Help me with my dilema

[elizabeth22673]

A male friend and I were having a...um...disagreement about this...What do you think? And why?

 

[watchme2003]

She should always. There is no doubt, because with us boys, after we cum its usually pretty much game over. And even if we are up for more, the lovely lady can always cum again, and again, whereas we have that darned waiting period (at least I do at my advanced age!)

 

[mrtnmoon]

she should. I don't know if I have a good reason, it's just what I've always felt. when and if I do get the chance to be with someone, I try to help her get off first, sometimes even more than once, before we worry about getting me off.

 

[MsTexas]

Why should it matter. If each is out to please the other and the ultimate goal is pure pleasure.

At the same time would be a good option but since its not listed, I'll go with it don't matter.

 

[exividere2]

I go out of my way to make sure she cums first every time if at all possible. My oral fixation comes in handy there. Then she can concentrate on me....then me on her....you get the idea... Actually there are times when I dont want to fuck or get a BJ...just lay between her legs and lick until she cant take it anymore... jelly legs are fun to give...

 

[MSH2]

Okay, all sweet intentions and nobility aside, what I've personally found best is good oral sex first. Me cumming first, Okay calm down in the back there yelling about me being a selfish arse It works like this. After I've cum its her turn to be on the receiving end of a good licking. When she's had enough of that I'm ready to go again. And since I've cum already, the edge is off. I can focus on the actual sex and not on cumming. Or worrying about cumming too soon. Just my own personal experience, which in recent years has been a little lacking, but that's what I found worked

 

[elizabeth22673]

Reason why I asked...is because after my husband cums...game is over. And I often have to grab the vibe and do it on my own.

And when he does try to make me cum after he has...he's just not into it and it's 'work' for him.

Know what I mean?

But I do agree with Ms. Texas...I guess the whole reason for making love is to give pleasure. But just wanted to know what y'all think. I might show him this thread...unless he finds it on his own


by the way i voted her *giggles*

 

[elizabeth22673]

Why should it matter. If each is out to please the other and the ultimate goal is pure pleasure.

At the same time would be a good option but since its not listed, I'll go with it don't matter.

Yes..at the same time should have been an option!

 

[Kylan]

I voted 'Her' and agree with the reasoning of watchme2003 and mrtnmoon.

~ But if I said I personally cared all the time if she came or not, I'd be giving Ms. Texas something to take home and fertilize the wide open spaces of her wonderful state.

~ And for once, I'm not referring to her body.

 

[elizabeth22673]

She should always. There is no doubt, because with us boys, after we cum its usually pretty much game over. And even if we are up for more, the lovely lady can always cum again, and again, whereas we have that darned waiting period (at least I do at my advanced age!)

Will you marry me


he hee

 

[MsTexas]

I voted 'Her' and agree with the reasoning of watchme2003 and mrtnmoon.

~ But if I said I personally cared all the time if she came or not, I'd be giving Ms. Texas something to take home and fertilize the wide open spaces of her wonderful state.

~ And for once, I'm not referring to her body.

LMAO

 

[mrtnmoon]

Yes..at the same time should have been an option!

well... not that I'm terribly experienced but I've read that sometimes couples increase the pressure on themselves and thereby lessen the pleasure when they're too focused on cumming at the same time.

 

[MsTexas]

well... not that I'm terribly experienced but I've read that sometimes couples increase the pressure on themselves and thereby lessen the pleasure when they're too focused on cumming at the same time.

Not true ...

If you time things right and everything falls into place, cumming together is an awesome experience.



~there should be NO pressure for anyone to cum~

 

[elizabeth22673]

well... not that I'm terribly experienced but I've read that sometimes couples increase the pressure on themselves and thereby lessen the pleasure when they're too focused on cumming at the same time.

Yep...true.

How ya doing MoonieF

 

[RedheadedSub]

I have to go with the lady finishing first.... I think it's b/c as many have said, once he is done...game is over! BUT there are women who are the same way....so in the end it's all depending on what kind of couple you have created

 

[MSH2]

Not true ...

If you time things right and everything falls into place, cumming together is an awesome experience.



~there should be NO pressure for anyone to cum~

*fans self* Too right, if you both cum at the same time............... just wow

 

[Kylan]

LMAO

The thing is, if I'm plunging into a pretty woman whom has her eyes shut tight with her head rolling against soft pillows: her full, slightly parted lips moaning gentle cry after cry of wanton debauchery as I delve into her moist cleft with savage precision: I can find it kind of hard to be reasonable.

It's a little like saying to me, "Hey stupid, what you thinking? "

 

[MsTexas]

The thing is, if I'm plunging into a pretty woman whom has her eyes shut tight with her head rolling against soft pillows: her full, slightly parted lips moaning gentle cry after cry of wanton debauchery as I delve into her moist cleft with savage precision: I can find it kind of hard to be reasonable.

It's a little like saying to me, "Hey stupid, what you thinking? "

Oh sweet Kylan ...

When you put it that way, who am I to disagree.

 

[mrtnmoon]

Yep...true.

How ya doing MoonieF

I'm gonna have to take the 5th on that one. lol.

 

[Kylan]

Oh sweet Kylan ...

When you put it that way, who am I to disagree.

Exactly.

So now you see the dilemma that faces all us poor guys, which is caused purely by the wicked Siren's call of a woman.

I think it only fair you should all be punished for being so outrageously seductive.

 

[trent0553]

Maybe it is just me, but my focus is always that my partner cum first, usually multiple times, before any attention turns to me. I agree with MsT, it should not be the end all, but still, that is my focus. JMHO

 

[elizabeth22673]

~bumping~

thanks for your comments. keep em coming


ps. trent, that has to be the best avatar yet. well done hon

 

[MsTexas]

Exactly.

So now you see the dilemma that faces all us poor guys, which is caused purely by the wicked Siren's call of a woman.

I think it only fair you should all be punished for being so outrageously seductive.

Its just part of our plot to take over the world.

~grins evilly~

Oh and get me a cuppa tea will ya?

 

[trent0553]

~bumping~

thanks for your comments. keep em coming


ps. trent, that has to be the best avatar yet. well done hon

Thank you Sweetie.

It is just something for me to have fun with.

 

[littleone77]

It is much easier for a man to cum on his own than a woman. That being said physical intercourse with a woman is a gift, a privilege that she gives to you. We aren't meant to be "taken" like a load of laundry. It is only right that he sees to her pleasure first and is grateful that she allowed him in.

At least in my opinion...