First Sexual Experiences

[FeatherNails]

Wow Feather, that is intimate, but not nasty at all. Have the two of you continued to have a close relationship like that or has it changed as you got older.

we are very very close, but like I said, it isn't sexual in any way.

 

[FeatherNails]

I understand that. I'm glad you've been able to stay close. It's very special to have a sibling you can just be yourself with. It's a misconception, especially in places like this that that sort of closeness automatically has to be sexual.

exactly.
I think thats primarily a male issue, to be honest.
Women are more open to intimacy that involves the body but still isn't sexual.

 

[FeatherNails]

Yes, I think you're right. Over the years I've known lots of girls and even some young women who are quite comfortable holding hands and having their arms around each other without it being anything more than a show of friendship. Guys, being the stupid animals we are, immediately try to interpret this as some sort of sexual thing. Considering we live in such a supposedly open sexual age, I'm constantly amazed at how little men and women really know about their own sexuality and the sexuality of others.

I think its simply different. Guys express a physicality towards each other but with a more violent tint to it.
Which really is exactly the same.
Women touch each other in ways that could be seen as sexual, but they don't see it that way.
Men touch each other in ways that could be interpreted as violence, but it obviously isn't.
Both have a physical aspect to their relationships that can also be seen as confusing if not put in the right context.

 

[FeatherNails]

LOL
well, if Kat needs another story from someone to bring us back around, I can probably provide, if some sort of request is made by the Thread Mistress

 

[FeatherNails]

sorry, ethereal requests don't register

 

[lex8508]

I really wish I could officially submit my first experience to Lit, but I was too young and it would be against guidelines. <pout> I wrote it out a few years ago for my Master, who thoroughly enjoyed it.

I was 12 and he was 15, the older brother of my best friend. He used to tease us all the time but he was never really mean. As his sister and I started learning a thing or two, the teasing turned into flirting, sort of. One afternoon he had to walk me home because my mom was running late at work. We walked past the baseball field and he invited me into the storage room (he helped to run the sports programs and had a key). He quizzed me to figure out if I was all talk with the hints and flirts I'd thrown his way. (I had ideas but was really pretty clueless.)

He offered a basic "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" deal and I jumped on it. He pulled his cock out and let me look him over, then jerked off for me. I was fascinated! (Watching a guy cum right in my face has been a hot button for me ever since.)

Fair is fair, so I took off my panties, slid up my skirt, and let him look me over. I'd masturbated alone a few times before, but his touches were so different. He touched me everywhere, making me very wet, then slid a finger inside my virgin pussy until he bumped my hymen, then backed off. He laughed when I was disappointed. He spread my juices over my clit then assaulted it til I had my first-ever orgasm. He made me cum twice!

Once I recovered a little he helped me get dressed again. I noticed (how could I not?) that he was hard again so I asked if I could try to make him cum. He grinned and told me to go right ahead. I took my time and thoroughly enjoyed the feel of him in my hand, so full but with such soft skin. He talked to me and told me how it felt, what he liked. It was amazing to feel him get harder and watch his balls tighten up just before he came. He was very polite and aimed away from me, but I watched every spurt of cum shoot out of him with delight.

We managed to have several visits to that dugout, among other places, over the next few years. We were never truly romantically involved, but partners in learning about our bodies. He was a wonderful teacher, though!

see thats how a first should be, innocent and young... makes me want to cry (how masculine and sexy, I know) that Im still waiting for my first at almost 23 and it wont be innocent at all.. Sometimes I really wish I could go back in time and help myself, but I realize, even if I could, i wouldnt know how to help myself anyways... oh well, nice stories

 

[lex8508]

exactly.
I think thats primarily a male issue, to be honest.
Women are more open to intimacy that involves the body but still isn't sexual.

I wish I could find a girl that would be ok with having a relationship with me that I dont have to worry about sex, it can just be about us being as close as possible as much as possible. Even tho Im almost 23 I guess you could say Im still stuck at the "puppy love stage" that i never had in my teens. Now we are in such a sexual world that I hear people in public openly talking about it and it just makes me feel so different and nervous. I wish I didnt have to worry about meeting someones expectations for sex and could just focus on feeling accepted and hopefully learn what love really is.. At my age, that doesnt seem to be an option tho, especially in northern california.

