Forty-somethings

[CoolidgEffect]

So honestly. No one here has learned one thing from someone in the 'younger set?'

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by CoolidgEffect
So honestly. No one here has learned one thing from someone in the 'younger set?'

Can't say that...from a much younger man I learned how to take a risk, open my heart, and love again. I'd say that was a valuable lesson learned.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

So honestly. No one here has learned one thing from someone in the 'younger set?'

That's because they're busy getting pierced and tattooed

~kym~ only us 40-somethings sit at our screens typing

 

[GiveawayGirl]

So honestly. No one here has learned one thing from someone in the 'younger set?'

I have a very good friend in his twenties who taught me two very valuable lessons when I met him: to let go of the crap and stop worrying, and to make time to enjoy my life.

He also taught me how to drink a lot of beer without getting stupid drunk.......but I don't think that is the kind of lesson you are referring to.

 

[Cathleen]

I've learned bunches from the 'younger set', things like tolerance for doing things differently, that piercings etc while I might not like them, I don't consider it anything more then something they like - no judgement against them.

Younger people help me stay sort of in touch with new things, but then again my 48 year old brother knows more about new music then most young kids. He is still a rockin'fella after all these years.

I also think I'd not want to be 25 today - I guess I am in the right time......

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by GiveawayGirl


He also taught me how to drink a lot of beer without getting stupid drunk.......but I don't think that is the kind of lesson you are referring to.

Maybe not but I'd sure like to learn the secret.

 

[Kissophile]

Here's a set of questions to move this thread back into view.

How old do you feel when you are at your very best? At your worst? What sorts of things make the difference between being at your best and at your worst?

 

[bobsgirl]

Here's a set of questions to move this thread back into view.

How old do you feel when you are at your very best? At your worst? What sorts of things make the difference between being at your best and at your worst?

Kiss, I answered and deleted the answer to these questions a few times. Very thought-provoking.

At my best, I don't feel like a kid, because I think I am a lot smarter and thoughtful than I was when I was in my twenties. I'm a better mom and a better partner now than I was then. I'm very comfortable being fifty.

At my worst, I feel like I am over the hill, and life has passed me by. There's a lot I've never experienced, that I likely never will.

I suffer from depression, and the medication I'm on has made all the difference. Depression makes you feel old and worthless and used up. But when the darkness lifts, my God, what a relief that is! When the sun is allowed to shine within me, I feel like I could go on forever.

It's hard to put an age on best and worst. I had a blast in high school, but would I want to go back? Not on your life. I like right where I am now, hot flashes and all.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Here's a set of questions to move this thread back into view.

How old do you feel when you are at your very best? At your worst? What sorts of things make the difference between being at your best and at your worst?

Ok, I'll bite -o'phile;
When I'm feeling at my utmost finest, I can feel as a 20-something, but at my worst, I've felt old. Very old!
Lots of things can be a factor, but typically, its when I've worked my hardest at my job. (i work for a warehouse sort of company, stocking the shelves)
Now for the paradox; I can feel my best after the same activity!
I dunno how to explain it better at this time, I'll go and have a couple of beers and get back with ya, ok?

peace kiss-dude!

~kym~ Newkie girl

 

[babydoll2u]

Oh I'm sure I've learned a few things from the "younger set"... I just don't remember what it is, cuz I am too busy learning things from people my own age... and not always in a good way

 

[Kissophile]

Kiss, I answered and deleted the answer to these questions a few times. Very thought-provoking.

At my best, I don't feel like a kid, because I think I am a lot smarter and thoughtful than I was when I was in my twenties. I'm a better mom and a better partner now than I was then. I'm very comfortable being fifty.

At my worst, I feel like I am over the hill, and life has passed me by. There's a lot I've never experienced, that I likely never will.

I suffer from depression, and the medication I'm on has made all the difference. Depression makes you feel old and worthless and used up. But when the darkness lifts, my God, what a relief that is! When the sun is allowed to shine within me, I feel like I could go on forever.

It's hard to put an age on best and worst. I had a blast in high school, but would I want to go back? Not on your life. I like right where I am now, hot flashes and all.

I'm not sure what age "over the hill" is or feels like but at times when I wake up with my bursitis making my knee unusable I feel a little like Walter Brennan as Grandpa McCoy. Like you, bobsgirl, most of the time I'm quite happy with where I am. And funny thing: since I started eating a lot of soy products I haven't had a single hot flash.

 

[Kissophile]

Ok, I'll bite -o'phile;
When I'm feeling at my utmost finest, I can feel as a 20-something, but at my worst, I've felt old. Very old!
Lots of things can be a factor, but typically, its when I've worked my hardest at my job. (i work for a warehouse sort of company, stocking the shelves)
Now for the paradox; I can feel my best after the same activity!
I dunno how to explain it better at this time, I'll go and have a couple of beers and get back with ya, ok?

peace kiss-dude!

~kym~ Newkie girl

Feeling your best while working is not as unusual as you might think. It's the same state of mind that athletes can get into once in a while. They talk about being "in a zone." Psychologists call this state of mind "Flow." I imagine that we would all feel quite young when in a state of flow.

BTW, it's quite possible to get into a state of flow when doing things other than work or sports. Lovemaking is another time when many people experience this state.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

Here's a set of questions to move this thread back into view.

How old do you feel when you are at your very best? At your worst? What sorts of things make the difference between being at your best and at your worst?

