Friend zone

[Noor]

I have long lost the link, but an article about the friendzone that I have mentioned to people here and in what passes for real life was life-changing. If a guys finds himself in the friendzone, he put himself there by tepid to disingenous declatation of his interest. Being "a friend" when you have desires for a girl is a dick move and goes nowhere good..

Leaves the girl annoyed and interminably waiting for the onerous task of letting him down politely, when if he had been bold, she might have considered him a potential partner.

That is a good point. Although I would say had he been honest.

There would be less feeling of being betrayed by someone you thought was a friend and more actual considering the guy on those merits.

 

[yossi]

Sometimes people are their own worst enemies.

 

[Que]

It has always been on the woman. If the guy thinks there is even a tiny chance he might get to fuck her he's gonna stick around and be her friend. It's on the woman to nix that shit but they rarely do and usually for selfish reasons. They like some guy lusting after them, they know he wants to fuck but like him being a friend so they don't let him know he isn't ever going to get any, etc.
May not be right or fair but it's how the world works.

Absolutely not.

Just because he has a socially retarded urge to hang onto an unrealistic glimmer is not her problem she didn't create the problem she cannot let him down without looking like a bitch when he's never asked her anything. That's why it's a dick move.

If all he is ever declared is a platonic interest, then it's a completely on him when he gets exactly what he asked for and nothing more

 

[Mrtenant]

What? Friends can't feel sexual attraction for each other?

 

[Que]

Sex is a powerful tool in men too, but few know how to use it well.

Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

Granted, I usually scare the hell out of my guys first...

Throw on the right boots with that aforementioned corset add a whip and you could probably turn that into a small cottage industry.

 

[InternationalFunboy]

That is a good point. Although I would say had he been honest.

There would be less feeling of being betrayed by someone you thought was a friend and more actual considering the guy on those merits.

I tend to agree too. These days I put it on front street, me, but everyone works relationships friendly or otherwise - ulterior motives and all - in their own way and in their own time. For some being honest means biding some time to see what they want out of knowing another person. For some they want opportunity, for others they want some sign, and still others need an organic experience(me). Point is, no approach really "works" and none are right or wrong. Except in the case you're describing where someone pretends to be a fine cherry when they only really want the box it came in. In my experience most friendzoners aren't capable of this kind of deceit. I've been there myself, and know I'm not.

True story. I put it on front street with this chica a few... shit, several years ago, "I like you. I want to be your boyfriend someday. Take you to restaurants and plays, and put flowers in the hot tub as a surprise." She friendzoned me anyway. Which was fine because we were chummy too, and I enjoyed just hanging out. And no I wasn't biding my time until she caved or whatever, I stepped up and got a mixed response. So I was like "Hey, that's fine, thanks for being upfront about it", even though she wasn't. Then guess what? We're hanging out and she wants to bang. It was a disaster and ended the friendship. I guess maybe it would be more accurate to say she put herself in my freindzone when she really wanted more. But she wasn't malicious, just inexperienced. C'est La Vie.

 

[Que]

What? Friends can't feel sexual attraction for each other?

Nope. One of the friends can feel sexual attraction for the other one but if they have sexual attraction for each other they would be fucking already.

Let's say hypothetically that they are Amish, Baptist or Mormon or something and are saving themselves for marriage. They may not be already fucking but they want to if they don't both want to it's not headed that way. Ever.

 

[FGB]

If a woman puts me in the Friend Zone I have always felt that was pretty much license to fuck her girlfriends, sisters or whatever.

Just saying...

 

[Que]

If a woman puts me in the Friend Zone I have always felt that was pretty much license to fuck her girlfriends, sisters or whatever.

Just saying...

Which. . .by the way. . .is the only way to escape the friendzone. An iffy proposition, at best.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Yes, but the term friendzone action puts it on the woman not on the guy with unrequited lust.

For God's sake, the 'friend zone' is nothing more than "Let's just be friends" in shorthand.

Women get friendzoned, too, you know. There's enough out there about this happening to women that you should know about it.

http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/5-signs-youve-been-put-in-the-bro-zone/871058/

If a woman puts me in the Friend Zone I have always felt that was pretty much license to fuck her girlfriends, sisters or whatever.

Just saying...

Which is close to what I've been saying about the Friendzone all along - go for someone else. She doesn't owe you her body, you don't owe her your time.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

I have long lost the link, but an article about the friendzone that I have mentioned to people here and in what passes for real life was life-changing. If a guys finds himself in the friendzone, he put himself there by tepid to disingenous declatation of his interest. Being "a friend" when you have desires for a girl is a dick move and goes nowhere good..

Leaves the girl annoyed and interminably waiting for the onerous task of letting him down politely, when if he had been bold, she might have considered him a potential partner.

