holding his thing

[miam]

I'm seeing a new guy and he's great at the foreplay and the oral sex but when i try to do something for him, particularly oral sex, he keeps at least one hand on his penis.

Although I'm no expert I have been complimented before on giving good head but I find it really hard to use any kind of technique on him as he keeps his hand around the base and middle.

I guess I should talk to him about it but I have no idea how. We have only been seeing each other a little while so we're not really at the intimate discuss everything stage yet and because of geographical distances I'm not sure how long I will keep on seeing him anyway.

Any ideas?
miam x

 

[reader101]

I'm no expert but I'll give a little advice. Just assert yourself and tell him to move his hands. He cant be offended if you tell him to let you do your best to please him unless for some reason he finds more pleasure holding himself than you holding him and in that case he shouldnt have someone has dedicated as you looking after him

 

[emap]

That is an odd problem, I've never had that happen, well a few guys held themselves as I was getting to my knee's but they always moved their hands.

Perhaps he has been playing with himself so much lately that he hasn't been able to realize that there is actually a woman down there doing him.

Next time your going down on him, get him in your mouth and grab and pull on his hand, or if your wanting to swallow grab his hand and move it up and down on him, that way you don't have to do all of the work and he will cum faster.

Though the best idea, talk to him about it, not during but after is always a good one. Heck after and you can ask him for anything and if he has it laying around it's yours.

 

[human_male]

If he's squeezing the base like that he may have problems staying erect and he might be doing that to keep himself hard, keeping the blood inside the penis to maintain erection, just like a cockring. If that's the case he's probably very sensitive about it and would be mortified if you did move his hand and he lost his erection in front of you. Be very careful. Talk to him first.

 

[taolanes]

My guess is that he's scared of going soft. Show him that doesn't bother you, and then just give him an amazing blow job and he will realize there's no reason to hold his cock

 

[SweetErika]

You might also gently take his hands and put them on your breasts, and/or ask him to play with them, run his hands through your hair, or touch other parts while you're going down on him.

 

[miam]

i think human male might be right. i would do the gentle asking what's up but as i said, this is likely to end soon anyway so i guess i'm going to be a wimp and not expose myself or him to such an intimate question
thanks
m x

 

[TBKahuna123]

i think human male might be right. i would do the gentle asking what's up but as i said, this is likely to end soon anyway so i guess i'm going to be a wimp and not expose myself or him to such an intimate question
thanks
m x

I don't think this is all that intimate a question, so I would follow Erika's advice. I wonder if it might not be so much that he's trying to stay hard as that he's trying not to cum too quickly. Oral sex doesn't strike me as a can't stay hard situation, no matter how bad the blowjob may be. Not commenting on your technique, miam, just making a point in general.

 

[petecyclone]

It's possible...

a) That having read 'Joy of Sex', he's practicing a variation of the coitus florentine, wherein the skin of the cock is pulled tight, increasing the amount of surface area with those lovely glans nerves. It's a not uncommon practice that some men enjoy. Or;

b) That he's worried about cumming too quickly and wants to be able to pull away so that he doesn't accidentally blind ya!.

Cheers,
-PC

 

[TBKahuna123]

a) That having read 'Joy of Sex', he's practicing a variation of the coitus florentine, wherein the skin of the cock is pulled tight, increasing the amount of surface area with those lovely glans nerves. It's a not uncommon practice that some men enjoy.

I've never heard of this. I might have to try it.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I just had a thought, and I'm surprised no one else asked this. Is he circumcised? If not, could he be pulling back the foreskin?

 

[Chicklet]

if it were me I'd probably move my hand under his, and sort of take the grip away from him - at least that way you're the one in control of where the hand is. have you tried that?

also, in my personal experience, if i'm close enough to a guy to go down on him (i mean close enough emotionally) then i'm not going to be scared to ask questions and suggest the hand be moved. don't be afraid of freaking him out.

 

[miam]

thanks for all the advice. i've been with both circumsised and non-circumsised guys before and never had this before but i guess it's a learning experience.
m x

 

[TBKahuna123]

thanks for all the advice. i've been with both circumsised and non-circumsised guys before and never had this before but i guess it's a learning experience.
m x

Hey, if we were all the same it would be boring.

 

[bashfull]

Just a suggestion:

Next time, before you go down on him, tell him you want him to hold his hands over his head...or under his bottom. Tell him he has to keep them there or you'll quit. Then work your mouth down to him. Make a game out of it.

 

[phoenix1224]

If you two are up for a little bondage, you could always just cuff or tie his hands to the arms of a chair... It will prevent him from getting his hands in the way (obviously) and add to the eroticism of the act.