find a cyber partner

[Tenel]

Does anyone have any tips towards finding a woman cyber partner? I used to have a great irc server, when I was in the mood I could just pop in and have some fun talking a little dirty and relaxing, but that since has closed down leaving me lost with where to look.

I am not a fan of the whole adding random people to an IM list and asking them if they want to cyber. To me that is incredibly rude and I don't wish to partake, I am just looking for a place to find likeminded individuals who are also looking for the same thing.

 

[SweetErika]

You could try getting on Lit's chat, as long as you don't mind having technical difficulties sometimes.

It seems like many of the members who cyber meet their partners by participating on various threads here, then move to PM/email/IM. I'd think that'd be the best way to go, as there would be a better chance of getting a higher-quality, even steady, partner.

However, that approach generally takes some time and effort. I get the impression that those who are successful aren't seeking cyber exclusively, they're genuinely looking to get to know others/make friends. Therefore, they don't come across as desperate or pushy, which makes them more attractive.

Good call on not sending unsolicited PMs - the guys who do that always strike me as too stupid to figure out a more effective, respectful way to go.

 

[CurlyWurly]

I would agree with SweetErika. On the very rare occasions I have done cyber it has been with a guy I've got to know slowly and who I know quite well.

As it happens, I didn't meet any on Lit but by other sites.

Desperate pleas won't get you anywhere!

 

[tickledkitty]

I see you have Yahoo Messenger. Have you tried Yahoo chatrooms? There are tons of them, and they're generally full of people who want to play.

 

[Reba67]

I agree on the good call on random PMs. I delete and block anyone who PMs me and says "wanna cyber" or something similar when we've had no other interaction.

Obvoiusly, I'm not too active on this board, but I do read a lot. If you want to interest me in cyber, try stringing more than 2-4 words together in a PM.

 

[Tenel]

Thank you very much for the replies

Been extremely busy (what is new eh?) so I havn't been able to pop in and respond here.


Yeah I have tried yahoo chats, but everyone I found at least, was about 99% bots spamming adverts for their websites. Totally not an enjoyable experience.

And Reba, that is why I am avoiding such if at all possible . I know exactly how I would feel if random people would be constantly spamming me. (Which I am sure happens here to some extent having an idea what the internet is like.)

Anyways, thank you again for the responses