 

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[lex8508]

I truly believe that you do not have to "worry about meeting someone's expectations for sex." If you are worrying, you are with the wrong person. If you're not with anyone, you will be one day and you will see that things will fall into place. When you love someone and care about them, making love comes naturally and it is only a small part of the intimacy you will share with that person; there's so much more. I know things will work out for you!

thank you Miss Kat, thats another reason why I respect you so much. And no, Im not with anyone. The reason I was talking about being affraid of not being able to meet peoples expectations, is when I was working last winter, almost every night I heard a number of people say "Look how big he is, he must have a huge cock" or "Look how big he is, I bet hes huge and you know he knows how to use it" it amazed me that people from early teens all the way up to 70s thought that and said it aloud, and it didnt matter if they were female or male.. It was the first time I was shown that the first thing people thinka bot when they see me isnt just how tall I am and how my back looks, but in this world, its invariably about sex, and thats why Im worried about sex. I wish I could have a prely emotional relationship, but that doesnt seem possible. Thank you again Miss Kat, and I hope you are having fun with that gorgeous body of yours.

 

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[FeatherNails]

Please, no apology necessary! I enjoy reading your comments and find it interesting the direction in which the thread heads.



I truly believe that you do not have to "worry about meeting someone's expectations for sex." If you are worrying, you are with the wrong person. If you're not with anyone, you will be one day and you will see that things will fall into place. When you love someone and care about them, making love comes naturally and it is only a small part of the intimacy you will share with that person; there's so much more. I know things will work out for you!

I don't think thats true. It is, in face, perfectly normal to worry about these things. However, any girl worth the time is going to be OK with it all and most will probably have fun teaching you, so long as you are an eager student.
And, as Kat says, intimacy is much more than sex.
I wouldn't be too concerned (though I understand why you are)

What does worry me is how this is affecting your confidence and self-esteem, in general, and those are the traits/issues that will keep you from finding the right girl. Work on feeling good about yourself and worthwhile and so forth and that will go a long way for you. Much further than being good in bed.

 

[FeatherNails]

Please, no apology necessary! I enjoy reading your comments and find it interesting the direction in which the thread heads.

any requests?

 

[lex8508]

My gosh, where did you work that you were subject to that kind of harrassment? I don't think that's the norm and I hope you realize it. I've never had people openly and rudely comment upon my body. Also, those aren't the people with whom you're going to have intimate relationships.

your friendly 24 hr north roseville wally world LOL yeah right.. Im not kidding either.. I worked 3-midnight from late sept 06 thru mid april 07 and heard that alot...

 

[lex8508]

super long post sorry

I don't think thats true. It is, in face, perfectly normal to worry about these things. However, any girl worth the time is going to be OK with it all and most will probably have fun teaching you, so long as you are an eager student.
And, as Kat says, intimacy is much more than sex.
I wouldn't be too concerned (though I understand why you are)

What does worry me is how this is affecting your confidence and self-esteem, in general, and those are the traits/issues that will keep you from finding the right girl. Work on feeling good about yourself and worthwhile and so forth and that will go a long way for you. Much further than being good in bed.

Yes, self esteem and confidence (and I will add) self worth, three things that my job helped completely kill off. I was bad about it before work and getting yelled at every night and then fired just made me lose all hope in myself. Im a little better but attention like that my entire life has finally caught up with me to where when out in town (always hearing girls talk about their toys and orgasms and guys who fucked em and gave em head etc) I get so nervous I can hardly walk straight. Im actually afraid to be in a crowd anymore, and almost get sick. It has actually made it near impossible for me to get a job now, because I cant stand being in the spotlight. I am trying to fix that, we are looking into getting me on medicare and hopefully seeing a shrink and trying to at least find something to take the edge off, tho Im still reliant upon two other people in my house.. I think thats another thing that turns women away from me, Ive been alon my entire life, and used by so called friends (I was only their friend at their convenience and was abandoned and even fought at times) so noone ever did anything nice for me, so Im worried that if I ever meet a girl that wants to do something nice for me (say, give me a bj or sex) Im affraid it might scare the hell out of me cuz I am not used to it and dont know what to do. and that thought makes me think, I might actually cry because of it and I know that will turn off a girl in a heartbeat and make her run from me (I saw it when I was overloaded when a girl came to meet me and my mom brought out baby pictures and I went in my room and cried, didnt mean to and the harder I tried to stop the worst it got, she saw me and ran down the hall then wanted to leave)

