GTKY: New to Lit, if talkative

[cutsnakes]

Hello a/All!

It's a pleasure to make an appearance, now that I have decided to stop lurking. I'm not 100% this is the place for this, so if there's a better one, tell me or just ask the mods to move it, when they've a chance.

Let me share a bit about myself and then I'll clambor away.

I am a twentysomething living in a midwestern state with a number of strange habits and predilictions. I have been diagnosed many times throughout my life with a number of mental issues (a good many flavors of the month to be sure) ranging from 'autistic' (I believe the term used now would be 'asperger'-like) qualities to schizotypality to a form of ADHD. A great deal of my issues were cleared away when I made a fumbling entry into BDSM at the tender age of 16. It fit, and if I've learned one thing in my life, it is that denying your instincts and predilicitions is a fantastic way to ruin yourself.

I will admit I'm looking for a subbie to fill my days and nights with our own special brand of pleasure, but more importantly I'm looking to listen, learn and share what I know, have experienced and can infer. I'm not in the least bit shy and love answering questions especially about my thoughts and feelings (narcissistic? Histrionic?). I should say that I'm dubious at best that I could find such a pearl on the net, but it fills with fellow-feeling and joy to see so many here who have found partners; RL in particular but even just online.

Enough said! Any questions, never hesitate to PM me or ask in this or other threads. If I've an answer fit to hear, you will hear it. If not, I may still answer, though obliquely and with the inbred ability to redirect subjects.

Smile, and make friends,

-D-

 

[graceanne]

Hey, welcome. And fyi, don't worry about the whole A/all, W/we, Y/you stuff. I mean if you really wanna, but no one here cares and it makes reading what you write a royall pain in the ass.

 

[cutsnakes]

Thanks for the pointer graceanne. I will keep what you say in mind in future. Always ways a trifle too polite at first blush. And always sort of pleased to have been a pain in the ass ;]

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hello a/All!

It's a pleasure to make an appearance, now that I have decided to stop lurking. I'm not 100% this is the place for this, so if there's a better one, tell me or just ask the mods to move it, when they've a chance.

Let me share a bit about myself and then I'll clambor away.

I am a twentysomething living in a midwestern state with a number of strange habits and predilictions. I have been diagnosed many times throughout my life with a number of mental issues (a good many flavors of the month to be sure) ranging from 'autistic' (I believe the term used now would be 'asperger'-like) qualities to schizotypality to a form of ADHD. A great deal of my issues were cleared away when I made a fumbling entry into BDSM at the tender age of 16. It fit, and if I've learned one thing in my life, it is that denying your instincts and predilicitions is a fantastic way to ruin yourself.

I will admit I'm looking for a subbie to fill my days and nights with our own special brand of pleasure, but more importantly I'm looking to listen, learn and share what I know, have experienced and can infer. I'm not in the least bit shy and love answering questions especially about my thoughts and feelings (narcissistic? Histrionic?). I should say that I'm dubious at best that I could find such a pearl on the net, but it fills with fellow-feeling and joy to see so many here who have found partners; RL in particular but even just online.

Enough said! Any questions, never hesitate to PM me or ask in this or other threads. If I've an answer fit to hear, you will hear it. If not, I may still answer, though obliquely and with the inbred ability to redirect subjects.

Smile, and make friends,

-D-

welcome to our lil corner of Lit! i do hope You find what you are looking for and i know You will find good discussion and knowledgeable people. my name is rose (obviously) i am slave to MasterPhoenix. We've been together for 3 years online, He's come to visit me for the second time on January 23rd and sadly had to leave me again on January 30th *sighs* but it will not be long until He makes HIs move here to be with me for good *smiles* i am 29 years old, have 3 kids who are bra...erm, i mean the best kids i could ask for my daughter is 13, one son who is 11 and another son is 5. i live in a small town in Indiana. i love deep discussions and respectful debates if you plan on arguing a point, i can do that too...i'm submissive but a VERY opinionated one *grins*...ok i think i've told you more about myself here than i've told anyone on Lit, but i guess now everyone knows *gasps* ha..i'm kind of boring and not so interesting for the most part. i do love the lifestyle and cannot wait until i'm living it 24/7 face to face instead of this LDR stuff that we've been doing for 3 years. anything else You'd like to know about me, just ask

 

[graceanne]

Thanks for the pointer graceanne. I will keep what you say in mind in future. Always ways a trifle too polite at first blush. And always sort of pleased to have been a pain in the ass ;]

LOL Don't worry about it, too polite is always a good idea when you first join a group - until you figure out how picky people are about the formalities.

