got a girl coming over

[rsmt]

well this girl is coming over to study for our bio exam, now i really want to study but i was hoping after i get that done we might mess around a bit.

Now i was just wondering what might be done to get the mood set right for her to think the same way as me.
I am taking a shot in the dark with this, but i would really like it to work.

Any info would be nice.

Thanx
R

 

[Voodoo Child]

music wud prob be one of the least obvious to her that ur tryin sumthing but if there is one of those silences where your thinkin about kissin her, it does help set the mood.
you could have a drink after u's are finished studyin and once she's loosened up a bit, start talkin about things that could lead to her thinkin about u as maybe more than a friend.
that's all i can think of to get the mood where you want it to

 

[SweetErika]

You could try flirting a little bit during the study session and if you get a good response, when you're done studying, ask her if she'd like a back massage. I'd suggest she sits (not lay down) while you do this. If she says yes, gauge her reaction when you're giving it, and maybe you can move into something more (e.g. start caressing her neck). Just don't be pushy. Good luck!

 

[rsmt]

i was thinking about games we use to play when we were younger, and bring up truth or dare. ask her if she wanted to play for old times sake. and see where that goes

 

[Willing and Unsure]

that's a bit high school-ish. I say go for the back rub idea. every girl loves getting one of those.

 

[rsmt]

that's a bit high school-ish. I say go for the back rub idea. every girl loves getting one of those.

so what do i point blank ask her if she wants a back rub? how do i go about it?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

just follow like SweetErika posted. it's a great idea. and it would open the door a bit for you when you're all done studying.

 

[rsmt]

just follow like SweetErika posted. it's a great idea. and it would open the door a bit for you when you're all done studying.

yea flirting is not my strong point

 

[Kissophile]

so what do i point blank ask her if she wants a back rub? how do i go about it?

You could go for the high bar this way:

You: "I don't know about you, but cramming like this always makes me tense in the back and shoulders."

She: "Yeah, I know what you mean."

You: "I give a pretty good shoulder rub. Would you like one?"

The thing is, it just doesn't pay to get cute when you're trying to get a little more friendly. Just be yourself and make it clear you'd like to be more than her study buddy. Let her reaction be your guide.

 

[rsmt]

what if she offers to give me one?

keep the advice coming

 

[dollface007]

OMG...

I MUST save you from the disaster of offering this girl a backrub during your "study" session. The "back rub" move is the mark of a desperate man who doesn't have the balls to say, "I think you're hot. Wanna fool around?" I can smell cheese from a mile away, and the backrub is the limburger of all unsophisticated college-guy moves.

Now, if you actually know this girl really well, as in, you hang out together frequently, outside the context of biology class, you should be able to move into a touching-context pretty easily. If you have to offer a backrub, it means that you've not previously crossed into each other's personal space and it will just be creepy.

I personally think you should wait to make your move another time. Why don't you ask her if she wants to go out to celebrate AFTER the exam. You can suggest this during your study session or after the exam...whatever you're more comfortable with. This would be smoother and much less awkward.

 

[blue112]

bud it all sounds like good ideas, just dont get too self conscious about gauging her reaction, have fun with it
cheesy but accurate, be in the moment and see where it leads

 

[SweetErika]

OMG...

I MUST save you from the disaster of offering this girl a backrub during your "study" session. The "back rub" move is the mark of a desperate man who doesn't have the balls to say, "I think you're hot. Wanna fool around?" I can smell cheese from a mile away, and the backrub is the limburger of all unsophisticated college-guy moves.

Now, if you actually know this girl really well, as in, you hang out together frequently, outside the context of biology class, you should be able to move into a touching-context pretty easily. If you have to offer a backrub, it means that you've not previously crossed into each other's personal space and it will just be creepy.

I personally think you should wait to make your move another time. Why don't you ask her if she wants to go out to celebrate AFTER the exam. You can suggest this during your study session or after the exam...whatever you're more comfortable with. This would be smoother and much less awkward.

