girl on top

[BlackJacksgirl]

I could never figure out the mechanics of being on top while......can someone give me some general pointers on how to do this? If I squat , my leg muscles seem to tire....and I just know there must be some way that I havent figure dout yet....sorry if this is a silly question to some

 

[lobito]

kneeling on either side of his hips?

 

[peachykeen]

I have found for me that being on top but facing away from my partner to be more comfortable and pleasurable than facing. Yes, knees on either side of his hips is what I would say - squatting sounds too much like a workout LOL

 

[Wantonica]

I have found for me that being on top but facing away from my partner to be more comfortable and pleasurable than facing. Yes, knees on either side of his hips is what I would say - squatting sounds too much like a workout LOL

Peachy, if you find facing away while being on top more pleasurable than facing, you MUST try it while squatting!!

Seroiusly, I start out kneeling, but always go to a squat, as it allows for such a better stroke. It is a workout, but I've found that keeping up on my walks and the step machine helps this a lot. It also takes the burn off your legs if you have something to support your arms, a headboard for example. Have fun!

Happy day,
Lascivious Wanton

 

[Chicklet]

I could never figure out the mechanics of being on top while......can someone give me some general pointers on how to do this? If I squat , my leg muscles seem to tire....and I just know there must be some way that I havent figure dout yet....sorry if this is a silly question to some

okay here's my suggestion

in the squatting position you can lean over your man's body with your arms on either side, supporting your own weight on your arms as well as your legs. when your legs start to cramp you can straighten them while remaining firmly planted on his dick, and move yourself with your arms. between arms and legs you should be able to do this for quite a while.

sitting up is the part that hurts the most for me, hurts my legs and indeed hurts my inner body. the solution is to only do that in bouts of excitement, which will also make your man more grateful towards those actions and desire you all the more.

it's more exercise for the one on top for a reason = )

good luck
Chicklet

 

[BlackJacksgirl]

ok, thanks so much for these tips so far

I get the kneeling part but how you you raise up enough from the base of the shaft to a good distance up? Am I making sense? I could do the kneeling thing but Im not rising up enough I dont think......maybe I need to put some books under my knees to lift me up to begin with ;-)

When you face away...where are your arms?

thanks

 

[deliciously_naughty]

ok, thanks so much for these tips so far

I get the kneeling part but how you you raise up enough from the base of the shaft to a good distance up? Am I making sense? I could do the kneeling thing but Im not rising up enough I dont think......maybe I need to put some books under my knees to lift me up to begin with ;-)

When you face away...where are your arms?

thanks

when I'm riding a guy I'm kneeling so that my knees are on either side of his hips...this puts me in the position to take all of him into me. from there, I mostly rock my hips...if you move your hips enough, it provides the friction you need. leaning forward to kiss your lover also slides you off his cock some.

when I face away, my hands are on my thighs.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

ok, thanks so much for these tips so far

I get the kneeling part but how you you raise up enough from the base of the shaft to a good distance up? Am I making sense? I could do the kneeling thing but Im not rising up enough I dont think......maybe I need to put some books under my knees to lift me up to begin with ;-)

When you face away...where are your arms?

thanks

if you kneel and rest your body on his, that is your starting position. THen raise yourself until you're in a kneeling-up pisition.. y'know with your knees at right angles on the bed, and your legs straight, down to the knee. Repeating that.. up, down, etc is a great way to get good penetration. I also find that sometimes, if that gets too tiring, I lean over him with my arms beside his head, and my body against his, sliding first up his body then down it....

 

[Valcorie]

ok, thanks so much for these tips so far

I get the kneeling part but how you you raise up enough from the base of the shaft to a good distance up? Am I making sense? I could do the kneeling thing but Im not rising up enough I dont think......maybe I need to put some books under my knees to lift me up to begin with ;-)

When you face away...where are your arms?

thanks

If you kneel, try kneeling in a sitting on your toes position. It does give you a little more leverage. Also, if you rock forwards, you can contoll the rythym and how much of him penitrates while getting a little clit stimulation from rubbing. If you move more forward than up, it is easier on your legs. Straight up in my opinion does not do very much for me.

