Has viewing Porn affected your sexual relationship with your partner? ..Good, bad, neither?

[NCWSLvr]

Good. I’ve been a porn watcher before her growing up, it has opened my eyes to different things, which she appreciates, and she now watches with me and it has expanded her horizons as well. She didnt watch it until recently, but then I got her to and now she she loves it.

 

[RIPAphrodite]

I’ve honestly had exs that love porn and others that hate it. I’m a sex addict so I can never get enough of porn or sex hehe

 

[OnlyfortheLonely]

Neither. That's a good thing about only having an imaginary girlfriend.

 

[LMWM321]

especially boys, are going to come across it and I’m really terrified of how it’s going to mess with their mind.

I addition, young men need to be set straight on average dick size - which is something porn has definitely misrepresented.

Most importantly, they need to understand that dick size is not highly correlated w/ female sexual satisfaction. AND that the average penis according to the best available studies is 5.5" long and average girth is 4.59. Kids watch porn and come away believing that the average penis is 6 or 7" long which leaves well over 1/2 of the kids feeling like they don't measure up. And it's worse for young black men who grow up believing their dick should be even larger when actual studies show it's not. BBC is a harmful, racist trope that Porn has been promulgating and monetizing for eons.

As a consequence, you have a generation of young men who feel sexually inadequate even before they start to have actual sex. This probably leads to all sorts of toxic behavioral over-compensation.

All this said, I do admit to loving porn. ..But I approach it the same way I do alcohol and junk food. ..Enjoy it using common sense and discretion.

 

[Lustopia]

Has your viewing Porn affected your sexual relationship with your partner? If so, how?

I've try to used porn in relationships to try to advance our sexual life together into higher levels of eroticism. For instance I successful introduced a girlfriend into the idea of MMF threesomes using video porn.

But it has also been a big negative in relationships that were probably on a downward slide anyway. I have found myself gooning and jerking off so much that I was unable to perform sexually for my partner. And you know how that story ends.

On the other hand, my porn addiction has led me to swinger sites & chatrooms in the past where I hooked up with both men and couples for real world sexual encounters that wouldn't have happened otherwise.

I'm an old guy now. I suspect that for the younger generations the ubiquity of online porn is a net negative in their sex/love lives in the same way that social media has a net isolating effect on heavy users.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

The one thing porn has taught me is that we are all incredibly different and people thankfully have an extremely wide and varied kinks. Everyone is and can be attractive but there has to be effort and a mindset that excudes confidence. Basically don’t be lazy and expect to have a fulfilling sexlife.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

If I had the sex life I wished for with my spouse I think it would add to the experience. If I consume porn it turns me on and gets my libido going. If my husband were interesting take that energy and apply it to our sex. Since he has such a low see drive and no desire to have sex the way I like it, he doesn’t get the opportunity to benefit. My solo sex surely benefits though.

I’m the same - could not have put it better.

 

[drobert44]

I’m the same - could not have put it better.

I have been blessed to date a woman my age who has never had an orgasm; I sure fixed that.
We are 80.

 

[ILikeIt]

About thirty years into our marriage my wife told me of a fantasy of her's. It was to watch me have sex with a man. That never happened but we watch gay porn together and it drives her crazy.

 

[Hipshot1554]

If I had the sex life I wished for with my spouse I think it would add to the experience. If I consume porn it turns me on and gets my libido going. If my husband were interesting take that energy and apply it to our sex. Since he has such a low see drive and no desire to have sex the way I like it, he doesn’t get the opportunity to benefit. My solo sex surely benefits though.

Sadly common here.

 

[Billintulsa]

Speaking only for myself, I love porn. I prefer watching amature porn, though; videos pf "real" people engaging in sex is pure enjoyment for me.

Reading through the vrious answers has been entertaining an enlightening, which led me to the conclusion of "to each their own". Porn is certainly not for everyone and before introducing it to a partner (or potential partmer), a shared experience is always best. And one should never expose porn to someone who truly does not enjoy it.

I am single, but I have my share of fuck buddies, all of whom enjoy watching porn. It is epxecially exciting to have a large screen TV to serve as a background to a small group of like-minded people.

Like any other facet of sex, it is all or nothing; everyone needs to be in agreement or it should be no-go.