Finding the right RP partner…

[SmokingFap]

I have noticed the difference in this site it has changed so much and not for the better, I mean there are so many rules now and some of them a bit silly but I am not the one making them. I follow them but I dunno this site does not seem as welcoming anymore, maybe its because of the new rules and the mods or just more bad stuff is happening to people in their lives. This site was booming back in 2013 I have been on this site since 2006 sadly I took a couple of years off because I got married, then got sick and ended up having to lose my leg. That's when I came back on and everyone I knew on here was gone. I was away so long that I had to make another account because I could not remember my password to my Mayu account.

I am always looking for partners and I never ghost people writing keeps my mind occupied since my real life sucks but I know I am not the only one.

So sorry to hear about your illness and the loss of your leg. And I've only been on here for two years, so I have no point of reference, but I have absolutely enjoyed virtually all of my PM conversations with the folks on here, and I enjoy interacting with others on many of the threads. The threads do get a bit redundant and boring after this long, though.

 

[daldog]

I’m curious if anyone has tips or a method they find helpful in finding the right RP partner.

I have found general conversation to be helpful, as well as reading some of their past posts.

I’d love to hear how you vet a potential partner.

I think I meet most of your likes. I'm older, look younger, am long-time married (the fire is out but we peacefully coexist, therefore I'm harmless), have a good sense of humor, am moderately kinky I think, and curious about how this works. i'm new here so pardon any slip-ups. Please, pop my cherry!

 

[HornyIsh69]

It's like a double-edged sword when it comes to finding a partner. Even if my shit gets overlooked like a wart on a proverbial asshole, I still open my horizons. Which to me is not mandatory, but it's warranted. Honestly, I just have the itch to write.

As for missing the other peeps who we write with? I feel on that. Sometimes RL can be a bitch to deal with.

 

[JonathanBair]

I haven't RP'd in years. My question is do the players MM when the story reaches a particular climax? I suppose some do and others don't but it always motivated me more to know that we were both going to enjoy the fruits of our labor.

For me, I like to write for my partner and my self.... Then while in the story I try to think of things that could be interesting for the readers... Like with the story line with PantyMon... We know what the list is and we are skirting around saying the list... Then I made some suggestions to work off the list that will work for are kinks, but also can work for the readers in a few other kinks that we do not have... (Sorry about not sharing more details, but I do not want to give away some of the upcoming SRP story line..LOL)

I know I do enjoy seeing the readers viewer count on the story move up each day on the thread. I really enjoy it when I hear my writing partner goes back and re-reads it get them self worked up... I have gone back to read some past SRP's.

 

[Rick345]

I’m curious if anyone has tips or a method they find helpful in finding the right RP partner.

I have found general conversation to be helpful, as well as reading some of their past posts.

I’d love to hear how you vet a potential partner.

I don’t think it is possible to vet RP partners, as in life, the people you interact with on any given day are random and unpredictable. And just as in life, you do what you can to get along with your neighbors, co-workers, bosses, or whomever.

I do read some of their past posts just to learn a little about their writing style and experience, but those things don’t stop me from choosing them as a partner. The one thing I do is read lit Rps without considering the person as a partner. I just randomly read stories if I like their writing, I PM with a compliment, something like, Your RP ‘The Monsters of Maple Street’ is very engaging, very detailed and imaginative, you are a wonderful writer. If you ever want to do an RP about a co-worker romance, let me know, I think we’d work well together.

If they show interest, and many do, this is a writer's forum after all, I tell them what to expect from me. I can post 3 times a week. I like posts with enough substance, I have something to work with. If you will be unavailable for more than a few days, just let me know. I’ll do the same. If there is something about the story that you don’t like, just tell me and we can figure something out. If you are a grammar Nazi tell’m so.

So I guess the way I vet people is by reading random lit RPs and inviting the writers I enjoy reading to write with me. Don’t be discouraged if your partner disappears, life gets in the way. I have disappeared several times due to sudden, serious health problems. It happens. Years ago, I was in the military reserves, and for 2 weeks a year, I would disappear.

 

[SophiaQ]

Erotic conversation, and especially RP, is an art form. Few have the patience, the creativity, and an appreciation for the nuances involved in creating a most exquisite and profoundly erotic mindset.

I fully agree with this. I like a good story where the erotic/sexual parts are secondary. I also like it to be written collaboratively. The problem I find when attempting to create something with new writers, is they tend to want to create a character for me to write, or will write for my character what they want her to do. I get some of that is good for story flow in small doses, but when whole scenes are written out in one post, that is not on.