 

[graceanne]

welcome to our lil corner of Lit! i do hope You find what you are looking for and i know You will find good discussion and knowledgeable people. my name is rose (obviously) i am slave to MasterPhoenix. We've been together for 3 years online, He's come to visit me for the second time on January 23rd and sadly had to leave me again on January 30th *sighs* but it will not be long until He makes HIs move here to be with me for good *smiles* i am 29 years old, have 3 kids who are bra...erm, i mean the best kids i could ask for my daughter is 13, one son who is 11 and another son is 5. i live in a small town in Indiana. i love deep discussions and respectful debates if you plan on arguing a point, i can do that too...i'm submissive but a VERY opinionated one *grins*...ok i think i've told you more about myself here than i've told anyone on Lit, but i guess now everyone knows *gasps* ha..i'm kind of boring and not so interesting for the most part. i do love the lifestyle and cannot wait until i'm living it 24/7 face to face instead of this LDR stuff that we've been doing for 3 years. anything else You'd like to know about me, just ask

So is it true? Do parents of teenagers truelly know why some animals eat their young?

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Hi all, My name is MP and I am a subaholilc.... Damn I love those sandwiches...

Seriously good to meet you, bro and welcome to this little corner of lit.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

So is it true? Do parents of teenagers truelly know why some animals eat their young?

the only answer i have to this question is: YES!!!

 

[graceanne]

the only answer i have to this question is: YES!!!

You're giggling, aren't you?

 

[lil_slave_rose]

So is it true? Do parents of teenagers truelly know why some animals eat their young?

she now has a boyfriend, has for a couple of months now and she is driving me crazy with the stories about him. the other day she tells me he said 8 words to her. i said you counted them?? she said yep..wanna know what he said?? i said of course...she said 'i was right behing you the whole time' i said ok...was you talkin about him?? she said no...i don't know why he said it..haha..my thoughts are ..she was talking about him to some friends...and didn't realize he was behind her..and well that's why he said what he said...but what do i know..i'm only 'mom' actually, to be honest, she is a very bright, very sweet girl who has her head on right. she is mouthy, but what 13 year old isn't? she thinks she knows everything about the way the world works but again what 13 year old doesn't? she almost got in a fight on the bus the other day they were going on a feildtrip and drove past my house and she says , that's where my mommy lives (right now she is staying with my sister because of the work schedule i had before the company closed down) and someone on the bus made fun of her for calling me "Mommy" so she got in defense mode and started to argue with the girl luckily the bus driver stopped it before it got out of hand..she has always called me mommy..and she calls me Mommy Dearest ..or MOThER when she's mad at me *grins* ok i've posted enough about my loving daughter...sorry to ramble..LOL

 

[lil_slave_rose]

You're giggling, aren't you?

lol..yea..giggling..though sometimes.....

 

[graceanne]

It's ok, we all occasionally ramble about our kids. I sure do.

I have a friend who's daughter sometimes helps me with my kids. She's 14, and she does similar things about her boyfriends. Goes on and on and on about them. Tells me the stupidest details like they should be the most important, etc. It's perfectly normal, but irritating. I figure, though, that I'd rather she be talking to me about her boyfriends, than not. When she stops I know to start worrying.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

It's ok, we all occasionally ramble about our kids. I sure do.

I have a friend who's daughter sometimes helps me with my kids. She's 14, and she does similar things about her boyfriends. Goes on and on and on about them. Tells me the stupidest details like they should be the most important, etc. It's perfectly normal, but irritating. I figure, though, that I'd rather she be talking to me about her boyfriends, than not. When she stops I know to start worrying.

exactly my thoughts too. i love that she comes to me with the stupid little stories about him *smiles* she asked me the other day what she should get him for valentines day. i said i have no clue..she says, but MOM you've had boyfriends, you should know this stuff..LOL...so now, i'm on a mission to find out what 14 year old boys would want for valentines day....*shrugs*

 

[cutsnakes]

No offense intended to any, but my sister (10 years my younger and my only experience with related adolescent females) seems uninterested in the 'boyfriend' thing. Out of idle speculation would either of you two care to comment on whether or not your daughters (or sons for that matter) are aware of your BDSM...ly...ness?

My little sister knows that I am different from the 'norm' in many ways and if I'm not mistaken greatly knows that one of those involves my relations with girlfriends. I can't help but feel that I influenced her, somewhat, to look beyond what is expected towards what one truly wants, though perhaps she merely has some insane fireball of hormones coming, eh?

with interest!

