Have we lost our sight?

[Jada59]

I am dancing to some old songs. Some before my time. Some love songs. Everything seemed so simple then. I know it wasn't. But those feelings that those songs conjure up! Where did they go?

When I read the boards here, I see so many complaints. People who are bored, dissatisfied. They claim to be in a loving relationship and yet? Their other half ignores them or doesn't give them any sex.

Where is the sunshine, lollipops and rainbows? That's what I'm all about. I want to spread love to everyone! Hugs all around!

I want to wake up every day and greet the world with a smile. See what joy the day brings.

I'm not in a relationship now. Yes, I had a failed marriage from the git go but a lot of that had to do with him dropping the ball and acting like a bachelor from the minute we said our vows on. I did try. And then I too dropped out.

Onward and upward! I don't *need* a relationship. Not like that anyway. I'm fine by myself. Sure, it would be nice to have someone who adds to my life and I know it *will* happen. But in the meantime, I do what I can to enhance people's lives.

It just seems to me that these days so many people are far too focused on themselves and what they are lacking. Or maybe I'm just rambling. I am hopped up on iced tea.

Thoughts?

 

[Hal9000_]

Shit happens.

We get up and go on.

Easier said than done.

Where does our power come from?

 

[Jada59]

Shit happens.

We get up and go on.

Easier said than done.

Where does our power come from?

Mine comes from within. My light is always shining.

 

[SissySalina]

People learned too much, they got greedy. Today people express themselves different, have different values, yes life was simpler back then(and harder too) but they were neighbors. Now everyone wants to be independent and on their own. With modern times a person can be the center of the universe, all it takes is twitter.

 

[Hal9000_]

Mine comes from within. My light is always shining.

Exactly.

 

[toeskr]

Shit happens.

We get up and go on.

Easier said than done.

Where does our power come from?

Coal and old paper plates.

 

[Boxlicker101]

I am dancing to some old songs. Some before my time. Some love songs. Everything seemed so simple then. I know it wasn't. But those feelings that those songs conjure up! Where did they go?

When I read the boards here, I see so many complaints. People who are bored, dissatisfied. They claim to be in a loving relationship and yet? Their other half ignores them or doesn't give them any sex.

Where is the sunshine, lollipops and rainbows? That's what I'm all about. I want to spread love to everyone! Hugs all around!

I want to wake up every day and greet the world with a smile. See what joy the day brings.

I'm not in a relationship now. Yes, I had a failed marriage from the git go but a lot of that had to do with him dropping the ball and acting like a bachelor from the minute we said our vows on. I did try. And then I too dropped out.

Onward and upward! I don't *need* a relationship. Not like that anyway. I'm fine by myself. Sure, it would be nice to have someone who adds to my life and I know it *will* happen. But in the meantime, I do what I can to enhance people's lives.

It just seems to me that these days so many people are far too focused on themselves and what they are lacking. Or maybe I'm just rambling. I am hopped up on iced tea.

Thoughts?

I don't know how old those songs are but, if they are from the 1950's, things haven't changed much. There was a lot of boredom and dissatisfaction then, and most girls and women had little or no interest in sex, except as part of a marriage.

 

[Biggs_Darklighter]

most girls and women had little or no interest in sex, except as part of a marriage.

Why you gotta be this dumb, man? Aint no reason for it.

 

[Debbie]

When I read the boards here, I see so many complaints. People who are bored, dissatisfied. They claim to be in a loving relationship and yet? Their other half ignores them or doesn't give them any sex.

Where is the sunshine, lollipops and rainbows? That's what I'm all about. I want to spread love to everyone! Hugs all around!



Thoughts?

I think there are a lot of happy people here but that might not always be obvious in their posts.

Some come here to vent or for entertainment so it is possible there are a lot of happy shiny bright bunnies alongside the whingers and maudlin mollies

 

[MutualMatureMike]

I am dancing to some old songs. Some before my time. Some love songs. Everything seemed so simple then. I know it wasn't. But those feelings that those songs conjure up! Where did they go?

When I read the boards here, I see so many complaints. People who are bored, dissatisfied. They claim to be in a loving relationship and yet? Their other half ignores them or doesn't give them any sex.

Where is the sunshine, lollipops and rainbows? That's what I'm all about. I want to spread love to everyone! Hugs all around!

I want to wake up every day and greet the world with a smile. See what joy the day brings.

I'm not in a relationship now. Yes, I had a failed marriage from the git go but a lot of that had to do with him dropping the ball and acting like a bachelor from the minute we said our vows on. I did try. And then I too dropped out.

Onward and upward! I don't *need* a relationship. Not like that anyway. I'm fine by myself. Sure, it would be nice to have someone who adds to my life and I know it *will* happen. But in the meantime, I do what I can to enhance people's lives.

