Getting older women

[meatmen]

How would i go about getting an older woman in bed with me? I'm 21 male and I've always had a thing for older women but I can never get the nerve to start anything up with them. If any older women out there have any advice on how they would like to be approached ect. please inform me.

 

[SweetErika]

It depends on the older woman in question. Women aren't all alike, you know (then again, maybe you don't know).

Appearing desperate, pitiful, like you're unwilling to put in much effort and are all about getting your rocks off (these impressions are coming from what you've posted here so far), isn't going to help you one bit - you can count on that!

So, my best advice is to get to know women you might be interested in as PEOPLE. Stop looking at them as potential bed buddies, and start looking at what they have to offer in terms of mental stimulation, personality, conversation, common interests, etc. Talk to them like they're whole people--because they are--and appear confident and fulfilled but interested, rather than the desperate, insecure 21 year old virgin you seem like today. Invest time in your appearance and conversation skills, since older women are more likely to be interested in someone who's at his/her best, cares about themselves and can converse intelligently on a variety of subjects.

In summary, pull yourself together, appear confident and mature, ALWAYS be respectful and don't pull BS moves or play games. One of my hubby's coworkers blew his shot at more NSA sex with an older woman by smoking pot with, and generally acting like, her 20-year-old son, so I'd say it's a safe bet to err on the side of maturity and respect.

 

[emap]

What she said. Some playing around can be good, depends on how old she is and what she likes to do. But playing around with her, not with her kids, unless they are young, like say she has a 5 year old son or daughter or a little older, once they get to late teen, be the asshole she is dating. Trust me on this, no matter what you are the asshole mom is dating from 14 to 20 or so.

If her kids are your age, unless you knew them before you started dating her, give them the time of day and leave it at that. As ericka said, it is a deal killer, past 25 or so expect a woman to want to be with a man and not some barely past his teens guy that is still more twelve than adult.

Unless you happen to find a woman who wants to screw her son, but can't bring herself to actually do so, you have to be mature. You also have to try, put yourself out there talk to her, be at least semi plain you want to persue a relationship with her, not her kids, not her friend, her.

 

[SpecialKay62]

I'm an older woman (but too old for you). However, if I were to consider a younger man, some ways he'd interest me would be to be self-assured but not a jerk. He'd have to be mature and discreet. If he traveled in a pack (or is it posse) of guys, that would be a turn off. He should be well-groomed and he should talk to me. You may have heard that a woman's greatest erogenous zone is her MIND. Talk to me, ask me about myself and make me wonder about you. If you do this, you'll either make a new friend or you'll find a nice experienced lady who'll rock your world. Maybe both. Good luck.

 

[sunandshadow]

Be clean, stylish, self-confident but not aggressive, have some money and a car. Practice some compliments, jokes, smiles. Pretty much regardless of age, a guy who is all that is likely to succeed with women.

 

[freefallnva1]

the best way to get a 50 yr old milf is to meet us in havanas resturant on granby street any friday or sat night...sitting at the bar , she is the lady never wearing a bra and drinking a mojito!

 

[77Cobra]

Most older women are either married or divorced.Give them what their husbands or ex- husbands did not give them.I ended up dating two older women who were divorced after 20 years of marriage and neither one could believe I actually loved to eat pussy.One had never had it done ,Ever.

 

[subwannabe]

I've been with older women most of my life. I always preferred someone who was mature and experienced. I can't say that I did anything special but I have always acted more mature than my age. The person you are looking for isn't going to want someone who acts like a 21 year old.

 

[MidnightVixen]

Older women are no different then younger women in many ways. They love to talk, be brought to a nice dinner, listen to music.. etc... The only thing I can REALLY say that might be a tad different, an older woman has been there, done that, so she knows just what she wants and there shouldn't be any games, ( less she wants them )

Just be you.

 

[Javagirl]

I dated 20something guys in my 20s

No offense but as a 35 year old woman, I don't have anything in common with a 21 yr old college guy. I don't want a boy--I need a man.