Just expirement with it. Talk to your partner while you try things out ask what he likes, if anything in particular is better. You will find your own style. Just remember there are no 'wrong' ways. Some just feel better than others.

 

[Valcorie]

a little more...

I forgot to mention. If your partner is not so well endowed, sometimes facing away from him does not work out very well. My husband and I have yet to make that syle work for us.

 

[Wantonica]

Once Again...

I still swear by squatting ( your feet grounded, your knees up) as the best way to gain and control penetration. I think the initial question was how to keep from tiring your legs in this position. While I do not have the total solution to this problem, it is beneficial to work out your legs in other ways besides sexual activity... they become less stressed from lack of such serious exercise (phew). If I am facing towards my man, i sit forward and grab the headboard to relieve the entire wieght on my legs. Facing backward, my hands are on his thighs or the footboard. With his legs in the way, this makes me lean forward significantly, but it is grand.

On this entire note, check out the thread on favorite positions, and notice that most men say "woman on top". I wonder... is this because they are lazy, or seriously because they enjoy the view? I think they get a great view of the action doggy-style, and actually, my man has switched his fave since being with me to doggy-style as well. Why? He still gets an eyeful and I love it sooooo much more. Deeper and harder are key words there. Of course, he has to do all the exercise then. Giggle.

Let's face it, woman on top is no piece of cake, or we wouldn't be talking about it. The porn girls only have to do it for a two minute clip, we have to go pretty long in real life.

Oh, oh... while we are on this, have you ever been on top and then just laid back? (He is on his back, you are facing him, and you lay on your back and it is almost like he is on top of you, but not.) I love that.

Happy, happy times,
Lascivious Wanton

 

[CuteJenn]

thanks so much for posting this question. I could never figure out the logistics, either.

 

[bharman4102]

well, ladies, i'm hot now! thanks for the interesting perspective!

 

[mrerotica03]

guys perspective on women on top

While my partner on top here are a couple of things I do to help with the logistics and the mechanics of love making.

If she is on top with knees besides my torso, i help with the movements by grabing her hips gently and I move my lower body in rhytim with her. When she raises her hips I move away by pushing my hip into the bed. Since the bed is soft enough it allows me to move away from her and making the stroke longer while her body comes down on my shaft again i thurst my pelvis toward her. this up and down movement helps smoothing out the motion. Guys try doing this fast and you will definatly get an abdominal workout.

If she is crouching on top of me. I use my hands to support her by placing my hands on her cheeks and help her up and down with my arms. It is a good way to increase and decrease the speed of the motion.

A third variation is when she is on top knees besides my torso again, just ask her to lean on top of you guys. Her lovely breasts are pushing agains your chest, and you can get totaly into kissing while keeping a smooth motion. Guys can help by taking your hands and cupping your ladies cheeks and do the up and down motion mentioned above.

to the ladies

 

[sensational204]

I love when a woman rotates her hips back and forth while she's on me, preferably with her knees along the outside of my legs. It feels a lot better than a plain up and down motion. And especially in reverse position it feels even better (where I can either pull her hair or grab her hips and move her on me).

For a great visual of how to ride a guy check out the seventh scene in a video called Please Cum Inside Me with April Flowers and Mr. Marcus. The way she rides him is so ridiculously hot. (also see just about any video with Sylvia Saint in it).

And for a slightly less explicit scene check out an erotic movie called Bliss. Where a woman ties her husband up and rides him. HOT HOT HOT.

The key either way though is to build up to a nice rhythm and do it energetically. Also use your internal muscles (which feels great), and don't forget your hands either. I love for a woman to lean over me and press her hands into my chest. Or even touch herself while she's riding me. Kissing, touching, and expressions are a major turn on during sex.

