Frequency of Non-Consent and Abuse in BDSM stories.

[HarleyQuim]

Unfortunately I think there’s an audience for non-consensual torture porn. Incels and some followers of certain online personalities don’t think women should even be educated, why should they have to consent to sex and sexual violence. I think those authors are writing out their fantasies.

Personally I love BDSM and like stories that capture the joy and intimacy of it.

 

[liqueur]

Incels and some followers of certain online personalities don’t think women should even be educated, why should they have to consent to sex and sexual violence. I think those authors are writing out their fantasies.

Exactly so.

 

[Hypocrites]

Fascinating thread. I have written stories before (not published here) as well and my sub @HyposMuse has seen those as well. In the end, whether fantasy or "true" I write from what I know.

So my first foray into a BDSM fantasy necessarily has its references to the ongoing consent, safety and aftercare that are part and parcel to my reality.

For me they're part of the experience and from my, the story teller's POV, they enhance the narrative. I know how my baby thinks of them and that's enough. My opinion being just that, an opinion, I am reticent to judge those that don't include those details in their stories.

 

[AnonymousDragon]

I don't know how frequent it is, I have not read that deep into that, what I can say though, because of the stigma associated with BDSM, I am afraid to share my own fantasies online about it, about where I am a submissive partner to a dom in a consensual adult relationship, and it would include elements like aftercare. And yes, both characters are adults. I am probably better off just writing it down on a home journal. The trashy UK laws doesn't help either, it's too easy for something to become banned in this country, and gradually people's right to think is being taken away. At least in my mind I am free, free to explore not only sexuality but every other aspect of my inner world, as everyone else is inside their head.

 

[subdudeme13]

Unfortunately I think there’s an audience for non-consensual torture porn. Incels and some followers of certain online personalities don’t think women should even be educated, why should they have to consent to sex and sexual violence. I think those authors are writing out their fantasies.

Personally I love BDSM and like stories that capture the joy and intimacy of it.

In real life I was in a consentual nonconsent relationship. I trusted her with a knife at my throat What really scared me was how far I was willing, no desired, to go. She knew me better than I knew myself. I understand the real life non consent but there are people that desire to be "taken"! No? There are enough true horror stories that we shouldn't need to write about them.

 

[NebulaDeism]

Some girls like myself do like that dynamic though. I intensely sexually enjoy feeling powerless to the extreme, which sometimes means not getting a choice. I only really do this with a tight knit group of guys I've known since childhood though.

To me, the objectification isn't sexy unless I'm actually being treated like an object, an objects don't get a say. Notwithstanding, after sex is done I don't want to be seen as lesser.

 

[liqueur]

Some girls like myself do like that dynamic though. I intensely sexually enjoy feeling powerless to the extreme, which sometimes means not getting a choice.
I only really do this with a tight knit group of guys I've known since childhood though.

↑ and that, right there, makes all the difference. Trust.

 

[NebulaDeism]

↑ and that, right there, makes all the difference. Trust.

Well, I didn't mean that I only let them do it. I will let strangers do it if those friends are generally around

 

[SmilingLez]

I don't think the non consent/abuse storyline is limited to just BDSM stories. I see quite a bit in other categories (lesbian, gay male, transgender) too. The excuse - it's fantasy and not real life, so it's okay. I think that's why literotica has the 18 years or older age limit - imagine what the child molesters and child predators would post.

 

[ColtonWrites]

I call my a lot of my stuff "power exchange fantasies" rather than BDSM for exactly these concerns. Like I've got one where they start at a club, and the sub has lots of room to leave, has a safeword, etc. Thats BDSM even if I dont do on-screen negotiation (though I do show aftercare). But I have another that starts on a train where the Dom is pushy, physically traps the sub in a space, etc. Thats a power exchange fantasy.

But also - theyre fantasies. They're not meant to be realistic. They move way faster than anyone ought to, for the sake of the story. They have unsafe sex without consequences. They dont do negotiations but know the right limits. *shrug* Thats how fiction works sometimes, IMO.

And fictional characters are literally dolls for your amusement. They cannot be hurt.