Gay or Straight?

[Expertise]

Guess i'm not the only one who follows trends.

I guess what I was looking for was the physical charachteristics you found attractive in men and women. Not to sound shallow but most often that is the initial attraction. And remembering that this, hypotheticly, is a purely sexual situation what attracts you physicaly to a man/woman?

 

[Bliss]

Try, try again...

Sexy, smoky eyes, no matter the actual color, that speak volumes and a great big, half mischievious smile.

A nice ass, decent posture, good teeth, a marked absence of excessive back fur or nose/ear hair. *LOL*

That better?

Throw in a thick cock or firm breasts and throw me in the shallow end.

 

[Expertise]

Thanks Bliss. I appreciate it. This subject is probably something I will never get a handle on. Its too specific to the individual.

Screw it the research is fun.

BTW. Yes I am stuck at work and that blows.

 

[Isabella Thorne]

Jennifer is Ouraged!

Ricky Martin and Brad Pitt to Wed!
"we're just so happy....gay even"

Jennifer Anniston Outraged
"Ahhh the hell with it I didn't look good as a beard"

ha ha Chandler .. you were trying to get a little rise out of me weren't you ... my my you are being so nasty lately ... lol ... no seriously ...

ummmmm Miss Lucious . that is so weired bout Ricky Martin cause i was just talking bout him with my b/f too .. lol .. seriously ... i figure it is a wonderful marketing ploy to make him appealing to both men and women .. and wow is he ever appealing ... i don't usually like that music .. but omg when he starts swinging those hips when he dances and those little boy dimples .. well i melt .. and so do millions of men and women ... cool eh? he's cool .. i bet you he is bi for real though ... i hope .. or at least heterosexual

and having sex with a woman once? hey that sounds exactly like me ... in a 3some .. i am attracted to women too .. so i think that makes me bi ... so i guess that's the bottom line .. cause you said too that you appreciate a beautiful woman .. well appreciate how? like in an art form? or sexually arousing?
__________________
she will wear you out
living la Vida loca
living la Vida loca
she's living la Vida loca
~Ricky Martin~

 

[Expertise]

Care to comment on your preferences Isabella (see above).

I actually like Ricky Martins music.

*stamping a large Day-glo L on my forehead*

Still hate BP. We will have to agree to disagree on that little....sorry i'll try to play nice.

 

[Isabella Thorne]

... mmmmmm ... you know i hesitated to say before .. i did read your question .. cause i think sexuality comes from within ... and i have been attracted to all kinds of men and women .. old and young ... different sizes .. different races .. different hair colours ..

with men though my pattern has usually been tall and slim .. it started with my first b/f in grade 9 lol .. but i do love strong muscular arms ... that is a huge turn on for me .. to feel those arms around me .. i love long hair on a man ..

for women .. all body types i think .. tall or short ... slim or bbw .. i do seem to look twice at blondes and redheads though.

 

[dancinvixen]

I hate to say this, and come off sounding like a bitch, but here is my opinion.
Your boyfriend seems to have an attitude that is charateristic of ignornant, selfish, piously religous, or just plain mean people. They see anything other than heterosexual sex as being wrong, and meaning that the people involved are "gay". Well, there is a flip side to this also. I am a completely-at ease-with-my-bisexuality type woman, that these next ones really don't phase me that much. But I still get into heated discussions about it. Many of the gay and lesbian communities do believe the same thing. That the world is black or white and your either gay or your straight.
Why should it be wrong to enjoy both??? Why do we get branded as false??? Heck, I even sometimes understand a transseuxal/transgendered woman's point of view. Which is, just because they either chose to begin or go through with the procedure completely, does not make them gay. It simply means that they realized that something went wrong when they where created. And research now shows that yes, it can be scientifically proven. <s>
In a world where the ruling species has created such a mess, how such things not happen?? I mean, think about it people, we have been in evolution for a long time, why stop now???