No, quite often he winds up in the friendzone whether he declared his interest in her or not. It's not up to him at all, there is nothing a man can do to prevent being friendzoned. She either likes him or not, from the get-go. And like I said and presented citations, women get friendzoned too, and there's nothing she can do to avoid it.

 

[Noor]

If a woman puts me in the Friend Zone I have always felt that was pretty much license to fuck her girlfriends, sisters or whatever.

Just saying...

A good friend would try to introduce you to prospective lovers. Just be clear about what you are looking for.

 

[BotanyBoy]

when if he had been bold

Then he's a rapist.

No, quite often he winds up in the friendzone whether he declared his interest in her or not.

No that's just you.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Then he's a rapist.



No that's just you.

Unless you're rich and famous, 9 out of 10 women you woo will not be into you. Especially you.

 

[yossi]

No, quite often he winds up in the friendzone whether he declared his interest in her or not. It's not up to him at all, there is nothing a man can do to prevent being friendzoned. She either likes him or not, from the get-go. And like I said and presented citations, women get friendzoned too, and there's nothing she can do to avoid it.

It's not the Bermuda Fucking Triangle. Being someone's friend is not some horrific catastrophe; you can stop it by deciding to not be that person's friend. Problem solved.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny---<-----that's me! The male half

So much jiberish in most of these threads it makes me dizzy.

I have a wife that I love. I have men friends, nothing sexual because I'm not that kind of a guy.
I have women friends who are only friends just like the guy friends.

My wife and I have friends we fuck. They're called fuck buddies.

Is that so difficult to comprehend?

 

[nerfhearder]

So much jiberish in most of these threads it makes me dizzy.

I have a wife that I love. I have men friends, nothing sexual because I'm not that kind of a guy.
I have women friends who are only friends just like the guy friends.

My wife and I have friends we fuck. They're called fuck buddies.

Is that so difficult to comprehend?

But do you secrectly want to fuck the women friends that aren't fuck buddies?

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

you can stop it by deciding to not be that person's friend. Problem solved.

But that's what I am saying when I say don't obsess over a woman who puts you in the friendzone - go look for someone else. That's the optimal use of your time & resources. Life's too short to try to get out of someone's friendzone.

This is the only friendzone flowchart you will ever need. It never, ever fails. Ever.

http://i.imgur.com/2svp9K5.jpg

 

[neci]

back in the day, maybe 19, i had a horrible experience with the friend zone. i had a guy friend, whom i straight up told i was not interested in any kind of sexual relationship. we continued to be friends. until one night when i expected platonic, and he wanted handsy. nothing proceeded; he ended up leaving; i have not seen him since. there was just something totally sexually incompatible about him. he was too friendly. his touch almost feminine. whisper fingers make my skin crawl.

 

[AmishPope]

Nope. One of the friends can feel sexual attraction for the other one but if they have sexual attraction for each other they would be fucking already.

Let's say hypothetically that they are Amish, Baptist or Mormon or something and are saving themselves for marriage. They may not be already fucking but they want to if they don't both want to it's not headed that way. Ever.

We feel no attraction for women we are not wed to because our women follow the law of The Lord and wear plain clothing any woman who does not damns her eternal soul as a harlot.

 

[Que]

It's not the Bermuda Fucking Triangle. Being someone's friend is not some horrific catastrophe; you can stop it by deciding to not be that person's friend. Problem solved.

Which is what he said earlier.

"She does not owe you her body and you do not owe her your time."

my only objection to his second statement is the scenario he is describing is not the friend zone. That's you asked she said not interested end of discussion If you then enter into a platonic relationship when she's already told you not interested in you in that way you aren't in the friend zone You're simply in a platonic relationship that you agreed to

 

[neci]

It's not the Bermuda Fucking Triangle. Being someone's friend is not some horrific catastrophe; you can stop it by deciding to not be that person's friend. Problem solved.

dear yossi,

i can not be your friend. i want to be your sister.



neci

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Which is what he said earlier.

"She does not owe you her body and you do not owe her your time."

my only objection to his second statement is the scenario he is describing is not the friend zone. That's you asked she said not interested end of discussion If you then enter into a platonic relationship when she's already told you not interested in you in that way you aren't in the friend zone You're simply in a platonic relationship that you agreed to

For me it's like this: if she rejects you for any reason, swipe left.

 

[BotanyBoy]

Unless you're rich and famous, 9 out of 10 women you woo will not be into you. Especially you.

I don't give a fuck, I'm asexual and reject more pussy on an annual basis than you're going to get in your whole lifetime.

Perks of being so fuckin' fabulously tall, decent looking and not giving a fuck.

Doesn't change the fact that you and not really anyone else is on here crying and bitching all the time about how hard it is for a broke midget like you to get laid.

The common denominator in your fail is you.

You're like poor people who bitch about no money all the time as they live above their means.....except you have a self imposed pussy deficit.

So how long till you go on a rampage and shoot the place up?