It just seems to me that these days so many people are far too focused on themselves and what they are lacking. Or maybe I'm just rambling. I am hopped up on iced tea.

Thoughts?

I think there's a key sentence in there: " I do what I can to enhance people's lives. "
Anyone who visits here to take rather than give, as in the rest if life is surely going to face disappointment and deal with anger and frustration.
On the other hand Jada, your disposition seems just the opposite of that, you send out a smile, you get one back.
Everyone, no matter how disposed is going to feel anger or frustration at times, life to paraphrase Hal9000, throws up its shit, venting and moving on is cathartic, then it's time to look up move on and send out a smile.

 

[Boxlicker101]

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Originally Posted by Boxlicker101 View Post
most girls and women had little or no interest in sex, except as part of a marriage.

Why you gotta be this dumb, man? Aint no reason for it.

I was referring to the 1950's, and I was there. Not all girls, but many of them, eschewed sex because they were "saving themselves for marriage."

 

[HisArpy]

There have always been unhappy people, even in the past. The difference between then and now is that today we have social media. Social media allows us to interact with more of those unhappy people than we would otherwise. This taints our worldview.

There are a lot of "cat videos" out there. That one example shows that people are just as happy today as they've been in the past. Yet, all we seem to remember are the complaints and bitch-fests. Perhaps it's because, like the neighbors when they're fighting, the complaints and bitch-fests are loud and intrusive.

The most interesting comparison is that it seems to be the same neighbors in both instances.

 

[ronmcc2448]

I am dancing to some old songs. Some before my time. Some love songs. Everything seemed so simple then. I know it wasn't. But those feelings that those songs conjure up! Where did they go?

When I read the boards here, I see so many complaints. People who are bored, dissatisfied. They claim to be in a loving relationship and yet? Their other half ignores them or doesn't give them any sex.

Where is the sunshine, lollipops and rainbows? That's what I'm all about. I want to spread love to everyone! Hugs all around!

I want to wake up every day and greet the world with a smile. See what joy the day brings.

I'm not in a relationship now. Yes, I had a failed marriage from the git go but a lot of that had to do with him dropping the ball and acting like a bachelor from the minute we said our vows on. I did try. And then I too dropped out.

Onward and upward! I don't *need* a relationship. Not like that anyway. I'm fine by myself. Sure, it would be nice to have someone who adds to my life and I know it *will* happen. But in the meantime, I do what I can to enhance people's lives.

It just seems to me that these days so many people are far too focused on themselves and what they are lacking. Or maybe I'm just rambling. I am hopped up on iced tea.

Thoughts?

Your attitude is refreshing Jada! Life is what we make of it. Especially nowadays. I see a lot of different people from all walks of life.

I visit one of the hardest hit cities in the US several times a month Stockton California. They have a Mayor who has his who own agenda and is never present in the city. The city is accepting and being paid for Las Vegas homeless people to be bused and dropped off in Stockton creating a bigger issue for Police and Fire. Not to mention the murder rate is out of control in Stockton. For all the bad. There are people who are still trying to do good for the people of Stockton. Give them something to smile about and enjoy.

 

[CandiCame]

I am dancing to some old songs. Some before my time. Some love songs. Everything seemed so simple then. I know it wasn't. But those feelings that those songs conjure up! Where did they go?

When I read the boards here, I see so many complaints. People who are bored, dissatisfied. They claim to be in a loving relationship and yet? Their other half ignores them or doesn't give them any sex.

Where is the sunshine, lollipops and rainbows? That's what I'm all about. I want to spread love to everyone! Hugs all around!

I want to wake up every day and greet the world with a smile. See what joy the day brings.

I'm not in a relationship now. Yes, I had a failed marriage from the git go but a lot of that had to do with him dropping the ball and acting like a bachelor from the minute we said our vows on. I did try. And then I too dropped out.

Onward and upward! I don't *need* a relationship. Not like that anyway. I'm fine by myself. Sure, it would be nice to have someone who adds to my life and I know it *will* happen. But in the meantime, I do what I can to enhance people's lives.

It just seems to me that these days so many people are far too focused on themselves and what they are lacking. Or maybe I'm just rambling. I am hopped up on iced tea.

Thoughts?

I'm not about the sunshine, but I'll do lollipops and rainbows.

And I'm really glad that you're doing great single. I wish more people would understand that, that you can just be single and if you get a relationship, it's a bonus. There's no law saying you have to be in a relationship.

 

[Jada59]

People learned too much, they got greedy. Today people express themselves different, have different values, yes life was simpler back then(and harder too) but they were neighbors. Now everyone wants to be independent and on their own. With modern times a person can be the center of the universe, all it takes is twitter.

