Ever take out a personal ad?

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Looking over the "Peronals" forum has become a fetish for me lately. Kind of like those people who only watch racing hoping for a car crash.

And then I remembered that way back in 1983 (I think) I actually placed a personal ad in The Village Voice. I thought, what the hell, let's give it a try.

I asked for a pretty, smart girl, blah-blah. I got quite a few letters, only one of which I answered because she sounded smart, funny and described herself as "quite beautiful". We met, went out on a date, and had fun. She was smart and funny, but far from "quite beautiful". She wasn't ugly, but she was a little dumpy, and plain, and I couldn't get past that. Not so much because I needed a beautiful woman, but because she had misrepresented herself, either consciously, so I'd answer the letter, or in a self-delusional sense. Either way, the fact that she had desrcibed herself like that, and clearly wasn't, blew it for me. Either she was aliar or a nut. I never called her again.

And I never answered another letter, or placed another ad. It was a strange experience. (I went back to my old M.O. which always worked -- if I wanted a girlfriend all I had to do was join an acting class.)

Every place an ad? (Newspaper ad -- not the Internet) Did it work out?

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

We did.

In the Voice "couples for couples" section - interesting but never came to anything real. Almost but not.

The thing is that "wild out of towners" millions of whom flock here to NYC every day - pick up the Voice on a lark, and over a glass of wine they look over the ads.

They pull out the old cell phone and make the call.

The thing is - if yer not ready to "play right then" - the mood will probably fade.

And that's what happened to us.

 

[alexander tzara]

I asked for a pretty, smart girl, blah-blah. I got quite a few letters, only one of which I answered because she sounded smart, funny and described herself as "quite beautiful". We met, went out on a date, and had fun. She was smart and funny, but far from "quite beautiful". She wasn't ugly, but she was a little dumpy, and plain, and I couldn't get past that. Not so much because I needed a beautiful woman, but because she had misrepresented herself, either consciously, so I'd answer the letter, or in a self-delusional sense.

How did you describe yourself in the ad, Dixon? Do you think you misrepresented yourself at all?

I've never placed a personal ad, mainly 'cause by the time I might have thought about doing that I was in a long-term relationship. I'm not sure how I would have descibed myself. Actually, I'm not sure if I'd ever have gone through with it. I think I'd always be a bit wary of going on a complete blind-date.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

No. I was dead on about my appearance, though I didn't spend a lot of time on it. It was a short ad -- maybe four lines.

 

[DarkAngel]

lol... uhm... nope...

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Hey! That's exactly what I said when I first met her!

 

[Purple Haze]

I put an ad in the local paper seeking fun-loving female with fishing boat, looking for long-lasting meaningful relationship. Please include photo of boat.

You wouldn't believe how many pictures of boats I have. LMAO!

 

[nitengale]

I put an ad in the local paper seeking fun-loving female with fishing boat, looking for long-lasting meaningful relationship. Please include photo of boat.

You wouldn't believe how many pictures of boats I have. LMAO!

You never did reply to how you liked my row boat.

 

[Siren]

Hey Hazie...you can Rock my Boat

 

[Purple Haze]

That was you, with the eight foot dinghy?

 

[Iris]

Never place one but...

You ever wonder about the people that do? They are, or are at that time in their life, a loser or an extreme introvert. Those are the only 2 reasons I can think of for placing a personal ad. How hard is it to meet someone, even just for one date? There's people everywhere.

 

[*bratcat*]

Nope...

 

[Iris]

I think you should answer him, brat even if you didn't post it. I hear he's a real sweetie.

 

[*bratcat*]

ummm...

 

[Mustang Sally]

You ever wonder about the people that do? They are, or are at that time in their life, a loser or an extreme introvert. Those are the only 2 reasons I can think of for placing a personal ad. How hard is it to meet someone, even just for one date? There's people everywhere.

*sigh*

I must be an extreme introvert, then. Maybe a loser, too, who knows? I've never placed an ad, never considered placing an ad, but I have the hardest time meeting people. I just moved to the big city a few months ago, and I've been try to figure out how...

Some people seem to just naturally acquire friends wherever they go. I so envy them.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Mustang Sally]

hell you just moved to the WRONG big city...you need to move to BC, and I would love to have coffee with you!

Aww, cat, that's sweet.

"Go west, young (wo)man. It's the cool thing to do."
Everyone around here seems to want to move to B.C. "You'd LOVE Vancouver!" they say. Well, it's on the top of my TO SEE list. Maybe in August.

*crossing fingers*

 

[*bratcat*]

Well just let me know!

 

[SexyThang]

Gee Cat, I thought you only liked personal ads that resembled furry marsupials

 

[*bratcat*]

gee, Rhi...

 

[SexyThang]

For the way you ragged on this place, I assume your only posting here now cuz your shiny happy board is down.

And yes my eyes are green..with gold flecks!

 

[*bratcat*]

gee..strike one baby

 

[Blackbich]

Don't feel bad Mustang...I must be a loser too! And to think, I thought it was just shyness I was suffering from. *sigh*

Some people are able to draw people to them like flies to shit (pardon the example but it was the first thing that came to my mind) while others don't.

I placed an ad a long time ago. I finally called this guy back after he'd left numerous messages asking me to call him, yadda, yadda, yadda. We had talked on the phone for at least an hour, things were going great. Then he made a comment about not understanding 'what white women saw in black men'. I didn't think anything about it until a couple of minutes later when he made a derogatory comment about interracial relationships. Now, he had already told me he was white and I had put in my ad that I was black so that really threw me. When I reminded him that I was black he stopped as if he never knew that and the conversation came to a quick halt. I never misrepresentated who/what I was and it irritated me that he hadn't even taken the time to read the damn ad thoroughly. I haven't placed an ad since then but I read through them sometimes.

 

[SexyThang]

How's your friend these days? Still causing problems for you? Is that why you've been avoiding this place and panicking in case anyone from here reads what was posted elsewhere..the stuff you begged to be removed?

Gotta love those Aussie animals

 

[*bratcat*]

sweetheart...