It'sasecret
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Hey Y2J420, I know this is off topic but why are using all those weird symbols in your post? It makes it hard to read.
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It'sasecret
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Strange I never had a problem with any other posts like that?!?!? Your last post was all good. Is anyone else seeing the strange symbols in his posts?
What the hell... I'll wade in here too
First off... yep, I got the symbols as well..
On to the topic. At seventeen, she should be thinking about sex. Ok, maybe she does, she grinds on your leg. That's a good thing and I don't think you realize it.
LET her grind away! Lightly rub her ass while she does, don't pressure her at all... let her get herself off! Once she does have an orgasm... ANY orgasm... you are in the door!
She sounds a little afraid, of emotional commitment, of physical commitment.... Just fear of the unknown. The only way I have ever found to get beyond these fears, is on your own. Be there to help out, answer questions, provide a leg, whatever SHE needs, but understand that she has to get through this her way!
If she had felt pressured, whether you intended it or not, she would react in fear... it hurts, it tickles, etc...
Don't even bring sex up for a week or two... just spend time watching movies, going out to eat, whatever she feels like doing.
Let her come to you when she needs to cuddle, and try very hard not to cause any pressure on her, and she will resolve her problems.
As for you. Two years is a long time at your age to wait for anything. Think about this. Your girlfriend has a few hang ups, don't we all? Are hers so severe that you will be 'taking care of her' rather than loving her for the rest of your time together? Can you? From what I have read, you care very much for her, Caring is not always enough, loving is not always enough. In some tragic relationships, one partner sucks the very being out of the other... is that the road you are facing?
Ten years from now is not the time to answer that question, that was supposed to be answered last week, last year!
I wish you both the very best of luck.
Both of you need to open your eyes and take a hard look around. Is this where you need to be at this point in your lives? When both of you have answered that question, I hope you are still together.
First off... yep, I got the symbols as well..
On to the topic. At seventeen, she should be thinking about sex. Ok, maybe she does, she grinds on your leg. That's a good thing and I don't think you realize it.
LET her grind away! Lightly rub her ass while she does, don't pressure her at all... let her get herself off! Once she does have an orgasm... ANY orgasm... you are in the door!
She sounds a little afraid, of emotional commitment, of physical commitment.... Just fear of the unknown. The only way I have ever found to get beyond these fears, is on your own. Be there to help out, answer questions, provide a leg, whatever SHE needs, but understand that she has to get through this her way!
If she had felt pressured, whether you intended it or not, she would react in fear... it hurts, it tickles, etc...
Don't even bring sex up for a week or two... just spend time watching movies, going out to eat, whatever she feels like doing.
Let her come to you when she needs to cuddle, and try very hard not to cause any pressure on her, and she will resolve her problems.
As for you. Two years is a long time at your age to wait for anything. Think about this. Your girlfriend has a few hang ups, don't we all? Are hers so severe that you will be 'taking care of her' rather than loving her for the rest of your time together? Can you? From what I have read, you care very much for her, Caring is not always enough, loving is not always enough. In some tragic relationships, one partner sucks the very being out of the other... is that the road you are facing?
Ten years from now is not the time to answer that question, that was supposed to be answered last week, last year!
I wish you both the very best of luck.
Both of you need to open your eyes and take a hard look around. Is this where you need to be at this point in your lives? When both of you have answered that question, I hope you are still together.
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