Help Me Please Guys... How Should I Finish a Blow Job?

[Ladybird]

Re: AND

I'LL SECOND THAT BUMP AND RAISE YOU ONE..

My goodness, the guru has visited AND endorsed my thread... I am honoured.

Thanks Mr.G.... it is great to see you here, when I've learnt so much from your thread.

Would you let me get you off first as I would just keep building until I let go, your sexy A/V ' s keep me ready

Softey, your wish would be my command sweetheart.

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As for the information contained in this thread it is priceless.

Hello Syn... with a comment like that, I think this thread has been well and truly endorsed now... thank you.

 

[Ladybird]

Ok guys, I have another question.

One of the best pieces of advice in here, is to talk to your partner, and find out how he would best like his bj to be completed.

BUT..... what if you're having sex with a fella for the very first time, you haven't talked about oral sex because it hasn't been appropriate. How does a woman know what you want/need?

Thanks....

 

[Synnerman]

Ok guys, I have another question.

One of the best pieces of advice in here, is to talk to your partner, and find out how he would best like his bj to be completed.

BUT..... what if you're having sex with a fella for the very first time, you haven't talked about oral sex because it hasn't been appropriate. How does a woman know what you want/need?

Thanks....

LB, at first thought I must say many fellas that early in a relationship are too insecure to voice that desire even if it is exactly what they crave.

So the second best bit of advise is what needs to be remembered. Experiment slowly and take your lead from your partners body language and the occaisonal moan he will let out telling you you are definately going in the right direction.

And Guys, that goes double for you.

 

[ldlarry52]

Ladybird, cock sucking technique varies from cock to cock, just as pussy licking varies from pussy to pussy. For me when I am building to my ejaculation I like to thrust into my wife's mouth till I cum.
After my initial release I like for her to firmly grip my cock at the top of the shaft just under the tip ring and jack me hard and fast till I am spent.
Knowing my cum is in her mouth is sexy even though she usually spits. I would prefer she swallowed.
For me the jacking is an important part of realizing the full pleasue potential of the orgasm.
Keep sucking and swallowing and don't be afraid of asking your man how he wants you to do it.
LDLarry52

 

[Synnerman]

Knowing my cum is in her mouth is sexy even though she usually spits. I would prefer she swallowed.

Larry brings up an interesting point here guys. What would be your preference at that point in time?

What would you do if she wanted to give you a big soul kiss and share your cum with you?

 

[James G 5]

Swallow, 9 times out of 10
the remaning times, split evenly between breasts, face, or tummy cum shots

 

[Ladybird]

LB, at first thought I must say many fellas that early in a relationship are too insecure to voice that desire even if it is exactly what they crave.

So the second best bit of advise is what needs to be remembered. Experiment slowly and take your lead from your partners body language and the occaisonal moan he will let out telling you you are definately going in the right direction.

And Guys, that goes double for you.

Thanks Syn, you make a valid point there, watch for body language.

Of course, I do sometimes get carried away... enjoying myself, and forget to consider my partner and what he needs. But I guess we've all been guilty of that.

You know, I really do love oral sex. To use my mouth is so sensuous and sexy... To bring a man to orgasm with my mouth, and to swallow his semen, is something I enjoy because I know how much he enjoy's it. It's a gift of sorts I guess. A very erotic gift.

 

[Ladybird]

Ladybird, cock sucking technique varies from cock to cock, just as pussy licking varies from pussy to pussy. For me when I am building to my ejaculation I like to thrust into my wife's mouth till I cum.
After my initial release I like for her to firmly grip my cock at the top of the shaft just under the tip ring and jack me hard and fast till I am spent.
Knowing my cum is in her mouth is sexy even though she usually spits. I would prefer she swallowed.
For me the jacking is an important part of realizing the full pleasue potential of the orgasm.
Keep sucking and swallowing and don't be afraid of asking your man how he wants you to do it.
LDLarry52

Thanks for this ldlarry, I think it's the first time that this technique has been mentioned here. I've never tried it, but I can see how pleasurable it would be for you.

You've given me food for thought ldlarry, thank you.

ps.. my fella is due home in a few weeks, guess what I'll be doing...

 

[Ladybird]

Swallow, 9 times out of 10
the remaning times, split evenly between breasts, face, or tummy cum shots

Swallowing is the big time winner, isn't it James, but I do love my man to cum on my breasts, and then to make a show of rubbing it in... and licking my fingers.