anyways enough of the depression on the gorgeous siren Miss Kat's thread..

Oh and I want you ladies to know something. I may talk alot about sex and I think about it alot, but i truly dont only want sex, I dont see it as a miracle cure all or even something I will ever get to do often. I see sex a special present maybe, or special occasion that maybe some girl might like to show me someday. I truly wish I could have mainly an emotional relationship with alot of closeness and cuddling and sleeping together. Back to the me being alone my whole life thing, that has made me to where, I had to be indepandant my whole life, now I just want and need someone to be with and know shes going to be there, and maybe I can take care of her too..


Oh, one more thing... I really want to go down on a girl/woman very badly. I know given the time and possibly right tools, or toys shall I say.. I could probably make just about any lady cum over and over... I know that sounds like alot of confidence from a guy that says he has none but when it comes to cums its not the girl Im worried about, its me. Im affraid its either going to take a long time to get me to relax enough to let a girl do it for me, and might take a long time for me to cum, and then it will be one orgasm, possibly no better than my usual, and then Im going to be physically and mentally exhausted and worthless to her and just ready to sleep... and not worth her time and effort

 

[youngleo]

These stories are enough to get any man hard

 

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[stargame]

great story Kat....wow stuff

 

[wonderwhy]

so to all the females here
what was or would be your most perfect scenario for your first time
if you could have it any way you wanted?

 

[dirtycarol]

so to all the females here
what was or would be your most perfect scenario for your first time
if you could have it any way you wanted?

I would want my first time to be with an older very experienced man who would take the time and instruct me on what to do and how to do it...Slowly.

If I could go back in time 35 years...

 

[rex_romeo]

I would want my first time to be with an older very experienced man who would take the time and instruct me on what to do and how to do it...Slowly.

I quickly raise my hand to volunteer!

 

[dirtycarol]

I quickly raise my hand to volunteer!

You are WAY too late! I should have wrote, "If I had it to do over!" I had my first sexual experience over 35 years ago.

 

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[Malerik]

My first sexual experience that sticks with me most happened when I was a freshmen in high school. My brother was a Junior, and introduced me to a friend of his, a beautiful black girl with the body of a supermodel who happened to be a Senior. I figured I had no chance with her in a relationship, but we soon became friends. We started hanging out and talking on the phone. One night, out of the blue, she asked me if I wanted to have phone sex with her. Of course I did, we ended up having an hour long, fucking steaming hot conversation which ended after hearing her loudly orgasming over the phone.

The next day she surprised me at work. (It was a Saturday.) I was organizing some shelves and she walked in, looked around to make sure no one could see her, and flashed me right there. After i got off of work, we walked to a nearby park. I sat on a hill across from a swing, were she sat swining, with no underwear on in a short skirt, so I could see her pussy. She could see from the swing that I was hard as a rock, so she climbed off and we wnet to find somewhere shady. We sat, in the middle of a public park, behind some trees and she gave me a handjob/blowjob while I fundled her beautiful small breasts.

We never actually had intercourse, but that day was just as good as the full thing.

 

[wonderwhy]

haha i did say girls
but that is a very hot story.
why did you never have sex?

 

[Malerik]

haha i did say girls
but that is a very hot story.
why did you never have sex?

Whoops, didn't see that part about just girls. Shows how much I read.

She moved, we stayed in touch, and she left me a couple of very nice polariods as a parting present. I was living with my parents still and being a freshman had little means of transportation.