Fear of rejection and if I’m wrong?

[Sallyhansen6914]

I have a theory that my ex was in to cuckolding.. and he got his buddy to sleep with me and that they didn’t think I’d ever make it known that in my eyes I slept with his BFF without him knowing.

Well because I’m honest that backfired so they scambled and made me believe it that I needed to get my ex it was all a lie and shit. Long long story.

I think they think I’ll be upset if that was the case. I mean I’ve been open to the idea but when I cheated 7 years ago he was so upset I always feared he’d reject and judge me.

But the other night when talking to him about it I asked him about what the the kink of being a cuckold was. And I feel like when he explained it to me he wasn’t in anyway disgusted. I pretended to be. But should I have said maybe that’s what could save the marriage?

But if I am wrong (I truly don’t think so) or they are in fear I am only saying that to get the truth out of them and they reject me and then it really was that his BfF does actually like me enough to sneak around his BFF back to see me and continue to almost get caught and this BS

I could fuck a lot up. But how do I do that I’m right ? I know I am. Help

 

[Britva415]

should I have said maybe that’s what could save the marriage?

Are things really that shaky?

Anyway: If things really are that shaky, then you have nothing to lose by being honest.

And if things aren't that shaky and your marriage isn't at risk over this, then I don't see a need to do anything beyond simply moving on and forgetting all about this.

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

Well he was standoff ish.. but maybe open to it? Idk hard to read him

 

[Yarglenurp]

I have a theory that my ex was in to cuckolding.. and he got his buddy to sleep with me and that they didn’t think I’d ever make it known that in my eyes I slept with his BFF without him knowing.

Well because I’m honest that backfired so they scambled and made me believe it that I needed to get my ex it was all a lie and shit. Long long story.

I think they think I’ll be upset if that was the case. I mean I’ve been open to the idea but when I cheated 7 years ago he was so upset I always feared he’d reject and judge me.

But the other night when talking to him about it I asked him about what the the kink of being a cuckold was. And I feel like when he explained it to me he wasn’t in anyway disgusted. I pretended to be. But should I have said maybe that’s what could save the marriage?

But if I am wrong (I truly don’t think so) or they are in fear I am only saying that to get the truth out of them and they reject me and then it really was that his BfF does actually like me enough to sneak around his BFF back to see me and continue to almost get caught and this BS

I could fuck a lot up. But how do I do that I’m right ? I know I am. Help

These are exes? So this is all basically a friends/exes/fuckbuddies situation?

Just ask, and assume you have nothing to lose.

Literally what’s the worst that could happen? He breaks up with you? Too late for that one.

 

[Escierto]

Are things really that shaky?

Anyway: If things really are that shaky, then you have nothing to lose by being honest.

And if things aren't that shaky and your marriage isn't at risk over this, then I don't see a need to do anything beyond simply moving on and forgetting all about this.

Very good advice IMHO.

 

[magic_rat]

He lied to you.

Dump him and move on.

 

[twister947]

I could fuck a lot up

You're too late; it's already fucked up.

 

[magic_rat]

You're too late; it's already fucked up.

Totally.

He lied to you. He tricked you into having sex with a friend of his. You really think there's a future with this lowlife piece of shit?

If he was into the cuck thing all he had to do to gauge your reaction was to say "hey, that time you were unfaithful, it was kind of exciting". Or open a discussion. Honesty makes relationships work, not lies and trickery.

 

[drobert44]

Totally.

He lied to you. He tricked you into having sex with a friend of his. You really think there's a future with this lowlife piece of shit?

If he was into the cuck thing all he had to do to gauge your reaction was to say "hey, that time you were unfaithful, it was kind of exciting". Or open a discussion. Honesty makes relationships work, not lies and trickery.

Sally; dump his lying ass. All he had to do was play straight with you..