Anyway, I'm probably too picky and niche with my prompts and character, but I have to have my head in the story to have the inspiration to write it.

 

[Cfnmlover84]

I haven't RP on here in a couple of years. Worst experience is one time i did a vampire erotica with a user on here (a woman who's last name is a city in Nevada). After she wrote a very short and vague post i guess she didn't like how i responded because she then followed that up by ending the RP with a scene of a nuclear bomb going off and then changing her signature to call me out saying i "wasted her time".

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

As numerous posters mentioned last year, there are many stories which seem to have literate authors who collaborate well and then suddenly....

I try to agree a loose framework with the lady so that we have an idea where we want the story to go, but not so rigid that we can't improvise and perhaps surprise each other and our readers. Every one was started with honest intentions and a desire to create something interesting to ourselves and others who may find the thread. One of the them fell apart after ten posts; one lasted over 350 scenes and 65,000 words but still came to an abrupt halt. Our writing styles complemented one another and the narrative flowed smoothly, we live about 100 miles apart so there was no timezone issue, we exchanged lots of PMs about RL as well as the story and are still in touch occasionally even though she no longer uses Lit, but I still don't know why she abandoned the tale.

Now, after a few years away, I'm having the same experience as Gearhead noted back in '23. To the current regulars I'm an unknown and they stick to the familiar cliqué. Do they just see my profile and .sig and think I only write SF? The long slow-burner in the previous paragraph was set in a theatre in contemporary England. Other (public and private) stories have included a spy thriller in Paris, a feudal were-dragon in a mediæval castle, an outdoor romp during a Lake District hike and, yes, a story set on a spaceship.

Oh well, I'll just have to hope the plot bunnies keep breeding and that a compatible lady notices one of them and asks to play.

 

[Nina327]

I think it has to do with expectation more than anything else.

No one wants to ask someone else to litterarily (its a new word) have a one-night stand. They want the whiff of meaning and longevity without the communication skill or even the desire to write the next great collaborative novel.

Looking for an RP partner that fulfills your great desires is grand, but you're going to miss out on the little tasty bits of story you could have if you did not expect so much. Only writing with people who match perfectly limits your own skillset and narrows your field of view.

Also, people are completely socially awkward little human-beans. Writing can be a vulnerable thing, and no one wants to think they are not liked while sticking their proverbial dick on the chopping block of critique. (I know that gets some of you off, shush, were being wholesome and supportive right now.)

The right RP partner might be learning a new skill right now, or they might be 10 years down the road. Enjoy the journey and the few 'right' ones youll have along the way.

 

[JonathanBair]

I think it has to do with expectation more than anything else.

No one wants to ask someone else to litterarily (its a new word) have a one-night stand. They want the whiff of meaning and longevity without the communication skill or even the desire to write the next great collaborative novel.

Looking for an RP partner that fulfills your great desires is grand, but you're going to miss out on the little tasty bits of story you could have if you did not expect so much. Only writing with people who match perfectly limits your own skillset and narrows your field of view.

Also, people are completely socially awkward little human-beans. Writing can be a vulnerable thing, and no one wants to think they are not liked while sticking their proverbial dick on the chopping block of critique. (I know that gets some of you off, shush, were being wholesome and supportive right now.)

The right RP partner might be learning a new skill right now, or they might be 10 years down the road. Enjoy the journey and the few 'right' ones youll have along the way.

Yes gotta match up writing style and also kinks to match up with what you are looking for in a partner.

 

[Nina327]

You do have to narrow the field a bit.

I know I couldn't jump into Battlestar Galactica or the Elf books-world thats so popular right now. I don't have any interest in those things or the background of the world to go on. Sometimes I'm not willing to even entertain a conversation with someone that has interests they clearly do not share with me. That's where the SRP profile comes in handy, if people use it, and just chat on the different boards.

What am I trying to say... ?

Yes, you need to narrow your players down, but people also need to be ok with "almost" if they want to write with more people.

 

[The_gladiator]

I think sometimes people limit themselves, and overlook partners cause they see them in a story they don’t enjoy, if you like their style sometimes you have to ask if they write other topics. Communication is clear. If you partner loves something you don’t making it clear you want to write with them but you can’t write that is important.
Communicate when life gets in the way. Writing with me can be a challenge, I get that. I’m going through health things the last few years and some days I can’t type well anymore, but communicating with my partners sometimes can help me from burning bridges. When you find a magical partner, you never want it to end, but this isn’t the real world and sometimes those relationships end abruptly or fade slowly.

