Help - need to be more sexual

[aluv]

men are very limited in the being sexy department it is all dedicated to women I am not complaining about that by any means but when a woman whats to feel a little sexier all she has to do is put on a pair of high heels go braless with a skimpy top and a sexy smile her sexy meter starts to peak a guy would be moron not to notice.

 

[phillyinjun]

I'd recommend finding a qualified therapist to start with, and if ordinary therapy doesn't help, then try a specialized sex therapist. It sounds like the spirit and body are willing, but the mind keeps getting in the way. Whatever you choose - good luck!

I second that. I know it sounds far fetched that they can help (and they are expensive) but some of them can be very helpful

 

[Thefamiliar]

men are very limited in the being sexy department it is all dedicated to women I am not complaining about that by any means but when a woman whats to feel a little sexier all she has to do is put on a pair of high heels go braless with a skimpy top and a sexy smile her sexy meter starts to peak a guy would be moron not to notice.

Wear black. (a black shirt, black somehow affects women positively)

Try going comando...its sexy for men to.

Being sexy isnt about what you wear, its about doing the things that make you feel sexy so that it shows in the way you carry yourself.

Not all women in high heels and skimpy tops are sexy...

A man can turn me on with his eyes...he doesnt need props lol

 

[njlauren]

men are very limited in the being sexy department it is all dedicated to women I am not complaining about that by any means but when a woman whats to feel a little sexier all she has to do is put on a pair of high heels go braless with a skimpy top and a sexy smile her sexy meter starts to peak a guy would be moron not to notice.

Sexy is in the eye of the beholder, and men and women can be quite different in how they see themselves as sexy.....some women feel sexy wearing heels and no bra and such, other women feel sexy after having a warm bath and soaking in softening beads, other women feel quite sexy when their SO simply looks at them like they want them and show the love....some women would read the line about the no bra, heels and the whole sex kitten look and say quite honestly *yuck, that is a teenage boy's view of a sexy woman*....

The key is finding out what makes you feel sexy and what makes your partner feel sexy and play into it (me, personally, things like heels and such are very sexy, but that is me

 

[bailadora]

Here we go again....

Given the rash of spamming, Lady G requested that once one of us reports a spammer, we post a notice alerting other Litsters. Hopefully, we'll avoid flooding her inbox via this method. So...on that note: "Roundkicking" has been reported for multiple spam messages.

 

[LadySue]

That's great. Amazing how being bad can make you feel so good!

We had dinner out last night and I was told to take the lining out of a black lace bra and wear it to dinner. Needless to say my nipples were hard all evening and hubby was loving it! I was fucked hard last night when we got back home.
It was amazing!!! I had the best orgasm last night!!! Thought I was going to pass out!!! WOW!
Ready to do it again.

 

[LadySue]

That's great. Amazing how being bad can make you feel so good!

Being naughty was hot!!

 

[Kat1971]

Being naughty was hot!!

Sounds fantastic. Your husband is one lucky guy! Did anyone else notice your naughtiness?

 

[LadySue]

Sounds fantastic. Your husband is one lucky guy! Did anyone else notice your naughtiness?

I am not sure if anyone noticed or not. He did say my nipples were hard when we went into the restaurant. I am sure a few noticed. I will admit I was a little nervous since this was a first time doing anything like this.
It made it all worth it in the end tho!!

 

[LadySue]

The key is finding out what makes you feel sexy and what makes your partner feel sexy and play into it (me, personally, things like heels and such are very sexy, but that is me

I am finding out there are little things that make me feel sexy like you said the heels. Wearing them made me feel good about myself. No bra around the house works for me too.

 

[L8tnIt]

interesting similarities... may sharing help

My wife has recently found me having sexual online relationships with women who are not her... And it has left her devastated. I am truly ashamed of making her feel that way and am actively doing what I may to learn, grow, and heal from my grievious error.
Oddly enough, trying to be honest with this forum is a part of my personal penance to her. If my experiences can help someone learn, then it was not completely bad.

After reading your opening to this thread, you remind me so much about my own wife that it was uncanny.

Regardless of my motivations in answering this thread, I offer this tidbit:
Include your Husband in the healing process... He will feel even closer & be even more respondant to your needs.

To find out how my situation is & compare/contrast, I invite you to PM me at your leisure.

Thank you for your time

 

[aluv]

Wear black. (a black shirt, black somehow affects women positively)

Try going comando...its sexy for men to.

Being sexy isnt about what you wear, its about doing the things that make you feel sexy so that it shows in the way you carry yourself.

Not all women in high heels and skimpy tops are sexy...