You're absolutely right, Dollface. The reason I suggested backrub is that it gives both people the opportunity to opt-out and save face (especially the girl...if she's not interested, all she has to say is "no thanks" or "maybe another time"). It's likely not the best way to go about it, but I wouldn't think less of a guy who offered.

 

[rsmt]

OMG...

I MUST save you from the disaster of offering this girl a backrub during your "study" session. The "back rub" move is the mark of a desperate man who doesn't have the balls to say, "I think you're hot. Wanna fool around?" I can smell cheese from a mile away, and the backrub is the limburger of all unsophisticated college-guy moves.

Now, if you actually know this girl really well, as in, you hang out together frequently, outside the context of biology class, you should be able to move into a touching-context pretty easily. If you have to offer a backrub, it means that you've not previously crossed into each other's personal space and it will just be creepy.

I personally think you should wait to make your move another time. Why don't you ask her if she wants to go out to celebrate AFTER the exam. You can suggest this during your study session or after the exam...whatever you're more comfortable with. This would be smoother and much less awkward.

that sounds like a much better idea.

i was going to have a small get together this weekend at my apartment anyways.

 

[rsmt]

well she is coming over today wish me luck

 

[thrity]

good luck

i guess you could do some physical contact druing your study session. i mean, you could get closer and closer to her, then you could go futher if she gives your a go singal.
i believe most the physical contacting starts with hair fondling, then hand, back, boobs and so on.

enjoy your time with her!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Best advice?

Clean your bathroom! Sparkling clean. Get all the icky trimmed hair bits out from behind that faucet. Scrub the toilet, mop the floor, wipe down the tile and if the tub's too far gone - close the shower curtain. Chicks dig a clean bathroom.

 

[BirdsWife]

Re: Best advice?

Clean your bathroom! Sparkling clean. Get all the icky trimmed hair bits out from behind that faucet. Scrub the toilet, mop the floor, wipe down the tile and if the tub's too far gone - close the shower curtain. Chicks dig a clean bathroom.

And for goodness' sake, pick your dirty clothes up off the floor and get them in the hamper where they belong!

 

[Yeah Yeah]

Re: Best advice?

Clean your bathroom! Sparkling clean. Get all the icky trimmed hair bits out from behind that faucet. Scrub the toilet, mop the floor, wipe down the tile and if the tub's too far gone - close the shower curtain. Chicks dig a clean bathroom.

Yeah, chicks like a clean bathroom, and while your at it try to have the place "look" clean, just straighten up a bit.
Light a candle or 2, but don't over do it, she doesn't want to walk into a place and think all you want to do is get in her pants.

Oh yeah....and hide the porn, some girls don't like to see it.

Good luck

 

[College_geek]

I'd say don't rush things. She may be interested and she may not be. If you rushed she may be uncomfortable. However, for all you know, she's expecting it too and if you go too slow she may feel like you hesitated because you didn't really want to or something. Some women can be dumb like that (I can say this because I am one and sometimes act like that myself ).

 

[Zergplex]

I'd say don't rush things. She may be interested and she may not be. If you rushed she may be uncomfortable. However, for all you know, she's expecting it too and if you go too slow she may feel like you hesitated because you didn't really want to or something. Some women can be dumb like that (I can say this because I am one and sometimes act like that myself ).

Does that mean I should stop hesitating and just jump ontop of you as soon as I see you, so you don't think I'm being shy and don't want funtime ^_~ hehehe...

...end hijacking, and back to your regularly scheduled thread

-Zergplex

 

[dollface007]

So? What happened?

 

[amusedshu]

just play it coooool boy, real coooooool.

 

[flyindolphine]

some nice music, accidental touches. touch and look is sometimes all you need to get you going. dim lights would help too. FOOD! yes FOOD! lots of it

 

[Yeah Yeah]

So? What happened?

Yeah, how'd it go?


...........well,.................. we're waiting