Guess I'm just an exhibitionist at heart..

Originally posted by Synnerman
Larry brings up an interesting point here guys. What would be your preference at that point in time?

What would you do if she wanted to give you a big soul kiss and share your cum with you?

Ok sexy.... what would you do if I wanted to share that kiss with you?

 

[Synnerman]

Ok sexy.... what would you do if I wanted to share that kiss with you?

As soon as I wrote the question I knew I would have to answer it also.

Although it hasn't been presented to me yet LB, I have not backed away from my partner before when she wanted to try new things and I have always maintained what happens between lovers is for themselves to determine. I of course approach lovemaking with many preconcieved ideas but never rule out hers or my own inovations. I guess what I am trying to say is I would have to try the kiss.

Many times my lovers have tasted themselves on my lips and even licked me clean after we made love. Could I refuse them the same? I doubt it. I might add dear lady, where is the difference between the kiss and performing oral sex after the first lovemaking?

 

[Ladybird]

Syn, I believe that the sexiest thing is an open mind. Because that's what allows us to try new things, and share them with others.

You sir, have an open mind and have displayed that here tonight with your reply.

Sexy Synnerman....... I wish.

 

[James G 5]

Swallowing is the big time winner, isn't it James, but I do love my man to cum on my breasts, and then to make a show of rubbing it in... and licking my fingers.

Guess I'm just an exhibitionist at heart..


Ok sexy.... what would you do if I wanted to share that kiss with you?

I have no objections to kissing after, but if she's kept a mouthful I'd like to have some clue...one lady I was with back in the early days ALWAYS swallowed...She insisted on it, not me
One day she went to kiss me after and SPAT a mouthful down my throat
After I got done choking & gagging I asked her WHY, and she said "Well, I wanted you to know what it was like, to understand what I am doing for you"
I told her if it was that horrible she shouldn't do it anymore LOL
It wasn't the flavor or that I thought it was so gross or anything (heck, I'll go down on a woman after intercourse), but the surprise and the choking

 

[Synnerman]

Syn, I believe that the sexiest thing is an open mind. Because that's what allows us to try new things, and share them with others.

You sir, have an open mind and have displayed that here tonight with your reply.

Sexy Synnerman....... I wish.

Pretty lady, I don't have a smart come back for that post so I will just say thanks, I am honored that you find it so.

X 9,999,999.......It always starts with just one doesn't it.

 

[Ladybird]

Pretty lady, I don't have a smart come back for that post so I will just say thanks, I am honored that you find it so.

X 9,999,999.......It always starts with just one doesn't it.

Yes it does, and the first is always the most important too.

Here's one for you.....

 

[Ladybird]

I have no objections to kissing after, but if she's kept a mouthful I'd like to have some clue...one lady I was with back in the early days ALWAYS swallowed...She insisted on it, not me
One day she went to kiss me after and SPAT a mouthful down my throat
After I got done choking & gagging I asked her WHY, and she said "Well, I wanted you to know what it was like, to understand what I am doing for you"
I told her if it was that horrible she shouldn't do it anymore LOL
It wasn't the flavor or that I thought it was so gross or anything (heck, I'll go down on a woman after intercourse), but the surprise and the choking

Geez James, the lady in question didn't have a clue, did she.

"What I am doing for you" implies that it's an ordeal for her. If that's the case, then she'd be better off not having you cum in her mouth at all.

I'd hate a guy to go down on me, then kiss me so that I "knew what he was doing for me". As far as I'm concerned, if you don't like it, don't do it.

Good sex is about enjoying yourself.

No doubt the lady is now in your past, not present.

 

[Bandit58]

I am amazed really.....there are 2 men I have been with who say that I am the first woman to allow them to cum in her mouth. These are men in their late 40s and mid 50s. I was with my bi friend this weekend and he too was surprised that I let him do that. I love it, even though I had never sucked a cock before July last year.......I swallow, or if my partner likes I let it run down my chin onto my breasts......and always share a kiss after......

My older lover (mid 50s) told me of a woman (around 45) he met a couple of weeks ago, who after she invited him back to her place, stated that she didn't do oral and did not allow men to cum on or in her Now to my way of thinking there ain't a lot left after you take that out of the equation.....needless to say he did not take her up on her "offer".....