 

[Crystal_Dust]

You do have to narrow the field a bit.

I know I couldn't jump into Battlestar Galactica or the Elf books-world thats so popular right now. I don't have any interest in those things or the background of the world to go on. Sometimes I'm not willing to even entertain a conversation with someone that has interests they clearly do not share with me. That's where the SRP profile comes in handy, if people use it, and just chat on the different boards.

What am I trying to say... ?

Yes, you need to narrow your players down, but people also need to be ok with "almost" if they want to write with more people.

Elf books world?

 

[Nina327]

Elf books world?

a court of thorns and roses.
I have friends reading the series.
I started it, wanted to murder, I stopped.

 

[Crystal_Dust]

a court of thorns and roses.
I have friends reading the series.
I started it, wanted to murder, I stopped.

Hard pass

 

[The_gladiator]

Hard pass

I like a little more smut with my faeries. At least Hamilton in the gentry novels made it sexy I found the first acotar book to be boring as shit. Just stopped reading the second.

 

[monique_minx]

I think sometimes people limit themselves, and overlook partners cause they see them in a story they don’t enjoy, if you like their style sometimes you have to ask if they write other topics. Communication is clear. If you partner loves something you don’t making it clear you want to write with them but you can’t write that is important.
Communicate when life gets in the way. Writing with me can be a challenge, I get that. I’m going through health things the last few years and some days I can’t type well anymore, but communicating with my partners sometimes can help me from burning bridges. When you find a magical partner, you never want it to end, but this isn’t the real world and sometimes those relationships end abruptly or fade slowly.

Mmm pitching a solid plot can do me innnnnn! Or at the least, something I can build off of - cause I'm pretty good at doing that too.

Oh and I love world rules, I think of loopholes and close them like it's my whole purpose lol

Sidebar: I played an ornery little faerie once here in a group thread, it's not my usual style either but a good idea can really snag me to try my hand.

 

[The_gladiator]

Mmm pitching a solid plot can do me innnnnn! Or at the least, something I can build off of - cause I'm pretty good at doing that too.

Oh and I love world rules, I think of loopholes and close them like it's my whole purpose lol

Sidebar: I played an ornery little faerie once here in a group thread, it's not my usual style either but a good idea can really snag me to try my hand.

My sidhe character is one of my favorites, so I enjoy a little faeries, but, I don’t want them to be sunshines and rainbows,

But yes plot is a good way to get me, something I can build off of, ideas that make my mind race. If you can get me to start spewing Ideas in pm or google chat faster than I can type them that’s where the magic is.

 

[Lucian_Devine]

a court of thorns and roses.
I have friends reading the series.
I started it, wanted to murder, I stopped.

What part made you want to murder, lol?

~LD

 

[Lucian_Devine]

Mmm pitching a solid plot can do me innnnnn! Or at the least, something I can build off of - cause I'm pretty good at doing that too.

Oh and I love world rules, I think of loopholes and close them like it's my whole purpose lol

Sidebar: I played an ornery little faerie once here in a group thread, it's not my usual style either but a good idea can really snag me to try my hand.

Yeah, it's the rules and limitation that help ground a story and make it real. When anyone can do anything, based simply on what the plot demands, there's no tension. If I'm doing an action style thread, I want that tension. I want to see my guy get hit, or barely dodge it, etc.

~LD

 

[Nina327]

What part made you want to murder, lol?

~LD

nothing specific.
It was like a story version of someone revving their engine repeatedly and doing nothing with it.

 

[Crystal_Dust]

nothing specific.
It was like a story version of someone revving their engine repeatedly and doing nothing with it.

I wanna be nothing specific

 

[Lucian_Devine]

nothing specific.
It was like a story version of someone revving their engine repeatedly and doing nothing with it.

That's fair. Did you try the Fourth Wing series by Rebecca Yarros? That might be closer to what you are looking for.

~LD

 

[Nina327]

That's fair. Did you try the Fourth Wing series by Rebecca Yarros? That might be closer to what you are looking for.

~LD

Honestly, I'm not looking for plot at the moment. My brain wants feral fucking or licking the sweat off of trembling, pent up, subs. I'm just not patient enough for much else for the nonce.

 

[monique_minx]

Honestly, I'm not looking for plot at the moment. My brain wants feral fucking or licking the sweat off of trembling, pent up, subs. I'm just not patient enough for much else for the nonce.

I can tremble...