Although, I'm sure there are some woman who would get off with you. I already went through my 20s--been there, done that.

 

[Mansa Musa]

How would i go about getting an older woman in bed with me? I'm 21 male and I've always had a thing for older women but I can never get the nerve to start anything up with them. If any older women out there have any advice on how they would like to be approached ect. please inform me.

Craigslist, and not being an immature or whiny prick.

 

[southernsky]

Older women are no different then younger women in many ways. They love to talk, be brought to a nice dinner, listen to music.. etc... The only thing I can REALLY say that might be a tad different, an older woman has been there, done that, so she knows just what she wants and there shouldn't be any games, ( less she wants them )

Just be you.

You have got the HOTTEST AV. I just thought you should know that.

 

[lindahotstuff]

Well I'm an older woman who loves young guys for sensual and sexy fun. I'm mid-40s, voluptuous, and always love to be propositioned. I'm always dismayed when i catch the eye of a young stud and he whispers to his mate or smiles at me, but isn't brave enough to come over and chat. So step one is, go over to a woman and start a conversation. That doesn't mean saying 'I'd like to fuck you'. A real conversation. Compliment her, say how you had been admiring her, ask her about herself. Tell her about yourself, and not just how big a stud you are. If she is interested, she will let you know, so step two is to ask if she's like to spend some quality time with you. That assumes you are prepared to spend some money on a nice hotel room, not a sleazy motel or the back of a car or in an alley. If she fancies you and you don't take the hint she will proposition you. Step three: be prepared to buy a bottle of wine and seduce her, lots of kissing, and caressing. If she is anything like me she won't be able to wait to see that big cock and devour it, orally and deep inside. Good luck.

 

[Whispurrrr]

The Eyes have it!!

Speak to her with your eyes. I don't mean oggle her or undress her with them.. Look deep into her eyes and she will pick up your vibes. She will know by the look in those eyes that you are more than just interested in her. Let her know she is the teacher and you are the student - women love to teach, and you'll be her prize pupil.

Good luck - sigh - I wish I was 40 yrs younger - I'd teach you a few things..


(Just kidding Ikey...you know you is my guy)

 

[MidnightVixen]

You have got the HOTTEST AV. I just thought you should know that.

How sweet! Thank you.

 

[stageleft]

luck

dont they say being in the right place at the right time ! !
that was very much my case a long time ago.
i was only twenty at the time & worked in a production unit with many older women
they were a real tease & around the xmas period i really came in for it.
not only did they challenge each other who would get the first xmas kiss from me but others strived to go one further.
i was pulled into a storeroom by two woman well into thier 40,s.they rubbed my crotch & i was more than willing to let them release my cock.
they both sucked me off & one of them had no qualms about me groping her tits.
that day i didnt get to finish the job as we were interupted.
but from then on after xmas they knew i was up for it & i had several private invitations.
just luck i guess

 

[LindaSue28]

My younger men...

...have been mature, serious, bookish, articulate, witty, with the playfulness and sexiness under the surface. In my experience, older women don't go for younger men the way men go for younger women, just based on surface appearance. Thus, most women prefer older men.

And you have to ask yourself, why are you attracted to older women?

Anyway, good luck.

 

[watergirl]

it happens

I'm 10 years older than my boyfriend. It's not that he particularly goes for older women, or me younger men - but we match up well in a lot of ways.

It happens. Be smart, give sincere compliments, and try to make a friendship as well as just having the sex.

 

[luv2lick001]

Hey Linda, you really do sound like hot stuff, great post.

 

[GirlWDirtyLaugh]

How would i go about getting an older woman in bed with me? I'm 21 male and I've always had a thing for older women but I can never get the nerve to start anything up with them. If any older women out there have any advice on how they would like to be approached ect. please inform me.

Maybe we'd hit on you if we knew where you were....

 

[raggedyann]

if you think she is hot, tell her, let her know your desires and ask her what hers are, you will be on fire