Finding a 2nd male for a threesome

[alwayshorny2020]

Hi, wife and I have discussed having a MFm threesome. We are novices but mature just wondering if anyone has experience in finding a third person.
Are we better just picking up at a bar or going online. We are in our 50's and the wife is definitely a milf.

 

[Saint Peter]

order a pizza.

 

[Dribble]

order a pizza.

And tip $100

 

[Saint Peter]

And tip $100

that would depend on the pizza.

 

[magicalmoments]

Back in the day when my wife and I were active in this activity we used adult contact magazines. The modern day equivalent are the specialised "swingers" websites.
Find a specialist 3'sum introductory website that has subscribers from your area. Sign up a subscription and place an honest profile describing yourselves and exactly what you are looking for, titty pics help, and wait for the responses to roll in.
I would advise patience and be prepared for 90% of your contacts to be toads pretending to be princes. I would also advise exchanging several emails before exchanging phone numbers or making dates. If the contenders can't be arsed being patient they're not worth the bother.
Or... You could go to a bar and attract a random and be absolutely disappointed in the result.

 

[NikiVien]

Back in the day when my wife and I were active in this activity we used adult contact magazines. The modern day equivalent are the specialised "swingers" websites.
Find a specialist 3'sum introductory website that has subscribers from your area. Sign up a subscription and place an honest profile describing yourselves and exactly what you are looking for, titty pics help, and wait for the responses to roll in.
I would advise patience and be prepared for 90% of your contacts to be toads pretending to be princes. I would also advise exchanging several emails before exchanging phone numbers or making dates. If the contenders can't be arsed being patient they're not worth the bother.
Or... You could go to a bar and attract a random and be absolutely disappointed in the result.

Absolutely spot on, the only thing I would add is to arrange a 'social' first (with no commitment to sex) that way you can get a feel for each other before you get a feel of each other

 

[KimGordon67]

I'm on a local swingers site (I'm single ... it's a long story as to why I'm there). There's a LOT of single guys signed up, and most of them I wouldn't give the time of day to. However, some of them are good guys, and were I in the position of looking for someone to join in with me and the non-existent guy I'm seeing, there's a few I would be OK with.

I was seeing a guy last year who was the 'third' with one or two couples. He didn't really enjoy it that much - I think it all felt a bit mechanical, like he was a third wheel. Having said that, he's not bi, so that limited things a bit in terms of the couple he met, and how involved everyone was in what was going on.

I think it's worth doing the online thing, and getting to know the guy a bit first, and as was suggested above, meeting them in a social context to check you actually get on. This is a stranger you're inviting into your house (assuming you don't use a m/hotel) - you need to feel happy about them, and they also need to feel good about the situation.

There other option is a swingers club - there's bound to be one not too far from you. However, the main one here doesn't always let in solo guys.

What's really surprised me is how common this is.

 

[lovetoread]

if you are going to do a threesome, touch everyone and everything

 

[rockcasbah]

if you are going to do a threesome, touch everyone and everything

Does sean enjoy having sex with you and another man?

 

[bimwiguy1963]

if you are going to do a threesome, touch everyone and everything

Our first 3way started with a single friend of ours. It started out him and I pleasuring her, but ended up me pleasuring them.

 

[rockcasbah]

Our first 3way started with a single friend of ours. It started out him and I pleasuring her, but ended up me pleasuring them.

cuckadoodle-do

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Absolutely spot on, the only thing I would add is to arrange a 'social' first (with no commitment to sex) that way you can get a feel for each other before you get a feel of each other

gorgeous woman...wife???

 

[nkycatsfan]

When we were more active with it, we used a swinger site to find people to add to the bedroom...but in all honesty, the ones where we were drinking with good friends that organically developed (all into multiple encounters) were the best. Some of those you meet on the sites just expect to get laid and put no effort into the flirting, etc. that my wife enjoyed most in the "process" - feeling like someone was genuinely into her and TRYING to get laid...not EXPECTING to get laid.

 

[luckyseven]

We almost always used a friend for a 3some, not the same one every time. You might be surprised at how many of your friends are into this. Both married and single.

I was also very surprised how many of our friends are into it as well - it used to be very secret but now we are happy to meet up more regularly. We are old enough to know what we all want - no one is left out and there is no jealously.

It made us feel younger, more confident and sexually satisfied.

 

[KimGordon67]

When we were more active with it, we used a swinger site to find people to add to the bedroom...but in all honesty, the ones where we were drinking with good friends that organically developed (all into multiple encounters) were the best. Some of those you meet on the sites just expect to get laid and put no effort into the flirting, etc. that my wife enjoyed most in the "process" - feeling like someone was genuinely into her and TRYING to get laid...not EXPECTING to get laid.

I love this differentiation - I'd honestly never thought about it this way, but you're so right. Most people (your wife included, obviously) want to feel like the person they're about to have sex with is actually into them. Not that they just happen to be convenient.

 

[Dribble]

I'm on a local swingers site (I'm single ... it's a long story as to why I'm there). There's a LOT of single guys signed up, and most of them I wouldn't give the time of day to. However, some of them are good guys, and were I in the position of looking for someone to join in with me and the non-existent guy I'm seeing, there's a few I would be OK with.

I was seeing a guy last year who was the 'third' with one or two couples. He didn't really enjoy it that much - I think it all felt a bit mechanical, like he was a third wheel. Having said that, he's not bi, so that limited things a bit in terms of the couple he met, and how involved everyone was in what was going on.

I think it's worth doing the online thing, and getting to know the guy a bit first, and as was suggested above, meeting them in a social context to check you actually get on. This is a stranger you're inviting into your house (assuming you don't use a m/hotel) - you need to feel happy about them, and they also need to feel good about the situation.

There other option is a swingers club - there's bound to be one not too far from you. However, the main one here doesn't always let in solo guys.

What's really surprised me is how common this is.

You're single? I'm single. You're smart. You're sexy. Right up my alley. How do I get a job on your island?

 

[HisArpy]

I love this differentiation - I'd honestly never thought about it this way, but you're so right. Most people (your wife included, obviously) want to feel like the person they're about to have sex with is actually into them. Not that they just happen to be convenient.

Wrote a story with this plot line. Haven't submitted it yet because the site is so fucked up.

 

[rae121452]

honestly? how hard can it be to find some guy with a hard dick who wants to slip it into something free?

 

[NikiVien]

honestly? how hard can it be to find some guy with a hard dick who wants to slip it into something free?

Not difficult at all, but I think most are looking for a little bit more than just a hard cock, that's when it becomes difficult as a lot of guys don't understand the dynamic, as you have proved

 

[ReadyMike]

if you are going to do a threesome, touch everyone and everything

I think this is too long for a tattoo, so

I'd love to see this on an inspirational poster.

 

[alwayshorny2020]

Back in the day when my wife and I were active in this activity we used adult contact magazines. The modern day equivalent are the specialised "swingers" websites.
Find a specialist 3'sum introductory website that has subscribers from your area. Sign up a subscription and place an honest profile describing yourselves and exactly what you are looking for, titty pics help, and wait for the responses to roll in.
I would advise patience and be prepared for 90% of your contacts to be toads pretending to be princes. I would also advise exchanging several emails before exchanging phone numbers or making dates. If the contenders can't be arsed being patient they're not worth the bother.
Or... You could go to a bar and attract a random and be absolutely disappointed in the result.

Thanks for the advice