she always says she could never cheat on me. How do i get her to actually do it without her thinking i don't love her? I think one of her main concerns is that i would want to have sex with other women but thats not the case. I would just love for another man to seduce her.
Has anyone else been through this and how did you go about turning the fantasy to reality?

 

[silverwhisper]

dude, extra-marital action, even when both marrieds are giving informed consent, is not for everyone. if i were you, i wouldn't try selling her on the idea very hard, b/c it might be sending the subliminal message "hey, i wanna boink other women." any time you raise it, it's possible she will be hearing that somewhere along the way.

i think you should work out why you find the idea so appealing. most commonly, i believe that men who have that fantasy are generally keying off of one of two ideas (which, i should note, are not mutually exclusive):

1. their wives are unbridled sexual dynamos with appetites that no one man can possibly satisfy.
2. they want to be humiliated through cuckoldry and achieve sexual enjoyment out of the idea.

once you work that out, i think that if you haven't already, you should explain why you've been talking about it in ways that reassure her that: 1) you love her more now than yesterday, 2) you don't want to fuck other women and 3) if she ever did it, you wouldn't ever hold it against her.

JMHO.

ed

 

[bobsgirl]

Have you already asked her and gotten a negative response? If you have, then I would say,

a) Some fantasies are better left as fantasies.
and
b) If she said no, you really ought to leave it at that. Why would you want her to do something she's not comfortable doing?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Keep pushin, it'll happen. Probably not the way you want it to, but trust me, if you push her hard enough she'll run right into someone else's arms.

Just don't expect her to come back when she's done.

 

[LadyJeanne]

A woman can't be seduced by anyone unless she's open to it. If you keep pushing her when she's not into it, I guarantee you will cause serious problems in your marriage.

Your wife is not a porn actress that you can direct any way you like to fulfill your fantasies.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Keep pushin, it'll happen. Probably not the way you want it to, but trust me, if you push her hard enough she'll run right into someone else's arms.

Just don't expect her to come back when she's done.

This is a really good point. Women want to feel treasured and appreciated by the men they're with, especially if they are committed to each other in a marriage. It's hard to feel treasured if your husband is pushing you to fuck any Tom, Dick or Harry out there. Isn't she special enough for you to want to keep her to yourself? Aren't you afraid she might choose to be with someone who does?

It's also likely to make her wonder if you're not satisfied with your sex life as it is, which is going to make her start wondering if you're compatible for 'forever'. I'd have a serious problem if the man I was married to suddenly wanted our relationship to be non-monogamous. That's not what women usually expect in a marriage, unless they've agreed on it beforehand.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'd have a serious problem if the man I was married to suddenly wanted our relationship to be non-monogamous. That's not what women usually expect in a marriage, unless they've agreed on it beforehand.

It doesn't have to be you fucking some other woman to make her feel like that bond has been broken. She probably feel betrayed even though you are trying to get her to do something. What's more, she probably resents you pushing her to break that bond which she swore to.

 

[FurryFury]

The problem is this for many women their own feelings about self worth are caught up in being faithful Their feelings about a relationship being strong and healthy have to do with both parties being faithful.

You have to have so much trust built up to talk about these things for her not to feel that you are trying to pimp her out. She could easily feel devalued.

Once you do build up trust the point that you can both talk about your wildest fantasies, even then, you might just have to accept you can't actually do all of them and keep your marriage and self image in tact.

Then you have to decide which is more important to you. Do you want to take the chance that you will deconstruct everything for a fantasy or can you adjust to the idea of keeping it a fantasy and keeping your life as you know it?

If you do convince her how will this change you, her and your relationship? That is hard to predict. Scary bidness [sic] indeed.

Fury

 

[Eilan]

Does anyone have any advice on encouraging my wife to cheat on me ?

If you know about it, is it cheating? I wouldn't consider this cheating, but your wife seems to think that it is.

I'm pretty much in agreement with the other fine folks here. If she doesn't want to do this, you can't "get," "make," "convince," or "encourage" her to do so.

 

[FurryFury]

If you know about it, is it cheating? I wouldn't consider this cheating, but your wife seems to think that it is.

I'm pretty much in agreement with the other fine folks here. If she doesn't want to do this, you can't "get," "make," "convince," or "encourage" her to do so.

I agree Eilan.

A man who wants to or will allow you to fuck someone else but calls it cheating is confusing to me and probably to his wife.

It shouldn't be considered cheating if she wants to do it and he knows about and wants her to IMO.

Fury

 

[Recidiva]

Buy her Brad Pitt.