Now about my likes and dislikes???

MEN:
height-taller than 5'10 as I like to tiptoe when kissing
weight-as long as I don't become permanently glued to the bed, I'm fine
face- just have to be attractive to me
attitude-no machoism, must be nice, easy going, laid back, sense of humor, and not be a jerk
sexual attitude- must be open to anything, I mean anything

WOMEN:
height-sometimes taller than 5'6(my height) sometimes shorter
weight- I do like my women to be proportionate
face- I have to find them attractive
breasts- I love big boobs, as long as they are bigger than my 36 C I am a happy woman <g> ohh and sensitive nipples and boobs too <g>
attitude-a snotty woman will get me pissed off faster than anything. As long as a woman is nice, and I like her, I'll go for it.
sexual attitude- I like to do things with women, so I guess submissive and willing to do anything <g>

[Edited by dancinvixen on 09-13-2000 at 10:01 PM]

 

[Silverlily]

Actually the insight I would really like is what bisexual women like in men and women.

Well, since you asked.

Men - 6' 2" minimum
160 to 185 lbs.
hair at least shoulder length
broad shoulders and a tight ass
mechanical inclination - mandatory
dominant

Women - no taller than 5' 5"
slender, preferably with smallish breasts.
shoulder length hair
feminine, but not prissy
submissive or switch

Either - intelligent
honest
emotionally secure

 

[Guest]

I'm just sexual!!!! I really like that!

 

[dancinvixen]

Luscious, I couldn't agree with you more. Sex is definitely pleasurable even with the same sex. <g>

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

Luscious Lionness, to answer your question first, I think that to say that people who are neither gay or straight (therefore bi) are confused would be wrong.

I consider myself bi (even though I've yet to actually be with a woman) because I am sexually attracted to men and women, and I'm pretty sure about this. There's no part of me that is confused.

As for types...

Men:
Tall, 6'0 or taller
Handsome, nice smile
Broad shoulders
Love blonde hair and blue eyes
Somewhat built... not skinny
A nice (attractive to look at) cock

Women:
I don't know really...
Thin
Curves, I love curves... (probably because I'm not particularly curvy.
Small (a-b), round breasts
Pretty face
Pretty pussy... I just love to look at them, and they have to be pretty.

and they both have to be laid back with an awesome sense of humor. and they have to be able to hold a conversation on almost any topic, or I get too bored...

 

[Guest]

 

[Sonora]

Wonder No More...

I typed out a long response to your question. Then when I went to post it I had some trouble with my connection and then had to leave for a couple of hours. I came back and posted it without reading the new posts. When I read them the thread had mutated and my repsonse looked stupid so I reacted like a baby a took it off. If you want it I think that I may still have it saved due to the connection problems.

 

[Cheri]

Re: Wonder No More...

If you want it I think that I may still have it saved due to the connection problems.

So post it girl, I love to read your posts.
For me, I guess I am more curious about women than anything else. I know I love men in all their wonderful and fustrating splendor, but what would a woman be like? As for attraction, my list too subjective for words. The only common factor is that both man and woman had better interest me in the brains dept or else the fact that they have the perfect bod wouldn't matter a lick (like the pun?).

 

[OUTSIDER]

Never had sex with another guy and have never found one sexualy attractive but you just never know what life is going to throw at you.

I don't think having sex once with someone of the same sex make's you gay, it just make's you open to experimenting, I think that if your gay you are probably drawn to the same sex allthe time not just now and then.

 

[Bliss]

Re: Wonder No More...

I typed out a long response to your question. Then when I went to post it I had some trouble with my connection and then had to leave for a couple of hours. I came back and posted it without reading the new posts. When I read them the thread had mutated and my repsonse looked stupid so I reacted like a baby a took it off. If you want it I think that I may still have it saved due to the connection problems.

I read it and appreciated it, Sonora. The thoughts represented and the time it took to type out.

