Fear of penetration?

[Lunar_Eclipse]

Hey guys, so I've been thinking and I've come to realize something. Though I tend to enjoy normal clit stimulation with me fingers, if doesn't give me a very strong orgasm. Until I can afford to move into a dorm, I'm living with some people and don't feel comfortable getting a toy to add to the stimulation to receive a bigger O.

I've read and I've heard about penetration with my fingers and finding my G-spot, but I often get scared or to nervous and can't do it. I've tried relaxing music and touching myself until I'm comfortable, but whenever it comes time, I chicken out.

It wouldn't be my first time doing it, but after I broke my hymen when I was 17 with a hairbrush, I've always been kinda.... avoidish of delving in. I was wondering if anyone had any advice.

I know some women just aren't aroused by penetration, but I have yet to really find out if I do or do not and am willing to try, if I could get past my illogical fear.

 

[sunandshadow]

First step is figuring out what you are actually afraid of (or feel guilty about or whatever).

 

[Boundlife]

Do you use tampons? Thinking of some hair brush handles if you haven't done any penatration since... was that a bit harsh? try in the tub, make sure your aroused and start with one finger..{even your pinky}
Good luck

 

[Lunar_Eclipse]

I wouldn't say the hairbrush handle was...harsh. But maybe it had account of it's what broke my hymen, that'd been a bit startling for me. I'm not sure what I'm so afraid of, that it'll hurt maybe, I dunno. Just whenever I try to move to the next step I can't help but tense up.

 

[satindesire]

I wouldn't say the hairbrush handle was...harsh. But maybe it had account of it's what broke my hymen, that'd been a bit startling for me. I'm not sure what I'm so afraid of, that it'll hurt maybe, I dunno. Just whenever I try to move to the next step I can't help but tense up.

Unless you have fingers the size of hairbrush handles, or you're unusually tightened up because you're terrified, it shouldn't hurt at all. You don't have to go whole hog and shove a whole fist in there, just use one finger to start. You'll have plenty of room. The vagina isn't closed up like the anus is, it's constantly shedding material from the uterus and whatnot, so it has to be open at least somewhat to stay healthy. You'll be okay. I promise.

 

[firenzi]

A bit of lube might help.

 

[LordMhoram]

First, I would point out that your one and only experience with penetration broke your hymen; an action that generally causes a little pain. It should not hurt the next time, so if there was that doubt or concern in the back of your mind, you need not worry.

Second, as you see by the warm, supporting posts of the women, none of them see anything to feel guilty about, if that is the source of your concern. Most men find the whole idea of a woman stimulating and penetrating herself to be highly arousing. So if you are concerned that others will think you are doing something wrong, well, I won't pretend no such people exist, but most find the activity perfectly normal and healthy.

It is understandable that you wish to keep this all private and thus don't want to buy anything that might reveal to someone what you are doing. Your fingers are fine and should cause no damage. If you have long nails, you might consider clipping them short for your early explorations just to be cautious.

There is no reason to fear there will be pain, and there is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about. It is a completely natural activity, and it is your body to do with as you please.

So please your body.