 

[silverwhisper]

what's the going rate for that one, anybody know? i'm thinking that would make a nice stocking stuffer. :>

ed

 

[Recidiva]

what's the going rate for that one, anybody know? i'm thinking that would make a nice stocking stuffer. :>

ed

I'm not sure, but if my husband bought me Viggo Mortenson, I'd be sold.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm not sure, but if my husband bought me Viggo Mortenson, I'd be sold.

*purrs*

Now you are talking!

Fury

 

[Recidiva]

*purrs*

Now you are talking!

Fury

There are loving, creative ways to do lots of things!

 

[gypsy4191]

Vin Diesel would do it for me, or Pierce Brosnon, or Sean Connery or Sam Neil or Indianna Jones (i always forget his real name!) I'm not picky!

A nice way to try would be to organise ahead of time someone that appeals to your wifes sense of yumminess and just have them sitting in the room while you have a heavy session of foreplay and possibly make love, if you do this a couple of times she may become comfortable with this person and start allowing them to join in with foreplay and the... who knows.

But to be sure try forcing the issue and she bolt, or perhaps she'll give in to keep you happy and she'll either 1) turn into a cum slut or 2) enjoy the other fella more and leave you for him.

makes you sit up and think doesn't it!

 

[hogjack]

Buy her Brad Pitt.

Pitt can be leased for 48- and 72-hour time periods. But the conditions in his contract are difficult to meet. And he won't do anal.

 

[hogjack]

But to be sure try forcing the issue and she bolt, or perhaps she'll give in to keep you happy and she'll either 1) turn into a cum slut or 2) enjoy the other fella more and leave you for him.

Or she'll just join the French Foreign Legion. It's quite common you know.

 

[Recidiva]

Pitt can be leased for 48- and 72-hour time periods. But the conditions in his contract are difficult to meet. And he won't do anal.

Well, obviously. What fun is it if it's easy. That's why I'd be sold if he accomplished the damned thing.

 

[FurryFury]

There are loving, creative ways to do lots of things!

Oh yes, I do believe that!

Vin Diesel would do it for me, or Pierce Brosnon, or Sean Connery or Sam Neil or Indianna Jones (i always forget his real name!) I'm not picky!

A nice way to try would be to organise ahead of time someone that appeals to your wifes sense of yumminess and just have them sitting in the room while you have a heavy session of foreplay and possibly make love, if you do this a couple of times she may become comfortable with this person and start allowing them to join in with foreplay and the... who knows.

But to be sure try forcing the issue and she bolt, or perhaps she'll give in to keep you happy and she'll either 1) turn into a cum slut or 2) enjoy the other fella more and leave you for him.

I would never go for that unless I already wanted to fuck other men which come to think of it...*smiles sweetly thinking.*

makes you sit up and think doesn't it!

Pitt can be leased for 48- and 72-hour time periods. But the conditions in his contract are difficult to meet. And he won't do anal.

What an ass. *snickers*It's the green m&m clause that is hard to meet.

 

[WestVaCouple]

Be Patient & Have A Plan

Be patient. I first brought it up to my wife about 3 1/2 years ago and she called me a pervert, among other things. At that time I developed a plan, it was patient and took small subtle steps. (PM me if you want more details on the plan) But after 3 years, some setbacks, and being patient, she finally approached me about the idea.

 

[look and see]

Does anyone have any advice on encouraging my wife to cheat on me ?
We often fantasise about her having sex with other men but she always says she could never cheat on me. How do i get her to actually do it without her thinking i don't love her? I think one of her main concerns is that i would want to have sex with other women but thats not the case. I would just love for another man to seduce her.
Has anyone else been through this and how did you go about turning the fantasy to reality?

I'm working on the same thing. She finaily said she would if she found the right guy. bingo . She found a 28 year old and she is 33 but he is two nice nice and won't ask her out ??? Now she want to get fucked by some guy. This has made sex much hotter

 

[look and see]

If you know about it, is it cheating? I wouldn't consider this cheating, but your wife seems to think that it is.

I'm pretty much in agreement with the other fine folks here. If she doesn't want to do this, you can't "get," "make," "convince," or "encourage" her to do so.

Women call it cheating Men call is having fun. The trick is getting your wife to have fun

 

[FurryFury]

Women call it cheating Men call is having fun. The trick is getting your wife to have fun

Some men also call it cheating and that confuses me. Either I have your permission and it's not cheating or I don't, ya know?

Fury

 

[look and see]

Some men also call it cheating and that confuses me. Either I have your permission and it's not cheating or I don't, ya know?

Fury

Its all how you want to look at it. At this point in my life its all fun if we stay in love