Have You Ever Had to Tell...

[HeyItsDani]

someone you're having sex with to stop doing something, either because they were doing something you didn't like, didn't want to do, or they just weren't doing it right?

EDIT: Just for clarification, I'm not having a problem telling someone to stop something. I posted this more as a discussion topic just to see what other people have encountered and how they handled it.

 

[Monster66]

So whats your partner doing that you don't like??

 

[HeyItsDani]

So whats your partner doing that you don't like??

It was a discussion question, really, and not a request for help. I don't have a regular partner right now.

 

[DrHappy]

Yes, sure. My wife and I try new things out regularly. Sometimes, the new thing is great, but sometimes, it's not so great. Sometimes, something that worked last time, doesn't work this time. We might say something like: "That doesn't feel so good. Let's try somethings else." "That's a little to much friction there." Then we move on. No big deal. Even the "failures" are funny sometimes.

 

[cfuhrer]

Yes, sure. My wife and I try new things out regularly. Sometimes, the new thing is great, but sometimes, it's not so great. Sometimes, something that worked last time, doesn't work this time. We might say something like: "That doesn't feel so good. Let's try somethings else." "That's a little to much friction there." Then we move on. No big deal. Even the "failures" are funny sometimes.

All of those work for us, as well.
"That kinda hurts, and not the good hurt" works too.

 

[Lewisdb]

someone you're having sex with to stop doing something, either because they were doing something you didn't like, didn't want to do, or they just weren't doing it right?

I find honesty the best policy. Just tell them what you’re not liking and why. Try to turn it into a positive and suggest something similar that you do like From a guy’s point of view I can think of nothing hotter than my partner telling me exactly what she wants me to do to her

 

[sexiskye]

Yes, sure. My wife and I try new things out regularly. Sometimes, the new thing is great, but sometimes, it's not so great. Sometimes, something that worked last time, doesn't work this time. We might say something like: "That doesn't feel so good. Let's try somethings else." "That's a little to much friction there." Then we move on. No big deal. Even the "failures" are funny sometimes.

Yup have to agree.

We just tell each other simple as that.

 

[jason28053]

not in words.. I have redirected them or guided them..

 

[BoredinMi]

Yes, sure. My wife and I try new things out regularly. Sometimes, the new thing is great, but sometimes, it's not so great. Sometimes, something that worked last time, doesn't work this time. We might say something like: "That doesn't feel so good. Let's try somethings else." "That's a little to much friction there." Then we move on. No big deal. Even the "failures" are funny sometimes.

What he said.

 

[sunandshadow]

Of course. "Don't bite me, ever, I'm not into pain." "I have to be wetter before that will feel good." "You better make damn sure your hands have no hangnails or sharp corners on your fingernails before you try to put them inside me." "I hate, loathe, and detest having someone's tongue in my ear, please don't go there." I don't really see why it would be difficult, unless for some reason someone was really afraid of displeasing their partner, which is not a particularly healthy state of mind.

 

[silverwhisper]

yeah, i don't believe in being selfish with that sort of thing. :>

ed

 

[HeyItsDani]

I don't really see why it would be difficult, unless for some reason someone was really afraid of displeasing their partner, which is not a particularly healthy state of mind.

For fuck's sake, I wish people would actually read at least all of the original post before responding to these things.

 

[sunandshadow]

For fuck's sake, I wish people would actually read at least all of the original post before responding to these things.

That's ironic, since I actually read the post and didn't say anything about you. I was expressing my general opinion that anyone who has difficulties telling their partner what not do to during sex does not have a healthy mindset. It's about as bad as faking an orgasm.

 

[RAddams]

Yes I have told women to stop doing something and I have been told to stop doing something. Specifically on occasions where one gets a little too excited and does something a little too rough that causes pain for the other.

Talking to a partner during sex is always a great way to enhance the experience. Why wait for them to guess what you like and don't like. I also want to know what a woman enjoys so I can enjoy doing it for her.