Great Kisser - Great Lover?

[doncarlos]

I have very recently dated a wonderful woman who is coming across as very interested in me, yet somewhat reserved. That is of course OK if it is just a question about letting the situation mature slowly. Since a great relationship for me does include great sex, my expectations for the long term have not been that great.

But I was favorably surprised when our first kiss was quite passionate and, well, she could be the best kisser I have ever met. Is it wishful thinking that she therefore is likely to be a wonderful lover? Or is there in your experience no relationshp between kissing and bedroom performance?

 

[qrayze]

well, I kiss with everything I have, and in the bedroom, I'm the same way. I also don't kiss a guy unless I intend to fuck him. I think a way a person kisses is directly related to how they are in bed. hehe, i just realized that of the six guys i've kissed, the three that were bad at it...were also bad at sex...and also had short dicks.

 

[ScottyS]

IMO, you need not be concerned about it. The best sex is intimate sex, which will come sooner or later if the mutual interest is there. If you're overly concerned about "performance," be it yours or hers, you're going to impede your own pleasure.

You mentioned passion. By "wonderful lover" do you mean passionate lover? What is the alternative that you are apprehensive about?

 

[doncarlos]

IMO, you need not be concerned about it. The best sex is intimate sex, which will come sooner or later if the mutual interest is there. If you're overly concerned about "performance," be it yours or hers, you're going to impede your own pleasure.

You mentioned passion. By "wonderful lover" do you mean passionate lover? What is the alternative that you are apprehensive about?

A 'wonderful lover' for me is somebody with a (potential or immediate) strong libido and an unihibited ability to let herself go. I will take care of the rest to make the venture a successful one.

 

[doncarlos]

well, I kiss with everything I have, and in the bedroom, I'm the same way. I also don't kiss a guy unless I intend to fuck him. I think a way a person kisses is directly related to how they are in bed. hehe, i just realized that of the six guys i've kissed, the three that were bad at it...were also bad at sex...and also had short dicks.

Encouraging post, thank you.

 

[ScottyS]

well, I kiss with everything I have, and in the bedroom, I'm the same way. I also don't kiss a guy unless I intend to fuck him. I think a way a person kisses is directly related to how they are in bed. hehe, i just realized that of the six guys i've kissed, the three that were bad at it...were also bad at sex...and also had short dicks.

LOL. Interesting. I'm thinking that the real correlation is between bad kissing and lack of confidence. I don't think that there's any inherent link between the latter and dick size, though perhaps there's an incidental one.

But what, if I may ask, do you mean by "bad at sex?"

 

[qrayze]

LOL. Interesting. I'm thinking that the real correlation is between bad kissing and lack of confidence. I don't think that there's any inherent link between the latter and dick size, though perhaps there's an incidental one.

But what, if I may ask, do you mean by "bad at sex?"

lol, well, lack of confidence probably was a big part of it. ok, so "bad at sex"...um, the only forplay would be a bit of kissing and felatio followed by three minutes of intercourse, and when he was finished...it was over...for the night. I mean, really?? 15 minutes total. yeah, that's what i call bad sex, lol.

 

[Annabell4you]

well, I kiss with everything I have, and in the bedroom, I'm the same way. I also don't kiss a guy unless I intend to fuck him. I think a way a person kisses is directly related to how they are in bed. hehe, i just realized that of the six guys i've kissed, the three that were bad at it...were also bad at sex...and also had short dicks.

I am like you in that I hold nothing back in kissing or in bed. Although I have found good kissers that didn't have... a good size. But I have found that bad kissers had a smaller size they didn't know how to use. There is a big difference between short and used well, and short, not used well.

 

[ScottyS]

lol, well, lack of confidence probably was a big part of it. ok, so "bad at sex"...um, the only forplay would be a bit of kissing and felatio followed by three minutes of intercourse, and when he was finished...it was over...for the night. I mean, really?? 15 minutes total. yeah, that's what i call bad sex, lol.

Ah, that's a bit more vivid!