A man can turn me on with his eyes...he doesnt need props lol

I do agree being sexy is about attitude.
Its not how you look in what you wear its how you wear your look.
Some women can walk around barefoot, baggy shorts, a sweatshirt with a naughty smile and have a very sexy strut with everyone knowing they out and feeling sexy, they just have a huge sexual persona about them but a lot of women need the reminder to be sexual and naughty thats where the clothes help the attitude. The high heels for most woman change their walk to a strut automaticly and if they make nose when she walks even better and showing as much skin as possible always raises the sexual naughty level for all.
As for "Not all women in high heels and skimpy tops are sexy..."
I disagree any woman that puts herself out there not being affraid to be sexy and not caring what anyone else might think becomes sexy because of her attitude.
Some people might not need the props others rely on them to get their message out there. I feel there is nothing wrong with that all. We all should Be Sexy.

quote from njlauren
"Sexy is in the eye of the beholder, and men and women can be quite different in how they see themselves as sexy.....some women feel sexy wearing heels and no bra and such, other women feel sexy after having a warm bath and soaking in softening beads, other women feel quite sexy when their SO simply looks at them like they want them and show the love....some women would read the line about the no bra, heels and the whole sex kitten look and say quite honestly *yuck, that is a teenage boy's view of a sexy woman*...."

There is nothing wrong with acting like a teenager. Where is it written that once you get older you have to give up feeling sexy. I love it when you see us older folk dressing sexy and acting naughty. I have seen women in there sixties strut better in 5" heels then some 20 yearolds.

Ladies if you want to feel sexier and look sexier you can never go wrong with dressing sexy. Heels and skin are the way to being, but do it for yourself first because you want to.

 

[bailadora]

As for "Not all women in high heels and skimpy tops are sexy..."

I disagree any woman that puts herself out there not being affraid to be sexy and not caring what anyone else might think becomes sexy because of her attitude.

Not so much. Trashy vs Classy

It's quite obvious both women have impressive racks. The difference? One looks like a street walker while the other is the epitome of sexy, sensual elegance.

 

[Lord Pmann]

There is nothing wrong with acting like a teenager. Where is it written that once you get older you have to give up feeling sexy. I love it when you see us older folk dressing sexy and acting naughty. I have seen women in there sixties strut better in 5" heels then some 20 yearolds.

Ladies if you want to feel sexier and look sexier you can never go wrong with dressing sexy. Heels and skin are the way to being, but do it for yourself first because you want to.

Hmmmm. Dressing sexy doesn't equal being sexy. Dressing appropriate is the key. If you've got a fat ass, that's okay. But don't put on some nasty skirt that shows it hanging out. That's gross.

 

[culloden]

Not so much. Trashy vs Classy

It's quite obvious both women have impressive racks. The difference? One looks like a street walker while the other is the epitome of sexy, sensual elegance.

I was all prepared to say, "Hey, trashy can be hot!" Glad I looked first. You were right, to no surprise.

 

[rnfun]

Sexy is a matter of opinion to each person. If a woman with a fat ass wants to feel sexy and wearing a short skirt that lets her chubby cheeks hang out makwayses her feel sexy then that is her right and no one should put her down for doing it, there will allways be someone who would worship her finding her very sexy

 

[LoveToLurk]

men are very limited in the being sexy department it is all dedicated to women I am not complaining about that by any means but when a woman whats to feel a little sexier all she has to do is put on a pair of high heels go braless with a skimpy top and a sexy smile her sexy meter starts to peak a guy would be moron not to notice.

I re-read this over and over to see if I got the correct gist. I think men can do LOTS of things to be sexy! Dress up, dress down, their scent, grooming and my fave...snug sexy jeans.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Sexy is a matter of opinion to each person. If a woman with a fat ass wants to feel sexy and wearing a short skirt that lets her chubby cheeks hang out makwayses her feel sexy then that is her right and no one should put her down for doing it, there will allways be someone who would worship her finding her very sexy

Sure it's her right. I wasn't implying otherwise. But it's my right to ask why the hell she would do that to those siting around. It's my right to stuff myself into a fishnet speedo junior. And yeah, people like bailadora are going to find it hot, but not everyone will. So, if I'm I appropriately dressed, then I should be ready for whatever weird looks go my way.

(I'm kidding- bailadora finds me repulsive. )

And trashy, for me, can be hot at times. But if I was looking to meet a girl and, on first impression, she was dressed like a hooker, I wouldn't consider it. That's just me and my opinion though. I only speak for me.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

Thanks for the suggestion on the books. I will have to check them out.

As for my parents not protecting me, they had no idea that it was even happening. I was young and afraid to say anything.

Think about it and do not excuse the FACT that you were not protected. Excusing your parents for not protecting you is not helpful to you at all. You were ROBBED of your innocence. The effects of that trauma are severe and long lasting. You are, in fact, fortunate that some inability to enjoy sex seems to be the greatest damage. Good luck to you--not to mention good sex to you!!

 

[mike2010fc]

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