Guys who don't like anal??

[NippleMuncher]

It is very frustrating, especially since my partners seem to think all men like the "get it up, get in, get it on, get it off" kind of sex, when what I really would like is a slow burn. Explore my body, find my hot spots, have fun . . .


It is very frustrating not to receive as well as I give, and I'm a damn good giver! Damn it!

 

[RuReal]

rofl all people are different the wife did not like me going down on her at the start she had a mental hang up about it, but we sorted it out.

I love anal, but I will say while I see the mental enjoyment of a women going down on me I just find that I have yet to have a blow job were I do not need to do the work to get off. Mentally fun as all hell, but physically not as good unless I end up fucking her mouth.

 

[mjar65]

Don't give up!

Hey cutiepiegrl!

I hope you won't give up. That would mean denying yourself something when it might not be necessary.

Maybe wait a while and try again. And maybe find other ways to incorporate your anal fun into the sex play. A nice butt plug or a small vibrator might be something you can sue while he is fucking you ....or maybe he'd like to use those on you himself?

Some guys have hang-ups about hurting the woman or 'shit on dick' ... or think its a cypher for being gay. See if you can get his attention focussed more on the idea of pleasuring you.

Hope you work it out with him.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Hopefully one day you'll find yourself a giver of the not so vanilla variety. http://smiliesftw.com/x/naughtyx.gif

You and me both.

 

[Que]

Who ever you believe made the vagine, got it right.
Anal for me has always been about pleasing the woman in my life.
If she wants it, she gets it. I won't lie, it's a nice change up, but the pussy feels better to me.

I'd have to agree...the girl has got to be really really worked up in in the mood for it in order to be able to relax enough for to be comfortable not just for her butt for me as well. Haha that's funny voice to text use b u t T.

Anyway the lovely mother of my children and I in years in years of trying about everything forget think of would get around this from time to time... girls always pretty hot at the time but it for some odd reason it was nothing that I ever sought out, except in the context of just doing something dirty because I knew she was in the mood for dirty and whatever she's in the mood fulfilling it is pretty hot.

Actually prefer talking about almost more than I prefer doing it... when having aurel sex she is to delight in the fact that always put me over the edge whenever the scenario she was spinning in my ear involve some butt sex usually with some young naif of that she had the broken in for me.

Hmmm...im thinking now those that I must be a funder at least of the idea then I was thinking...

She was my first and only for 2 decades... dunno when or how it came to be that we got around to trying that out.... but I just realized something because it took me a while to figure out how to get laid each time I have so much pent up fantasy in my head the each time I want to do everything with the new girl the first time.

So come to think of it the first 3 or 4 involves both vaginal and anal... the first time that it felt normal in right was with somebody a little more age appropriate to myself who had had a number of kids went for doggy style and then reached back and shoved my cock in her ass. I was quite surprised at the is that win in no lube obviously she was quite the experience that that particular technique and I got off quicker than I almost ever do half the time I don't get off at also come to think of it maybe I am all about butt sex... I may need to reevaluate my sexual practices and even perhaps my orientation.

 

[NightL]

I thought all men fantasize about this?!

It may be about sensation. Here is one way to describe how it can feel for a male, with a warm hand hold one of your fingers completely in a closed fist – that represents vaginal intercourse. Now circle the finger tightly with just thumb and forefinger at the base of the finger – anal intercourse. The majority of sensation for a male is from around the head of the penis. In vaginal sex the head of the penis is stimulated equally from just entering through to deep penetration. With anal intercourse the grip is mainly from the anal opening, there is not the same overall sensation on the penis once it is inside.

The sexual position will also place a significant role in the sensation for the male as well. The warm embrace of a whole body hug during intercourse can be far more stimulating than doggy style with little skin to skin contact. Experiment with different positions, but most of all find a way for you to gain as much enjoyment out of anal sex. Bring a vibrator into play as well, maybe even two. Lay on your back at the end of a bed, have him enter you while standing. Put one vibrator inside your vagina, as he pushes forward into your anus his body will push the vibrator in. I’m sure you will work out what to do with the second vibrator. Maybe not for everyone and maybe just for the odd occasion, but the moment he sees you enjoying yourself he will get in the mood fast.