I think it's hard to explain to a man (no not all; sowwy Ex!) that you can't say BAM! I like 'em tall, leggy and tight, tahdah that sums me up. It's way more about emotional and mental connection. Love is love and lust is lust, no matter what outer package the object of your desire has. To me, charisma, the unseen oomph, has a lot more to do with someone's appeal than whether they do or don't have freckles, long legs, pouty lips or whatnot. Not that I don't adore freckles, long legs and pouty lips!

 

[Cheri]

Utter...

Bliss baby, every word out of your mouth is all that and a bag of tostitos with some raspberry salsa on the side!
Charisma, exactamau!

 

[Sonora]

Thanks to Cheri and Bliss

OK, the original question posted by Luscious Lionness was "What are the guide lines for sexuality? If you have sex with men and woman are you bisexual or just someone who is confused about your sexual orientation?"
My response to LL was:
I think that if you're going to define someone's sexuality, it should be done by the gender that they want to be involved in a long term relationship with. The gender that makes their knees weak and stomach do flip flops. The gender that makes them turn their head and say "ooooohh baby", not the occasional person that may get their attention, but no more. (Ex: There's a guy in my office that has a pretty nice body. Athletically slender, broad shoulders, narrow waist, nice ass. Nice guy, gentleman, sense of humor, intelligent, management track. Everything that most women would want or could hope for. Does nothing for me sexually. Now the woman that works down the hall....oh la la!! She's slender, but her posture isn't the greatest. She smokes, which if you read my response to the 'smoking in public' thread, you know I don't like at all. But given the opportunity....

If a person is attracted to and falls in love with people of their own gender, then they are homosexual. If they are attracted to and fall in love with people of the opposite gender, they are heterosexual. If they are equally attracted to and could live their life with either sex, they are bisexual.

I don't think that just because you have sex with someone outside of your 'norm' that makes you anything else. If I were to have sex with a guy, that's all it would be--sex with a guy. If there are no feelings of love, and I mean deep this-person-gives-me-goosebumps-and-I-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-this-her/him love, then it's only sex. A biological function. It would not make me bisexual. Your sexuality is more than who you might have slept with. It's your deep feelings about that person.

Lionness, I don't think that because you had sex with a woman once that you are bisexual. I would say that you are hetero.

I've rambled enough for now.

Then the question that was getting answered was: "Actually the insight I would really like is what bisexual women like in men and women." And: "I guess what I was looking for was the physical charachteristics you found attractive in men and women. Not to sound shallow but most often that is the initial attraction. And remembering that this, hypotheticly, is a purely sexual situation what attracts you physicaly to a man/woman?" --Now you see why I felt mine didn't fit.

 

[Guest]

I'm glad I asked!

 

[Bliss]

Oooooooo Baby!

Bliss baby, every word out of your mouth is all that and a bag of tostitos with some raspberry salsa on the side!
Charisma, exactamau!

To me, that qualifies as poetry.

*I'll just hide this cute lil thought here and no one will see and try to give me spankies* You, me, Expertease and that raspberry salsa. Hmmmmm.

 

[April]

LOL I saw that!

 

[Guest]

 

[Savage Kitten]

I see the title resident queer.

X-perTease! that was soooo Politically Incorrect!! U should be ashamed!! hehe

 

[Expertise]

I was quoting!

PC is not me but neither is bigotry.

He had dubbed himself that and I was questioning the accuracy of his description since I wasn't sure if bi-sexuals fell under that category when homosexuals "reclaimed" the word.

The rest is just a buncha' hippie tree huggin' crap!!

 

[Cheri]

Lay it on me baby!

To me, that qualifies as poetry.

*I'll just hide this cute lil thought here and no one will see and try to give me spankies* You, me, Expertease and that raspberry salsa. Hmmmmm.

You're just being sweet...but where's the hot stuff cause you know THAT is what makes raspberry salsa scrumptious!