-D-

 

[cutsnakes]

MP-

Many thanks for the very warm welcome! It's good to find such a hospitable corner on the web!

-D-

 

[lil_slave_rose]

No offense intended to any, but my sister (10 years my younger and my only experience with related adolescent females) seems uninterested in the 'boyfriend' thing. Out of idle speculation would either of you two care to comment on whether or not your daughters (or sons for that matter) are aware of your BDSM...ly...ness?

My little sister knows that I am different from the 'norm' in many ways and if I'm not mistaken greatly knows that one of those involves my relations with girlfriends. I can't help but feel that I influenced her, somewhat, to look beyond what is expected towards what one truly wants, though perhaps she merely has some insane fireball of hormones coming, eh?

with interest!

-D-

how old is she? and no my children know nothing of the lifestyle i have chosen, and it's not something i plan on cluing them in about, not right now anyway. years down the road, yea, probably, but right now, no. they have no place in the lifestyle or knowing what it is that we do. i know they've heard me Call Master "Sir" and they very rarely hear me call Him by His name, it's alwayas 'love' or something else that is respectful enough for me to call Him in front of them. there's only been a few occasions where i've called Him 'Sir' where they could hear it. most of the time it's 'love' 'dear' 'my love' that kind of thing....i just don't know how'd i'd explain the lifestyle to them and i'm not sure they'd even come close to understanding. i do wear my collar always, and my daughter loves it, thinks it's pretty but says it's too 'goth' for me..LOL anyway, i hope i answered what you wanting answered and i didn't just ramble..i have a tendency to do that alot..*smiles*

 

[cutsnakes]

In rambling we are alike, Rose. She is 13 now, but has always been thoughty, if somewhat secretive. We haven't yet discussed it frankly (she always values what I have to say, for the fact that I've always at least tried to teach her and never ever speak down to her, save if I do it without thought). She is certaintly too young but she is aware that I do not have the same sort of relationships that she is familiar with. Still we haven't discussed it, and won't for a few years I think. When she is older I will probably tell her the full story, when asked....

And for those playing along at home that does make me 23. Hush.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

In rambling we are alike, Rose. She is 13 now, but has always been thoughty, if somewhat secretive. We haven't yet discussed it frankly (she always values what I have to say, for the fact that I've always at least tried to teach her and never ever speak down to her, save if I do it without thought). She is certaintly too young but she is aware that I do not have the same sort of relationships that she is familiar with. Still we haven't discussed it, and won't for a few years I think. When she is older I will probably tell her the full story, when asked....

And for those playing along at home that does make me 23. Hush.

*giggles* well being the mother of a 13 year old i do understand the secrecy though, it can also be a bad thing. i give my daughter her privacy, but i'm also glad that she comes to me with such things as her boyfriend, friends, ideas, questions, or whatever. be careful about too much secrecy, it's how i was also, and i ended up pregnant at 15. lol..not trying to scare you, just saying be careful. as far as not telling her until she's older i believe that's a good thing, i dont' think she's old enough to fully understand and would hate to see her try to live the same lifestyle only to be harmed doing so. and by the way my daughter was not into 'boys' until this year....so it's quite normal if she's not. my neice did not have a boyfriend or even care about boys until her freshman year in highschool, and she's still with the first guy she ever dated, and are planning to get married when she graduates college..she just turned 21 last year..

 

[MasterPhoenix]

exactly my thoughts too. i love that she comes to me with the stupid little stories about him *smiles* she asked me the other day what she should get him for valentines day. i said i have no clue..she says, but MOM you've had boyfriends, you should know this stuff..LOL...so now, i'm on a mission to find out what 14 year old boys would want for valentines day....*shrugs*

Trying to remember that far back... damn that was two decades ago.... crap I feel old...

Girls didn't like Me much back then, I was the fat kid... so I can't be of any use.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ah, my children know about my lifestyle choices, but then they were exposed to alternative cultures throughout their life due to me having a diverse group of friends. My daughter bought her first flogger when she was around 15 I think, but now realises it was only a toy type and has since invested in much sturdier and lethal looking toys. She has a tendency to also collect interesting looking dildoes and vibrators, though especially dildoes. Nothing rivals her shoe and corset collections though...humungous they are, especially the corset collection. So while my daughter and I will and have discussed lifestyle topics both on a personal and interest level, my son is the opposite and though he knows about it (especially as he lives with us, and can't help but see the huge cage in our bedroom and all the ropes, whips and floggers hanging on the wall when he comes to help me shift or connect something) he isn't about to talk with me about it on a personal level but will comment if I mention something I have read or seen on Lit or elsewhere. Welcome to Lit BTW.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/173/376615023_c81f9c8c7c_t.jpg Catalina

