My GF does not mind giving head to me... But she does not do it very often because she say's that she feels like gaging everytime she does it. When she is giving me a BJ she does not go down very far.. She said that she would love to get rid of that feeling but does not know how to.. Any suggestions? Are there any flavored gels that I can apply to my penis before hand or any tips I can give her? Any females out there PLEASE help me!!!!!!!!!!
GF gags when giving head **Please Help!**
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Eilan
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Welcome to Lit.
This board doesn't move as fast as, say, the General Board. Be patient and someone will be along to help you.
In the meantime, check out The Blank Manual sticky at the top of the page. Your question might have been answered there.
This board doesn't move as fast as, say, the General Board. Be patient and someone will be along to help you.
In the meantime, check out The Blank Manual sticky at the top of the page. Your question might have been answered there.
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devoted lilgirl
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Is she one of those people that is easy to puke if she gags much?
If not, tell her practice makes perfect, get used to the gag little by little...
(I personally like that feeling when giving head, but I am not a puker by nature, my gag reflex is very light)
Good Luck, and let her go at her own pace, as long as she keeps doing it I guess.
Any one else?
*shrug*
If not, tell her practice makes perfect, get used to the gag little by little...
(I personally like that feeling when giving head, but I am not a puker by nature, my gag reflex is very light)
Good Luck, and let her go at her own pace, as long as she keeps doing it I guess.
Any one else?
*shrug*
devoted lilgirl
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Eilan said:
Hee Hee Naughty girls think alike!
She does not puke easily... She is not a very sexual person to begin with.... but I am and I feel that going down on some one is very important(imo). I am being very patient with her. We have been together for about 3 years and she has given me head about a handful of times. I just don't want to come out and tell her that she has to just keep doing it. I love her very much and I want to be able to teach her things so we can grow sexually together.
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Well, she doesn't have to keep doing it, or anything for that matter.vette69 said:
If she wants to keep trying, ask her to only take the head into her mouth, and either use a lot of saliva or a lube with coordinated hand movements on the shaft. Let her know she can try more in time as she gets more comfortable, but there's absolutely no pressure. She's probably gagging because she's tense for a variety of reasons.
Has she expressed she wants to learn and be more sexual on her own?
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vette69 said:
Perhaps, then, you could teach her that she doesn't have to get your whole cock in her mouth in order for a blowjob to feel good. That, in fact, you really like it when she licks her tongue slowly up your shaft and tickles your frenulum. Or that you like it when she swirls her tongue around the rim, and maybe pokes the tip into your meatus. Or perhaps that you love it when she takes just the head of your cock into her mouth and strokes your shaft with her hand. And maybe, just maybe, that you like it when she does all of this while in a position where she can control the depth and thrusting, so you don't accidentally go too far into her throat.
And, of course, I'm sure you tell her how sexy she is when she does all this for you. Maybe then, she'll want to do it again.
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vette69 said:
The gag reflex can be reduced, or learned to be less overwhelming, or overcome entirely (just look at sword swallowers). It takes some desentization and a growing survival-mode-comfortability that this is not going to kill her. Highly recommended is the Try This & Report back thread if you would like to help your wife awaken to her sexual possibilities. Please, I request you to please hear me out before following any of the links I've put here for you.
Uh, not sure if this is obvious, but if you have any hope of increasing the frequency of your penis in her mouth, you've gotta be at least as willing to go down on her. Do not realistically hope to receive if you are not willing to give, and it's still up to her, period.
For the gag, there are lots of things to try. The idea is to get more used to something pressing the troat and back of the tounge. She could try for example, a tounge scraper for halitosis from the drug store, or even brushing the back of the tounge with her tooth brush. BE CAREFUL before suggesting, though, you don't want her to think it's for her breath, unless you are both comfortable talking about any trouble either of you may have in that department.
BUT DUDE LISTEN TO ME! You're so early in your relationship. Work on building that and the stuff in the BR will follow, be patient but also take initiative for learning how to please her in ways she is comfortable, build trust along the way. She's not a mind reader either so you, carefully, tenderly, sometimes stretch the envelope ever so slightly and read her reactions, body language must be factored with what she says but never force anything (unless she needs a good page six), and definately follow along with any of her new initiatives eagerly. Wife and I've been through cycles on this, in fact recently I've been neglecting the relationship stuff, and it does impede BR progress (see page seventy-five starting at #1873).
As you invest time in your desire for closeness with each other, you will progress naturally toward her becoming more and more comfortable with new and naughtier things to do WITH you, maybe even TO you.
I've managed to remain married to the same girl for 23 years, Lord only knows how. She is very forgiving of my faults.
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Norajane said:
OMG Norajane. I shouldn't have come back here after my reply to read yours just now.....I may be late for my next appointment.....
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You might try hypnosis to make her lose the gag reflex, but make sure it's only for oral sex. My GF couldn't take it all without gagging but after one session she could. It needs to be reinforced periodically though.