 

[Synnerman]

LB, your comment to James seems right on. I have a feeling if what happened to him had happened to me I would have...........

Well, let's just say we would have had an intelligent adult discussion just prior to saying adios.

 

[James G 5]

Geez James, the lady in question didn't have a clue, did she.

"What I am doing for you" implies that it's an ordeal for her. If that's the case, then she'd be better off not having you cum in her mouth at all.

I'd hate a guy to go down on me, then miss me so that I "knew what he was doing for me". As far as I'm concerned, if you don't like it, don't do it.

Good sex is about enjoying yourself.

No doubt the lady is now in your past, not present.

All true...sadly, I've had a FEW bad experiences like that & I now have a real complex about receiving oral...I have to be VERY comfortable with the person and truly feel she's enjoying performing it or I can't enjoy it for long and certainly can't get off from it
*sigh*

 

[Synnerman]

You know LB, I think my question scared poor virgin Larry off. He needs to come back and find out nobody is going to bite him. Even if they tried I doubt if a cyberbite would be very painful.

 

[Ladybird]

All true...sadly, I've had a FEW bad experiences like that & I now have a real complex about receiving oral...I have to be VERY comfortable with the person and truly feel she's enjoying performing it or I can't enjoy it for long and certainly can't get off from it
*sigh*

James, that's just terrible. You're not a child but an adult, and to feel that way shows the level of discomfort that you do feel. And it's all so needless, because it's due to dishonesty from some of the women you've had sex with.

To pretend to enjoy something (anything) when you're not, is dishonest. And there's no room for that in our day to day lives, including sex.

I suspect there are a lot of ladies out there who pretend to enjoy oral sex. Some of the comments I've had from lovers indicate that women who really enjoy giving a bj are few and far between.

Tis such a pity.

 

[nostress]

Ok guys, I have another question.

One of the best pieces of advice in here, is to talk to your partner, and find out how he would best like his bj to be completed.

BUT..... what if you're having sex with a fella for the very first time, you haven't talked about oral sex because it hasn't been appropriate. How does a woman know what you want/need?

Thanks....

first of all like everything else about you LB this thread is wonderfull
now put your self in the guys place if you was having sex with someone for the first time would you want to be asked in detail to explain just what and how you want things to happen.

The first time is all trial and error and sex should just keep getting better and better as you both get to know each others likes and dislikes.

SEX.... when practice does make perfect

 

[Ladybird]

You know LB, I think my question scared poor virgin Larry off. He needs to come back and find out nobody is going to bite him. Even if they tried I doubt if a cyberbite would be very painful.

ROFL!! You are such a bully mister....

 

[James G 5]

You know LB, I think my question scared poor virgin Larry off. He needs to come back and find out nobody is going to bite him. Even if they tried I doubt if a cyberbite would be very painful.

Actually, an additional part of my difficulty is that the first time someone ever went down on me she deliberately bit me to the point of making me bleed when I came
Luckily, my taste in women has improved since then LOL

 

[James G 5]

James, that's just terrible. You're not a child but an adult, and to feel that way shows the level of discomfort that you do feel. And it's all so needless, because it's due to dishonesty from some of the women you've had sex with.
To pretend to enjoy something (anything) when you're not, is dishonest. And there's no room for that in our day to day lives, including sex.
I suspect there are a lot of ladies out there who pretend to enjoy oral sex. Some of the comments I've had from lovers indicate that women who really enjoy giving a bj are few and far between.
Tis such a pity.

VERY true...for many women, it's something to be endured, and a way to "trap" or seduce a man. Once he's "had" it's not done anymore
It's like the old joke:
"Why does the bride smile on her wedding day?"
"Because she knows she's given her last blow job"

 

[Ladybird]

first of all like everything else about you LB this thread is wonderfull
now put your self in the guys place if you was having sex with someone for the first time would you want to be asked in detail to explain just what and how you want things to happen.

The first time is all trial and error and sex should just keep getting better and better as you both get to know each others likes and dislikes.

SEX.... when practice does make perfect

Hello nostress.... what a pleasant surprise, seeing you here...

You make a good point though. First time sex is rarely 'truly wonderful'. It's all about finding what makes the other tick.

I think the best sex is with someone you've been with a few times, and really care about. And then it just gets better and better...