 

[myinnerslut]

im gonna jump in on the fun.

hi, i have a sixteen year old brother, who does indeed know what type of relationship i am in, but he doesnt need to know the details. my brother and i have always been very close, people often mistaking us for twins, even though i am older. my parents are also aware of my relationship choice, but for them it didnt come as a shock, aas they themselves experimented with BDSM in the past. my mother actually has a lovely leather corset that i want, but i digress. welcome to lit

 

[graceanne]

*giggles* well being the mother of a 13 year old i do understand the secrecy though, it can also be a bad thing. i give my daughter her privacy, but i'm also glad that she comes to me with such things as her boyfriend, friends, ideas, questions, or whatever. be careful about too much secrecy, it's how i was also, and i ended up pregnant at 15. lol..not trying to scare you, just saying be careful. as far as not telling her until she's older i believe that's a good thing, i dont' think she's old enough to fully understand and would hate to see her try to live the same lifestyle only to be harmed doing so. and by the way my daughter was not into 'boys' until this year....so it's quite normal if she's not. my neice did not have a boyfriend or even care about boys until her freshman year in highschool, and she's still with the first guy she ever dated, and are planning to get married when she graduates college..she just turned 21 last year..

Lucky. My eight year olds have a picture of Cole someoneortheother (from the suite life of zach and cody) on their wall. They wanted to put it on my wall in the living room and I VETOED that one. They stare and giggle, and want to wear make up and go to the mall by themselves and all that. I don't freaken think so.

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome!

I believe my kids have some idea of my interests and preferences yes.

Fury

 

[Master_n_Mentor]

Your original post hits right into one of my greatest pet peeves!

Why, oh why do people try to take away the independent thinking ability of those they say they care about. We are all born with the God givne ability to think for ourselves. Yet, we try to drug our high energy kids, we try to give them a narrow path, and we are horrified if they choose a path that is different from the rest of the world.

I remember reading and hearing the folowing:

Definition of Insanity: to do the same thing over and over and expect different resutls.

Well, I'd like to propose a slight modification.

Definition of societal midiocracy: to ask everyone to think only in one way, to act in the same way, and to accept all the same opinions.

Examples:

The world is the center of the universe,
the sun revolves around the earth,
the world is flat, and there be dragons and all sorts of monsters beyond that which we can see - so don't sail around the world Christopher.​

Good Lord. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to such a nice breath of fresh air.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Your original post hits right into one of my greatest pet peeves!

Why, oh why do people try to take away the independent thinking ability of those they say they care about. We are all born with the God givne ability to think for ourselves. Yet, we try to drug our high energy kids, we try to give them a narrow path, and we are horrified if they choose a path that is different from the rest of the world.

I remember reading and hearing the folowing:

Definition of Insanity: to do the same thing over and over and expect different resutls.

Well, I'd like to propose a slight modification.

Definition of societal midiocracy: to ask everyone to think only in one way, to act in the same way, and to accept all the same opinions.

Examples:

The world is the center of the universe,
the sun revolves around the earth,
the world is flat, and there be dragons and all sorts of monsters beyond that which we can see - so don't sail around the world Christopher.​

Good Lord. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to such a nice breath of fresh air.

i am confused. who said anything about modifying the way one thinks??

also, i am a parent of a child with ADHD ..if you think she doesn't need to be 'drugged' then i'd love to see you living with her and trying to deal with the F's that she brings home, the fact that i tell her to go do something and in the span of the minute that it takes her to walk into the kitchen she turns back around and comes back to the front room, sits down and watches TV, because she has forgotten what it was i told her to do! or i'll tell her to go pick up her dirty clothes, throw them in the washer and start the washer, she'll get to her bedroom, stand there for a minute starting to pick up her clothes, see something she wants to play with, write on, whatever and start doing that..because again, she had forgotten what she was doing. it is frustrating not only for ME but for HER more so. she begged me to put her back on her ADHD medication because it makes such a HUGE difference in the way she feels, acts, and thinks. she tells me all of the time how she HATES that she cannot concentrate in school. sorry, but i saw the post about 'drugging our high energy kids' and had to say something, because ADHD is alot more than just a 'high energy kid' it effects they everything they do...and even the way they feel about themselves....and if the 'drugs' will help with that, well then i say do it.