I think that's right.

 

[Jada59]

I don't know how old those songs are but, if they are from the 1950's, things haven't changed much. There was a lot of boredom and dissatisfaction then, and most girls and women had little or no interest in sex, except as part of a marriage.

That was true in terms of women and sex but from what I've seen IRL that seems to still be true.

 

[bellisarius]

Everything, and I do mean everything, became political. The schools began to accentuate the negative. Everybody (almost) became a victim of one thing or another. What other results could you possibly expect?

 

[Jada59]

There have always been unhappy people, even in the past. The difference between then and now is that today we have social media. Social media allows us to interact with more of those unhappy people than we would otherwise. This taints our worldview.

There are a lot of "cat videos" out there. That one example shows that people are just as happy today as they've been in the past. Yet, all we seem to remember are the complaints and bitch-fests. Perhaps it's because, like the neighbors when they're fighting, the complaints and bitch-fests are loud and intrusive.

The most interesting comparison is that it seems to be the same neighbors in both instances.

That could be. After I posted this, I saw a very interesting video about love and relationships. The man said that many people have the notion that love has to conform to an ideal or ideals.

I can remember an example in my past life. I was at my parent's house. My car was at the shop and I was waiting for it to get fixed. My brother was going to drive me up there when it was done.

My mom wanted a donut. She wanted me to walk several blocks to get her a certain kind of donut from a donut shop. I refused to do it. She snapped at me and told me that if I loved her, I would get her the donut. Well... No. Love doesn't respond to demands.

In my case, she was very specific and told me so. The guy in the video said that most of us keep these demands in our own heads. And if people don't comply like we think they should, we think they are undeserving of our love.

That to me, is wrong. If you love/like/care about someone, then it shouldn't matter what they do. That being said, if they are doing bad things to us or others, that doesn't mean that we have to put up with the poor behavior.

The way I see it, love should be selfless. I just see a lot of people who think they want someone to love them and yet they put all kinds of parameters on it. Like no drama, no baggage or they want the other person to agree with them on everything. That to me isn't love. It's very one sided. To love, we need to learn from each other. Only then can we grow and become a better person.

 

[Jada59]

Why you gotta be this dumb, man? Aint no reason for it.

I think he's right. Now women on Lit are an exception. In my real life, most of the women I know have no need for men or sex at all, ever. Sad.

 

[Jada59]

Your attitude is refreshing Jada! Life is what we make of it. Especially nowadays. I see a lot of different people from all walks of life.

I visit one of the hardest hit cities in the US several times a month Stockton California. They have a Mayor who has his who own agenda and is never present in the city. The city is accepting and being paid for Las Vegas homeless people to be bused and dropped off in Stockton creating a bigger issue for Police and Fire. Not to mention the murder rate is out of control in Stockton. For all the bad. There are people who are still trying to do good for the people of Stockton. Give them something to smile about and enjoy.

Wow! That's bad. We have similar stuff going on in the Seattle area. I just avoid the area. The politicians are the problem here. Not so much the people. Lots of good people here!

 

[Jada59]

I'm not about the sunshine, but I'll do lollipops and rainbows.

And I'm really glad that you're doing great single. I wish more people would understand that, that you can just be single and if you get a relationship, it's a bonus. There's no law saying you have to be in a relationship.

Yes. That's how I feel. I used to have a friend that just *had* to be with a man. She was downright unpleasant to be around when she was single. She was good to her friends when she had a man. But the poor man! Her jealousy and expectations of him were so overbearing that he could never live up to her ideal.

 

[Wings]

I’m so fucking happy with my life it’s ridiculous. I was happy single. I’m happy married. I was unhappy when my first marriage was imploding and yet I knew I’d get through it. Relationships are important but being content with the life you’ve carved for yourself is more important.

 

[bellisarius]

The more I think about it the more I think 'We' haven't lost much at all. I do think the pop culture has gone off the rails trying to out do one another.

There are still fun and uplifting songs out there, mostly in the country genre, but they're out there.

I also think that relying on others to tell us what love is or isn't has led to more failed relationships than you can shake a stick at.

 

[Debbie]

I think being positive is energizing and it is part of my personality so I enjoy smiling at strangers and doing random acts of kindness but I do understand that society has become less trusting.

So sometimes I get a surprised smile and a thank you or a slightly suspicious look but that's ok.

 

[Jada59]

I think being positive is energizing and it is part of my personality so I enjoy smiling at strangers and doing random acts of kindness but I do understand that society has become less trusting.

So sometimes I get a surprised smile and a thank you or a slightly suspicious look but that's ok.

Yes. Very true.