Anal intercourse can be about an attitude and a deep rawness of sexual energy that a couple may want to play with from time to time. That can have its own rewards which is likely to be quite different than just comparing the sensations of anal versus vaginal intercourse.

 

[shrek100]

I love anal, in fact I love all sex. . . However I prefer fucking a vagina to a Arse 90% of the time.
Anal is great when things a little more kinky and playful.
Try again, what harm can it do

 

[Eilan]

If the OP had been a man with a female partner who didn't like anal, most of us would be saying, "You can't get/make/convince her to do anything she doesn't want to do." Yet some people are encouraging the female OP to give anal another try even though her SO doesn't appear to be a fan. Why shouldn't his preferences get the same respect/consideration?

 

[NightL]

He said it was just ok, and he preferred my pussy.

I don't see anything written about convincing or indeed anything that displays any element of a lack of respect or consideration toward his feelings.

I just read a "how can I make this better?", "I don't understand why he was not jumping hoops" or "what happened - where did I go wrong?" I believe most responders have replied to those questions.

While I totally agree with the "You can't get/make/convince her (or him) to do anything she (he) doesn't want to do." the OP's initial and follow up posts reads very different to "How can I convince her to fuck my buddies while I drink beer" nonsense.

 

[Eilan]

I don't see anything written about convincing or indeed anything that displays any element of a lack of respect or consideration toward his feelings.

I just read a "how can I make this better?", "I don't understand why he was not jumping hoops" or "what happened - where did I go wrong?" I believe most responders have replied to those questions.

While I totally agree with the "You can't get/make/convince her (or him) to do anything she (he) doesn't want to do." the OP's initial and follow up posts reads very different to "How can I convince her to fuck my buddies while I drink beer" nonsense.

On this page alone, I see at least two responses along the lines of "Try again, what harm can it do." I'm not convinced that we'd be giving the same responses to to a male OP. I think we'd be tougher on him.

 

[cutiepiegrl]

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[NippleMuncher]

NightL's comments have been really helpful, espeacially about how it must feel for my guy... ANd I don't want to make him do it if he doesn't want to. I was just shocked he didn't go crazy. I kinda thought I was bad ass, excuse the pun, and doing something wild and he was just plain bored by it.

I never considered that the sensation was something for him to get used to or that he might just not enjoy it! I ASSUMED he would love every damn second. Boy, was I shocked when he didn't. We'll try it again, he is open to it, and I'll try to take the advice of verbally encouraging him, telling him how hot he's making me and see if my heightened pleasure helps him a little more...

Thanks for coming back with the feedback. FWIW, the sense I get is that the problem is more about inexperience on both of your parts than any real reticence on his part. This is why communication is so important between couples. He may not like it and may never want to do it, then again, with some practice who knows. The thing is, you can't take one experience and draw anything conclusive.

Talk about it outside of the bedroom. Lay some ground rules. Both of you should read up on the subject for tips and technique. Then, when you're ready to try again, you'll be prepared.

Good luck, keep trying, and report back.

 

[Somehowyou]

Anal for me is just OK. Sometimes the "Kink" factor makes it fun. I have to say that most times I can't tell the difference. Honest! I wouldn't know it if I was fucking a girl in her vagina or her anus sometimes. I have seen a few shemales and I have done anal with them and loved it but it felt the same as vaginal intercourse to me. But it's all good as they say.

I wonder, because this came up in a hooker forum I belong to. Some guys said if you like anal you are gay. Imagine that? So to some people there is a stigma attached to anal. They are so homophobic that they will not even try it because gay males have anal. It is hard to believe this. I travel to Brail and anal is a national passtime with men and women.

I think more men than woman are inhibited by dumb stigmas like this. It is really silly to me.

 

[silverwhisper]

i think somehowyou is onto something re: possible stupid stigmas/associations: i was thinking the same.

ed

 

[1panther]

New to it...

Have never done anal. She loves it in her mouth. I love it in her mouth. Actually, she loves it in her pussy first, then immediately in her mouth. By then I'm spent and we never make it to her ass ....

Aww, here it goes,in her mouth again ...

 

[man_4_milf]

communication and connection....then again we all dig what we dig

 

[EroticApology]

This sounds insane. Are you married to a bigfoot? Or the Loch Ness Monster? Or a unicorn? Because these are all right up there with the believability of a guy who doesn't like anal.

lmfao....I dated a guy that was turned off from it.