 

[ReadyOne]

Men liking woman on top

Originally posted by Wantonica On this entire note, check out the thread on favorite positions, and notice that most men say "woman on top". I wonder... is this because they are lazy, or seriously because they enjoy the view? I think they get a great view of the action doggy-style, and actually, my man has switched his fave since being with me to doggy-style as well. Why? He still gets an eyeful and I love it sooooo much more. Deeper and harder are key words there. Of course, he has to do all the exercise then. Giggle.[/B]

We males (or at least I) do some work too thrusting with hips and touching clit or nipples as requested. Ture, that's not very tiring...

But what makes it a good position for me is that
1. it's harder for me to cum while on my back, so I can stay up longer, and
2. she finds lots of spots that work for her and thus has a real good time.
This a) makes me happy, and b) makes her even more ready for other things we enjoy, like anal.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[BirdsWife]

Re: a little more...

I forgot to mention. If your partner is not so well endowed, sometimes facing away from him does not work out very well. My husband and I have yet to make that syle work for us.

My problem is that hubby has an upward curve. While it is great for rubbing my g-spot in face to face positions, the drawback is that any position where I face away from him is uncomfortable. The thought of doing it doggie style or reverse cowgirl is a turn-on, but the reality of it just doesn't do it for me.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I always thought when it was girl on top it was for her benefit - not his. I usually use that time to pleasure myself. lol But that being done I like to do the squat thing. I place my hands on his chest for support. That's HIS favorite! Nothing but my hands and pussy touching him. With all the previous going on it doesn't usually take him too long to finish. But if I get a cramp - hey its just a reason to search out another position!

 

[Wantonica]

I always thought when it was girl on top it was for her benefit - not his. I usually use that time to pleasure myself. lol But that being done I like to do the squat thing. I place my hands on his chest for support. That's HIS favorite! Nothing but my hands and pussy touching him. With all the previous going on it doesn't usually take him too long to finish. But if I get a cramp - hey its just a reason to search out another position!

Uh-oh, not that cramp quirk again. Just teasing, that is usually when I'm most likely to get a cramp as well.

Smiles,
Lascivious Wanton

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Hate those cramps! ouch! Stretching is a very good idea before hand.

 

[mrerotica03]

cure for cramps

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Originally posted by crazybbwgirl
I always thought when it was girl on top it was for her benefit - not his. I usually use that time to pleasure myself. lol But that being done I like to do the squat thing. I place my hands on his chest for support. That's HIS favorite! Nothing but my hands and pussy touching him. With all the previous going on it doesn't usually take him too long to finish. But if I get a cramp - hey its just a reason to search out another position!


On a serious note, this might help you with your cramps. Try to eat a least one yellow banana a day, until you don't get the cramps while straining your muscles. Then you are good with one yellow banana every other day or less, it’s different for each person.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I've heard about that - potassium is supposed to ease legs cramps. Hmmm, I'll have to try it. Now if I could only have access to my lover daily to see how well the bananas were working! lol

 

[sexplorer35]

A couple of thoughts ... when my SO is straddling my hips, she used to ask me (now I just do it) to curl my knees up some behind her. I have to admit, I've never asked her why she likes this ... the important thing to me is that she does. Also, with her being on top she has more control, and I can usually last as long as she wants me to. Finally, she loves having her nipples sucked and played with during sex, and being on the bottom frees my hands to caress, pinch or whatever she likes. Sometimes she just wants to lean forward and gently rub her nipples against my chest. I always want to please her, but me being on the bottom is definitely more about her pleasure than my own.

 

[goodgirl79]

heres a suggestion....have him seated in a chair or something similar, and sit on top of him...facing the same way...your feet should touch the ground. (otherwise the point of this position is useless). and bounce up and down on him....using your feet. i find this easier than squatting on the bed because its not as intense of a workout. its usually helpful if the guy grabs your hips and guides you up and down.

i rub my clit while doing this position...usually good for an intense orgasm.

good luck!