Girls, how to get the confidence to wear bikinis?

[aluv]

FORGET THE BIKINIwith your beautiful body just go to a nude beach
keep thinking sasy and sexy and what ever you wear will look awesome and sexy

 

[Baudie]

Okay, so when I read your original message I figured you were like most of us, a person with a less-than-impressive body, trying to feel comfortable on the beach among a bunch of sexy bods. I know that when I take myself to the beach, it doesn't matter how many fatter, more out-of-shape folks there are, I always tend to compare with the hard-bodies, and am always self-conscious to one degree or another.

So then I jumped to your photo thread. Paradigms and pre-conceptions demolished. What an incredible bikini body you have! Time to reorient my thinking. I have to remind myself that the beach is full of body-confident folks of all shapes and sizes, and insecurities are not proportionate to realities, but to self-image and self-confidence.

So all my blathering aside, I will say I understand how you feel, but am certain there won't be a single person on the beach thinking anything negative about you in a bikini. Take it easy. Perhaps start with your bikini under an oversized tee and/or beach wrap. Take it step by step or take the plunge all at once, whatever feels right for you. I only wish I could be there.

 

[loveroflove]

i don't know really but i am doing to throw my little problem in here since it pertains to bathing suites. i have a birthmark that looks like a bruise and so i do not like showing it off because it gets more noticeable when i am in icey water, i like to wear bathing suites that have skirts and i find a lot that are very pretty. i think i am going to slowly see about wearing a swim suit like this http://s3.hubimg.com/u/6111286_f520.jpg since it has the skirt

but i would take it slow maybe a bathing suit cover-up? i use to be scared to even wear regular bathing suits with no skirt! (i am also big so..yea) i would wear a cover-up and when NO ONE except the lifeguard) was around i would take it off (the lifeguard was cute not cool!) but with a bikini i would try something like this http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-thing?.out=jpg&size=l&tid=18631550 it is see though and yet you feel as though you are wearing a dress it makes your confidence go up! really! i use to wear baggy shirts and now i am in tight shirts though a little something make me feel like i am in my baggy shirts (they are comfy what can i say no one can see me!)

 

[loveroflove]

https://encrypted-tbn1.google.com/i...MRMSfhrSDsvcn5YPivNg6RbnPeUHHq0UJiNCmsmSHX5bw you could try this too it is like a swimsuit though a little see though

 

[Aurantica]

Try wearing it around the house, outside as you do yardwork etc. Then go to the beach or pool with it when you're ready. I saw a girl in one at the mall yesterday and no-one seemed to care.

I've had issues with this too, and for me it really helped to get used to wearing more revealing clothing as I did ordinary things around the house.

 

[newlegz]

Remember what Tifani said:

The greatest thing about going to a beach on holiday is that nobody knows you...

No one knows you, you'll probably never see the other people on the beach again.

There's a cliche that goes, "mind over matter, I dont mind, and they dont matter." Try and convince yourself that these strangers and their opinions dont matter. Besides, its not like they'll all be coming up to you to say mean things. So just imagine they all think you're super hot but are just too shy to approach.

 

[loveroflove]

Remember what Tifani said:


No one knows you, you'll probably never see the other people on the beach again.

There's a cliche that goes, "mind over matter, I dont mind, and they dont matter." Try and convince yourself that these strangers and their opinions dont matter. Besides, its not like they'll all be coming up to you to say mean things. So just imagine they all think you're super hot but are just too shy to approach.

yea you just might have the men *and wome* that come up to you and flirt with you!

 

[Miss_Ali]

Bikini

Find one that flatters your shape and just do it! Love your body!!!!!!

 

[titsnnipples]

Shop around and buy a couple; then buy a sarong or a coverup. If you get nervous you can just throw that over your bikini. Don't be nervous just have fun.

 

[Ginger41]

Try plenty of them on. Get one that fits and is comfortable! If it fits good and feels good, then you will feel good in it. Then remember, the people that see you in in will probably never see you again so who cares what anyone thinks.