When I'm at my best I feel ageless. I guess that might be something like late teens or twenty-something when you feel invincible.

At my worst I feel about 128.

 

[bobsgirl]

I'm not sure what age "over the hill" is or feels like but at times when I wake up with my bursitis making my knee unusable I feel a little like Walter Brennan as Grandpa McCoy. Like you, bobsgirl, most of the time I'm quite happy with where I am. And funny thing: since I started eating a lot of soy products I haven't had a single hot flash.

Ah, yes, the aches in the morning that make you feel like Methuselah. I know those well... And how about playing an imaginary trombone, just so you can focus on the small print in the telephone book?

You sound like my mom, with the soy stuff. And take your calcium, dear...

 

[Kissophile]

Ah, yes, the aches in the morning that make you feel like Methuselah. I know those well... And how about playing an imaginary trombone, just so you can focus on the small print in the telephone book?

You sound like my mom, with the soy stuff. And take your calcium, dear...

Phone book? Hell, I have to do the "imaginary trombone" thing for STOP signs.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Just because they CAN make a font that small does not mean that they should. Who the hell can read an asprin bottle? Or the back page of your credit card agreement? Someone should do something. (this rant is not grounded in the fact that I had to get bi focals last year - REALLY!)

 

[ozraven]

Re: Re: Re: Forty-somethings

I'd have to agree with you, Oz.

And I have. As Pink said, having the piercing doesn't automatically confer talent.

I could take your word for it, but it would be much more fun to find out for myself

 

[ozraven]

Here's a set of questions to move this thread back into view.

How old do you feel when you are at your very best? At your worst? What sorts of things make the difference between being at your best and at your worst?

I keep thinking I am 20, bad or good, I hope to never "grow up".

The only time I really feel old is when my kids do really dumb shit, and the age/experience gap between us yawns wide open.

Things that make a difference?

Just life, I am rarely down for more than a minute or two though.....

 

[crazybbwgirl]

What makes you feel old? I remember when I realized that all of the professional football players where younger than I was - that made me feel old!

 

[Wat_Tyler]

Yeah, so I've made Middle Age. I figure that at 47, I have lived more than half my life, so I must be middle aged.

I have a lot of friends who are in their twenties, so I stay fairly up-to-date with "the scene".

I never got a tattoo because I couldn't ever decide what I wanted to die with on my flesh. And I never got a piercing either.

I have to think that investment in tattoo removal equipment will be profitable in the coming years, you know?

 

[assister49]

25 SIGNS THAT YOU'VE GROWN UP

25 SIGNS THAT YOU'VE GROWN UP
1. Your house plants are alive, and you can't smoke any of them.
2. Having sex in a twin bed is out of the question.
3. You keep more food than beer in the fridge.
4. 6:00 AM is when you get up, not when you go to bed.
5. You hear your favorite song on an elevator.
6. You watch the Weather Channel.
7. Your friends marry and divorce instead of hook up and break up.
8. You go from 130 days of vacation time to 14.
9. Jeans and a sweater no longer qualify as "dressed up."
10. You're the one calling the police because those damn kids next door won't turn down the stereo.
11. Older relatives feel comfortable telling sex jokes around you.
12. You don't know what time Taco Bell closes anymore.
13. Your car insurance goes down and your payments go up.
14. You feed your dog Science Diet instead of McDonalds leftovers.
15. Sleeping on the couch makes your back hurt.
16. You no longer take naps from noon to 6 PM.
17. Dinner and a movie is the whole date instead of the beginning of one.
18. Eating a basket of chicken wings at 3 AM would severely upset, rather than settle your stomach.
19. You go to the drug store for ibuprofen and antacid, not condoms and pregnancy tests.
20. A $4.00 bottle of wine is no longer "pretty good stuff."
21. You actually eat breakfast food at breakfast time.
22. "I just can't drink the way I used to," replaces, "I'm never going to drink that much again."
23. 90% of the time you spend in front of a computer is for real work.
24. You drink at home to save money before going to a bar.
25. You read this entire list looking desperately for just one sign that doesn't apply to you and can't find a single one to save your sorry old ass.

 

[Kissophile]

Re: 25 SIGNS THAT YOU'VE GROWN UP

25. You read this entire list looking desperately for just one sign that doesn't apply to you and can't find a single one to save your sorry old ass.

I beg your pardon: it's hardly a sorry old ass. I've been told it's still quite attractive.

 

[babydoll2u]

Re: 25 SIGNS THAT YOU'VE GROWN UP

25 SIGNS THAT YOU'VE GROWN UP


25. You read this entire list looking desperately for just one sign that doesn't apply to you and can't find a single one to save your sorry old ass.

omg ain't this the truth!

 

[Guest]

Not sure how 48 should feel............

Sometimes I think I missed out on a lot by not having children and it's too late now because I don't want to be retiring when they are graduating from high school.

Hubby is 10 years older and the only time we think of that is when we talk about when we met. I had just turned 20 and that seems so young now. 28 years later and we still don't feel old, just older.

This is a great time for us!

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

25 with 20 years experience

well... almost. Next month I'll have the 20 years exp.
Seriously tho, when I look at my daughter who is 23, I don't envy her. The growing pains she's yet to go thru and the resulting changes are not where I want to be; I'm thankful those days are over. Not saying there isn't some difficulty in my life, but my attitude has changed with my years.


~kym~ it isn't about the quantity now, but the quality